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How can I feel happy about being single?

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Last Updated: 07/30/2020 at 6:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
dancingriver22x
December 21st, 2019 5:48pm
Being single is like flying with no one holding you down. You are free to work on yourself at the pace you want. To me, a single woman, i feel free and capable of anything. Being single actually increases social connections and helps you develop stronger friendships with others. You can learn more about yourself when you are single and take time to explore the different aspects of your life that make you who you are. You have less regrets as it is proven that a couple loose the sense of risk taking when together. Many people in relationships can almost vanish to the point where there whole personality is lost. So, speaking as a single woman, I love being single!
bubblyWaterfall76
January 11th, 2020 8:10am
They say you can't be happy in a relationship unless you're happy alone. Happiness should come from within for it to be a lasting one and for the next relationship to be a healthy one. A shortcut to feel joyful is to remember your mortality and to feel love. when you keep in mind that you have a limited amount of time, you'll be able to make better use of your time and not waste it on hate, anger, jealousy... and to feel the feeling of love, you don't need a relationship. You don't need a motivation. You can start by loving yourself, your pet, your family, friends...
Anonymous
January 19th, 2020 8:02pm
By realizing that being single isn't a bad thing. Whether you just broke up with someone or have been single for a very long time, there's nothing bad about it. It's a great time to get to know yourself better, have more time for yourself and to do whatever you want to do. Try to figure out what part of being single makes you unhappy. Is it the lack of intimacy, the social pressure or maybe it is the thought of a past relationship that's over now (if it's the latter, give yourself time to heal). And know that you always have to ability to seek out romantic relationships if that's really what you want. There are enough fish in the sea. But just remember that there's nothing bad about being single.
GiveLove7
January 25th, 2020 10:49pm
Focus on the things you like to do and things that make you happy. Being single means having go more time for yourself as well as other people in your life such as friends and family. Spend time with your beloved ones and show love towards yourself. You don't depend on another person for your happiness! It can be hard to manage on your own after a break up or after being hurt by someone you like so you can give yourself time to accept that and to completely move on. Finding new interests and taking up new hobbies can also be helpful- its what helped me after braking up! Good luck
Anonymous
January 31st, 2020 8:46pm
It's a way of life. You want to live that life for granted. This does not mean that you will have a life without obligations. A single man / woman could be happy because: 1. They have time for themselves 2. Do what they want in life 3. If they want to play with a child, go to their friend's house and play with their children. 4. Go on vacation alone. 5. They choose a company to associate with when they wish. It's not scary to live a single life you just need to know how. Wish you success. Show courage by making the decision and stand behind it. Good Look
Mrweirdguy
February 15th, 2020 8:10pm
Well in my opinion, being either single or in a relationship doesn't matter what matter is that are you able to do stuff you want to or do you think you will be able to do your favourite things in a relationship. If you are single then you are able to explore more people and find a person better suited for you and there is more chance that whatever experiences you will gain while being single will help you maintain better relationship in future pressure by friends can sometimes be harmful to your mental health so I suggest that for being happy you need to consider weather you are single or not
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2020 12:59pm
Being single you don’t have to worry about always being perfect, you can see whoever you want, like whoever you want and do what ever you want, when your with someone sometimes you can feel a bit restrictive and can end up losing friends in some cases, sure it’s nice to have someone there when you need them, someone you can trust, someone to hold you and love you but at the end of the day you would want someone who loves you and treats you right, someone you can be honest with and them to you, you don’t want to go for the wrong person and end up heartbroken.
