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How can I feel happy about being single?

302 Answers
Last Updated: 07/30/2020 at 6:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
LeviNotLiv
March 9th, 2018 2:33am
You can love yourself as much as you can, and spend more time with the people who you love. We love you
Anonymous
March 15th, 2018 1:19am
When I was single, I had all the time to myself and I could save a whole ton of money for myself. In order to be happy about being single, you would need to focus less on being single and more on the present and to be more happier, you would need to LOVE YOURSELF.
BubbleGum2639
March 17th, 2018 1:41pm
Being single is a wonderful opportunity to put yourself first and do things that make you happy. You can see your friends, family and other people without worrying about someone else; you can also pamper yourself by reading, exercising, and enjoying your free time however you want to spend it. Get to know what you love most about yourself before you try and love someone else, or let someone else love you.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 6:28pm
Pursue long lost interests. Take up a hobby. Join a gym. Doing exercise is amazing place to start and you will start to realise that you don't have to be in a relationship all the time to be happy.
suchAngel
April 5th, 2018 1:01pm
Love the person you see everyday in the mirror. There is no sadness in being single. Do things you would love to do
SpiritAlchemistAlexandra
April 6th, 2018 3:42pm
You must be happy with where you are at, with your current situation, in order for change to occur.
WMM
April 7th, 2018 11:48am
You're single.. enjoy life, go out, have fun, hang out with your friends.. theres so much to do.. you dont have to be in a relationship to be happy
helenzhang19
April 12th, 2018 2:12pm
I think you have to be happy on your own before stepping into any relationships. So, being happy single is a must. And I think it has a lot to do with your purpose in life. Once you find what it is and live your life according to it, I'm sure you will find this feeling of satisfaction and wholeness and you will feel happy.
oceanblue876
April 13th, 2018 2:32am
There are many greta things about being single. For example, you have more time to spend with the people you love and to do the things you love. You also have more time to build yourself to be a better person, which can sometimes be ignored when your in a relationship.
Vivian4
May 9th, 2018 2:05pm
That isn't an easy task and it take some time to find out how being single can benefit you. You can take it as a curve of being with yourself and taking care of your self and people you love, cultivate things hobbies and dreams and when you will find someone you can focus on relationship.
Stayloved
May 10th, 2018 5:22am
Self love is the best thing in world. Love fades, life dies, relation ends but self don't leave you alone anyday!
Anonymous
May 11th, 2018 10:33pm
Well, you can talk to as many people as you want without someone holding you back, you can openly stare at hot people and you don’t have to be tied down by a relationship x
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 8:04pm
You need to love yourself they way you are, and not let it bring you down. Just think that "If I was in a relationship right now, I would be doing something else, something I didn't want to do. But I'm single, so I can do whatever I want!"
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 6:40am
You can live our life, every moment to the fullest and completely by your choice. You also learn to love yourself and you create a bond with yourself, inside and out.
mvpeng
June 16th, 2018 3:56pm
Being single is a great opportunity to get to know yourself and grow as a person! It also allows you the freedom of doing whatever you want and not having to worry about how another person feels about it. It can be very freeing.
cherbrox
June 24th, 2018 11:35pm
Embrace the love you have for yourself. You can’t pour from any empty cup. You have to love yourself in all that are you alone to be able to love someone else as a couple
Nessachka
June 27th, 2018 8:25pm
There are plenty of things to be happy about when you're single (: There is no reason to be dependent on someone else when you, yourself are an amazing person. The right individual will come eventually. Some of the things you can do are 1. Go pamper yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you! 2. Meet tons of people. When you are in a relationship you can't flirt with that cute guy at the coffee shop you saw the other day! Get out there!
klistener01
June 28th, 2018 4:50pm
How can you feel happy about being single? You can feel happy by focusing on yourself because this time in your life you get to understand your likes and dislikes and figure out what you want in life.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 10:42am
think about the benefits. you don’t have to worry about someone getting upset if you have opposite gender friends. there’s many benefits, that’s just one.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 5:46pm
At first it may seem impossible to juggle being single, but in a way it’s good for you. Spend some time bettering yourself and feeling confident and good again
porsxh22
July 11th, 2018 8:53am
You should enjoy being single! Because you get more time to work on yourself and you’ll also know that your true love is out there waiting!
