How can I ever feel the same way about someone else?

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Last Updated: 09/17/2018 at 11:13am
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aamdna
April 21st, 2015 3:48pm
Sometimes when we're trying to get over someone, it can feel like we'll never care about anyone else as much. I've been there before, but I found someone who I care about even more than I thought was possible! After some time and the right circumstances, you will find that it's very possible :)
fruityIris44
September 22nd, 2015 6:56pm
This question pops up after a very emotional breakup and it is hard to imagine that one could feel love for another being in the same way as the partner with whom you broke up. The key thing to note is that there are plenty of wonderful potential partners out there, each one with their unique strengths and experiences, and you will find that connection you deserve if you take your time and just be open to exploring and receiving love in your life. Just take little steps to heal and open up when the time comes to receiving future partner's love and believe me the strong feeling will return.
Sammy24
March 5th, 2015 9:46pm
In terms of romance, feelings shouldn't be forced, you either see people romantically or you don't, sometimes the spark can take time to form, but if it isn't natural then it may not work in the long run. It's okay to just want friendship, and it's okay to want more, the important thing is you let it form naturally and the rest will work itself out!
Greatlistener87
April 11th, 2016 4:08am
It will take time and strength. But always remember to let go of the past and give the next person a fair chance to try.
MissMonMon
August 9th, 2016 8:39am
With every person you meet, you feel differently towards them. Although the feelings of love or friendship are different depending on the person, it doesn't necessarily mean that the feelings are right to be compared to your relationship with someone else. Every relationship you have is different and thats a good thing, you learn and grow with others and you discover things about yourself.
charmingForest19
December 12th, 2017 4:08pm
I can feel the same way about someone else by finding what their beauty is that we find attractive about them.
kashu510
May 2nd, 2015 6:17am
In order to do that, you have to be open minded to the other person. If you still do not feel the same way, you need to let them know that you don't feel the same way they do.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2015 5:36pm
We all feel this way at some point. No two loves are the same. You can make the next one better than the last. It's all up to you!
lovelyLynx18
June 26th, 2015 2:14am
I have asked myself this question countless times before. After you take time to heal, you will met someone new and you will have the same feelings if not different feelings. You get feelings for someone when you least expect it.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 1:19pm
by understanding if he cheated that you do not need them. you can do better.you deserve better than that.
Bulelo
January 5th, 2016 12:16pm
No; the truth is you fell for that specific person and so long as there isn't another of them then there is no way you can feel the same way about another person. There's a famous quote that says; there are a lot of different types of love but never the same love twice (I am paraphrasing). But it is important to understand that you will feel some type of way about someone else; maybe even better than you felt about the other person! You can definitely love again but not the same way.
LovingGuideStar
February 23rd, 2016 7:04pm
No love is the same, for no person is the same, you might feel more or less for others, but it is all a new experience, and some studies say that you do love again once you let go
AnimalOfFood
February 23rd, 2016 10:46pm
No love is the same, you'll love someone else differently, but happily.
TaintedHaze
March 1st, 2016 6:58pm
That's the great thing about humans and love No you will never feel the same because everyone is different But this new love you are going to find won't be any less meaningful Who knows maybe the love you will experience in the future will be so different that it will surpass any other love you have felt. Don't try to feel the same. Accept that the person is gone and that you have an opportunity for an infinite amount of possibilities when it comes to feeling and love.
blindParadise96
March 4th, 2016 9:24pm
You can't. We can never feel the same way towards two different people. There are different kinds of love/like and we associate them with different people.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2016 5:01pm
Not everyone wants bad for you but not everyone want good either. You will know when its Right. You can shut everyone out .let it happen naturally
Anonymous
July 11th, 2017 2:12pm
it will be hard to give the same feelings to someone that you once had with another person. i recommend just easing into another relationship and it will become better and easier to share those same feelings.
ASilentObserver
July 17th, 2017 6:42am
To be honest, you can't ever feel the same way about someone else. Thoughts and feelings are ever changing. Some times, it will be increasing and some times decreasing. So, it's never the same. With the change in time, interests, understanding, and different other factors, the intensity of feelings change. So, in case if you not feeling the same way, then not to worry. It's quite natural. It is better to accept the feelings and let it happen the way it is.
Danielle999
October 9th, 2017 1:05pm
With every person you meet, you feel differently towards them. Although the feelings of love or friendship are different depending on the person, it doesn't necessarily mean that the feelings are right to be compared to your relationship with someone else. Every relationship you have is different and thats a good thing, you learn and grow with others and you discover things about yourself.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2018 5:17am
You won't feel the exact same way, as the person will be different. hopefully in a two way both wants/ loves you will feel more, and better connection because it is not unrequited love.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 1:35pm
I can say I m in a similar situation. i was in a long-term relationship for 9 years and it just ended um still in love and it hurts so much however I believe that someday I will be happy again I just need to stay tough and not let this break up take over my life.
generousRabbit93
July 31st, 2018 5:45am
you wont, everyone is different and you wont feel the same for everyone because they wont all give you the same feeling
snowflakes
September 17th, 2018 11:13am
This question is something I am struggling with now. Maybe everyone has a different place in our life so they command different feelings? No. Feelings are the same usually, the love, hatred, joy, sorrow. But there are different ways to feel them. With one person we might experience the same set of feelings in completely different ways than with the other. It depends on that person, the situation and how we receive that experience in that particular moment. Maybe you have something better to experience yet. Some better times to see. So don't lose heart. Be your best , leave how the other person is or how the situation is to itself.