CalmWaters53
February 27th, 2020 3:24am
One word: Freedom. Being single gives so much freedom and seriously lifts some serious weight off of you. Being in a relationship means that you are being tied down. You have to plan dates and other outings. You also have to explain to all your friends any questions they ask about your boyfriend or girlfriend. Being single means that you have WAY more free time. More time to hang out with your friends and family. Let’s also not forget that being single means you can get more action (if that’s what you want of course, me personally wouldn’t) if you know what I mean. That’s pretty much because then you aren’t worrying about cheating too,
KindFall5330
March 15th, 2020 1:25pm
Being single is a unique stage in our lives. Whether you're single out of choice or not, it can be difficult when we see all of out friends dating other people. But remember that being single can carve out room for some important self-reflection and self love. For example, try going out one evening by yourself to a dinner and a movie. Seem's weird ? But I promise it'll get you thinking. In this stage of life, I want you to dig deep, and find out who you are and literally date yourself. It's sounds silly but it helps.
sofiax9873
March 28th, 2020 1:56pm
know that you should be happy with your company and love urself first and realise that you are the only person you need, and that you will find someone for you when the time is right who will love you like you love urself and who will make you happy but for now remember that you have urself and learn to explore your own self and be happy with what you have for now until that right person comes into ur life and they can then do this all with you, ur doing good keep going and lastly smile ok!
SirJayalot
April 2nd, 2020 2:05pm
When we’re not in a relationship we really have some time to get clear about what matters to us and what we value. And that is the time when you can recalibrate and reflect on lessons learned from past relationships. Being single is the perfect time to reassess who you are and where you want to be in life. What changes do you want to make? What classes, associations, or new attitudes would you like to develop? You now have the time and the ability to focus on the one consistent factor that will create the change you’re seeking– yourself and that is pretty important IMO.
youknowmeje
April 9th, 2020 1:06am
Being single is a great thing! You are free to explore and try new things that you have never done before, and just get these new experiences that you would’ve never had. Being single has let me find myself and have more self confidence! And when you finally meet that special someone in your life, you have a lot more to bring to the table in your relationship. So don’t take it as a bad thing, take it as a time where you are free to try new things and just explore, have fun, and just find your true self.
annagabi
April 10th, 2020 6:09am
You have to learn to love yourself first, and put your happiness before others. In my experience, that’s what it took in order to truly be happy with myself. Love will come when you’re not looking for it, so don’t stress out about it. put yourself first and once you feel happy with yourself, you’ll be amazed with the results. start small, and once you get the hang of it you’ll be happier with your life in general, and will be more than okay with being with yourself. be your own best friend and love yourself before anyone else. you got this.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2020 2:51pm
Hey there, I'm Sara nice to meet you being single is a really normal thing I'm pretty much single just remember there's always someone out there for you ,you are perfect for the heart that's meant to love you, and trust me it takes time and patience, so be happy because there are always ups and downs for being single and in a relationship. Always be happy that your free, and most importantly don't rush spend time with others its not a bad thing to be single it just means you haven't found the right person yet so please don't feel bad your not alone.
soothingsunshine23
April 23rd, 2020 3:14am
Being single really gives you time to love yourself and to really get to know yourself on a deeper level. I think you are able to grow fond of your own company and see where your place is and gives you insight into how you can improve yourself. Being single is challenging because you feel alone but once you understand that you are your own best friend and life partner before anyone else's it kind of changes your perspective on life. When you are kinder to yourself it is easier to kinder towards others. It grows your understanding of life and makes you think a lot more which I think people don't do when they are in a relationship because you are so consumed by the other individual.
richyShiny39
April 24th, 2020 9:15am
To be happy about being single you need to find out that you can only be happy with you and love yourself before another person can and I would work on self-love self-care and self-respect and then try to keep yourself occupied and do things that you could not do if you were maybe in a relationship. It is okay to be alone and if you are looking for someone then do some soul-searching while you have the chance and be glad that you're not into a bad relationship because a lot of women and men are stuck wishing they were alone and wondering why they didn't figure out what they wanted and say one you are not there yet so have fun and I'm sure that you will find somebody as far as now we happy that you have time to find out what you were looking for.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2020 6:09am
Feeling happy about being singe starts with accepting who you are as a person. A lot of the time people in a relationship tend to forget about themselves, and focus solely on who they are when their significant other is present. It is extremely important to remember that who you are on the inside is more important than how you act when you're with a partner. Feeling happy about being single starts with embracing you and all the imperfections that make you perfect. Loving and accepting yourself is step 1 in finding happiness while being single. It may seem scary to be single, but it can also be the start of finding yourself.