AskTierra95
July 11th, 2018 7:02pm
Take some time to find yourself. Take that time to pamper yourself and engage in activities you enjoy.
BehavioralAnalystinTraining
July 14th, 2018 5:46am
I've struggled with this in my life as well. It's led me to 2 divorces & a trail of broken hearts. The key for me was to be comfortable with myself. As soon as I discovered a me I liked it became much easier to not seek external validation.
RyGuyListener10
July 19th, 2018 6:15am
Realize that this is a time for you and you only. You now have all the freedom in the world to accomplish so many things. You are free from the worry about what others may think. You can spend your time only for you without having to compromise or sacrifice. You can get out of your comfort zone and experience life the way you want to. You may even meet like-minded people along the way and forge new and exciting friendships, or more.
youknowmeje
April 9th, 2020 1:06am
Being single is a great thing! You are free to explore and try new things that you have never done before, and just get these new experiences that you would’ve never had. Being single has let me find myself and have more self confidence! And when you finally meet that special someone in your life, you have a lot more to bring to the table in your relationship. So don’t take it as a bad thing, take it as a time where you are free to try new things and just explore, have fun, and just find your true self.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2020 12:59pm
Being single you don’t have to worry about always being perfect, you can see whoever you want, like whoever you want and do what ever you want, when your with someone sometimes you can feel a bit restrictive and can end up losing friends in some cases, sure it’s nice to have someone there when you need them, someone you can trust, someone to hold you and love you but at the end of the day you would want someone who loves you and treats you right, someone you can be honest with and them to you, you don’t want to go for the wrong person and end up heartbroken.
CalmWaters53
February 27th, 2020 3:24am
One word: Freedom. Being single gives so much freedom and seriously lifts some serious weight off of you. Being in a relationship means that you are being tied down. You have to plan dates and other outings. You also have to explain to all your friends any questions they ask about your boyfriend or girlfriend. Being single means that you have WAY more free time. More time to hang out with your friends and family. Let’s also not forget that being single means you can get more action (if that’s what you want of course, me personally wouldn’t) if you know what I mean. That’s pretty much because then you aren’t worrying about cheating too,
KindFall5330
March 15th, 2020 1:25pm
Being single is a unique stage in our lives. Whether you're single out of choice or not, it can be difficult when we see all of out friends dating other people. But remember that being single can carve out room for some important self-reflection and self love. For example, try going out one evening by yourself to a dinner and a movie. Seem's weird ? But I promise it'll get you thinking. In this stage of life, I want you to dig deep, and find out who you are and literally date yourself. It's sounds silly but it helps.
SirJayalot
April 2nd, 2020 2:05pm
When we’re not in a relationship we really have some time to get clear about what matters to us and what we value. And that is the time when you can recalibrate and reflect on lessons learned from past relationships. Being single is the perfect time to reassess who you are and where you want to be in life. What changes do you want to make? What classes, associations, or new attitudes would you like to develop? You now have the time and the ability to focus on the one consistent factor that will create the change you’re seeking– yourself and that is pretty important IMO.
Anonymous
April 17th, 2020 2:51pm
Hey there, I'm Sara nice to meet you being single is a really normal thing I'm pretty much single just remember there's always someone out there for you ,you are perfect for the heart that's meant to love you, and trust me it takes time and patience, so be happy because there are always ups and downs for being single and in a relationship. Always be happy that your free, and most importantly don't rush spend time with others its not a bad thing to be single it just means you haven't found the right person yet so please don't feel bad your not alone.