Anonymous
April 29th, 2020 4:17pm
Yesterday, I watched a video by Project Nightfall. He said that the movies somewhat stigmatised 'being single'. Either you're a hopeless, desperate,ice cream eater type single. Or you're the "can't tie me down" Casanova type single. However, in real life, being single may NOT mean either of those. You can be single and happy without being Casanova. The person who can make us the happiest is none but ourselves. And if you truly find a person who can share into your happiness, then congrats! But it's not the case always. People often enter into unhappy, forced relationships just because they are scared of staying single. And thus they hurt themselves the most. I believe, being single is better than being unhappy in a relationship. Sometimes, people remain single to figure themselves out. Some remain single until they find the right person. If you're single, consider it to be a breather of sorts for you. A time along with the optimum space to figure out who you are and what you want for yourself in the near future. Nothing can be anymore worthy than that.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2020 1:52pm
Being single is an opportunity to rediscover yourself. To develop interests and relationships outside of your significant other. Every day becomes a whole new opportunity to meet new people, and try new things. You are no longer tethered to another person and that can be incredibly freeing. And getting out of a relationship means that you have learned valuable things about yourself. You have learned about what you like and dislike in a partner, and all the things you love about yourself. This time being single will give you an opportunity to reflect and be yourself for a while, and feel free.
KACOSMIC
April 30th, 2020 2:26pm
The more you know yourself, the better your relationships will be! How difficult is the path of self-knowledge, of self-discovery. We go through pitfalls, sometimes plotting by ourselves, sometimes we don't even notice, nor will we remember them when we stop to think, our life is going on a path without direction, because it is difficult to see where we went wrong, it is difficult to observe and calculate the mistakes we make in life, when our life is not going very well. Going in search of self-knowledge is a good choice so that we don't make the same mistakes anymore and for our life to start going better than before, because when we discover ourselves, we discover the right way to make our life go the right way, we discover the right way to deal with everything, with people, with nature, with the universe, with life in general, we discover that, in fact, we are a universe, each one of us, and that everything we do can cause damage to another person's life, another person that we don't even know, that an act of ours can cause damage to the universe, because we are a universe, and therefore we are all connected with the larger universe, the Mother Universe, the one that emanates from us, and sends energy, the one that emits our frequency, and the frequency that reaches us depends on the frequency that we send to him. When we discover this, we have in our hands the key to the full happiness of life, because we know how to deal with life, we know what we are, how we function, that we are made of energy. Discovering yourself does not happen overnight, there are people who spend their whole lives trying and fail, it takes time, it takes calm and patience, because we are wrong sometimes. Life plays tricks on us, but don't give up, because there is nothing more fulfilling than discovering yourself. If we do not know ourselves, we cannot know others, because we do not know ourselves or our own emotions, we need at least to have this knowledge, which is the biggest and most important discovery in life, because it is what we will use most , for everything, to work, to socialize, for relationships, for everything. “The key to managing others effectively is to learn to manage yourself first. The more you know yourself, the better you can relate to others, from a position of trust, security and strength ”- Weisinger
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2020 12:52am
Being single can have its ups and downs. In order to be happy being single it’s vital for you to learn to love your own company. This does not happen overnight, trust me! But it can be a great thing to have. Staying home and just enjoying your own company is an amazing achievement for people who are single. People who are single can feel lonely at the worst of times and learning to love yourself can help these times better. Before you can love someone else you need to love yourself and this is what you learn when being single.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2020 4:48pm
Learn to value yourself and the time you give yourself. Give yourself "me days" where you do all the things that make you happy. Even if it's eating or ordering from your favorite restaurant or visiting a place that brings back positive memories. You'll learn that you don't need anyone but yourself to be happy. Ask yourself first, "What are the things that make me happy? What are my favorite foods? Which places make me feel happy? What outfit makes me feel my best?" List all of your answers down then go ahead and do them! You'll find your inner happiness.
RebeccaIsHereForYou
May 16th, 2020 3:01am
Immerse yourself in meaningful activities while enjoying the present moment. Break your negative thought cycles such as "I'm never going to find love." because eventually you will meet someone amazing who compliments your life. Don't wait to be in a relationship to pursue your goals and dreams, start now and be consistent. Use this time to learn about yourself and how to be a great partner someday. Learn to love your company, you are amazing and special and have SO much potential to accomplish all of your dreams. Focus on all the blessings you have in this moment. You're so special and deserve love, and that starts with loving who you are.
IngeniousForest13
June 3rd, 2020 5:35am
Many people say that dating someone "completes them". I disagree. You are you; you are whole. You are made of your own thoughts, feelings and opinions. When someone comes along who compliments them, it's wonderful. It may be hard being surrounded by people in relationships but they come with complications too. Being single is your time to do things for you and discover things about yourself and grow. You have your own time to develop and really work out what you want to do with your next phase of life. Even if you have come out of a previous relationship, being single is a time for you to recollect yourself and establish yourself as an individual and get yourself back onto your feet.
interestingLake2164
June 7th, 2020 10:43am
1. Immerse yourself in meaningful activities—and enjoy the moment 2. Recognize that not all your thoughts are facts 3. Don’t wait to be in a relationship to pursue your life goals 4. Use your past to inform—not sabotage—your future 5. Don’t put your date on a pedestal (but go ahead and hop up there yourself). “Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.” Being single gives you time to be by yourself, with yourself. Finally, some me time. This is the time to reconnect with myself, a time where I can talk to myself, debating all the questions and answers that are bouncing in my head. This is the time of reflection. This is the time of acceptance and letting go, which brings me to the second point…
Anonymous
June 12th, 2020 3:30am
Being single can be a wonderful thing! Society pushes the idea that you have to be in a relationship to be happy. It's in the media, in our schools, and especially in Hollywood. Remember that you are a whole, beautiful person with, or without a partner. There are so many wonderful things to experience in life that can only be done when you're single. so do those things and focus on growing yourself. Your worth doesn't have to come from the people around you, but from inside yourself. You are born with worth and value. You can be happy as just you!
smilingsnapples
June 15th, 2020 10:24pm
Being single has so many perks! I think one of the ways you can be happy about being single is acknowledging that you can use being single as a form of 'me time.' Indulge in your hobbies, guilty pleasures, self-growth--and overall, your happiness. It's important for us to recognize that sometimes, our happiness needs to come first before we can share our happiness with another person. Not only that, but building yourself up is the best comeback to fallout after a relationship. It's okay to feel down sometimes--sadness is a part of life, and we need it to experience those good days. Nevertheless, the best cure to that sadness is to turn that frown upside down!
Anonymous
June 19th, 2020 1:04am
Remember that you don’t need someone to be complete. You are perfect the way you are. Being single isn’t the worst thing in the world and it certainly isn’t a bad thing. You are not alone in being single and you never will be. You won’t ever be the last person in the world to be single and usually there is always someone for you and soon you will hopefully meet the right person. You don’t need someone to be someone, sometimes you need some time for yourself and that’s absolutely fine. I hope everything is well, Wishing you the best x
hopefulOcean7633
June 25th, 2020 5:58pm
Being single isn't a bad thing. It's an opportunity to grow and learn about the kinds of things you enjoy and who you are as a person. There are two reasons why this is good. When you know who you are, you know more of what you want and don't want in a partner. The other reason is that when you are in a relationship, you are able to give more freely of yourself. You will be more emotionally available to give your all as being in a partnership is really a give and take. When you feel totally ok being alone is when it's really nice being in a relationship. Work on that first, and you may find yourself in a relationship sooner than you think.
LondynRose
July 10th, 2020 8:42pm
Celebrate all the things that you are able to do alone. Celebrate the greatness of you! You are still someone when you are not in a relationship. You still have great values and you are a totally awesome person. If you still dont feel great flying solo, you need to start showing yourself some love anyway. If you can't love yourself how is anyone else going to be able to? Takecare of yourself, tell yourself how wonderful you are and how lucky anyone would be to have you.... even better, how lucky you are to have you. You are fantastic and you matter.