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How can I feel happy about being single?

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Last Updated: 07/30/2020 at 6:50pm
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Top Rated Answers
Arjun0609
August 20th, 2017 5:28pm
Firstly, being single doesn't mean you are a loser, which is kinda myth amongst people. Atleast you are not amongst the ones those who doesn't fall in love and still get themselves engaged in casual relationships which is of no use. Hanging around, roaming around with someone you doesn't love is really not appreciated. I think you are going on the right direction, wait for the right one, and spend the rest of your life with that right one. Think this way, it will surely make you happy!:) Thank you.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2017 7:55pm
Think about things you want to learn about and grow in when you have the opportunity for a relationship! Appreciate yourself! A content you will be a better partner!
Samfoxy91
September 15th, 2017 4:10pm
It's not about feeling happy single or on a relationship the main goal is happiness why do you have to be single or taken to be happy if you are single thinks about all the things YOU want to achieve as an individual set goals and do them, begin to love yourself and put you first
heretolisten37
September 17th, 2017 9:00am
Treat yourself and take advantage of the freedom! Exercise, start a new hobby, pamper yourself. Know that when you start looking after yourself and improving your self confidence, you'll fall in love with being single!! In the future someone will come along and see how much respect you have for yourself and will be the best and most respectful partner you've ever had.....
SpreeSpirit13
September 24th, 2017 4:14am
By loving and respecting yourself. And you do that finding something about you you always wanted to improve. For me i began with getting better grades. I started reading again and painting. The end results made me so much better that I knew I would lower my standards for anyone because I love myself way too much.
JustAnotherPersonOn7Cups
September 27th, 2017 7:42pm
Think of it as an opportunity for personal growth - a period of time where you get to discover your own passions, interests, and truly be selfish with your time. You have the ability to put yourself first. A lot of times, this personal growth slows or stops upon entering a relationship - couples tend to grow together, goals and dreams tend to change from individualized goals to group goals, and even personal preferences on simple things like what you would eat, watch, listen to, or do with your time change to be a group decision. Try to embrace this opportunity for self discovery. The opportunity to share everything you will learn about yourself with a future partner will eventually come.
BetterTogether101
October 2nd, 2017 3:57am
Although it is hard when your friends are all paired off and you are constantly feeling the third wheel of the group, you can enjoy the single life by working towards your goals and focusing on you time and doing things that make you happy. More often then not it's when you stop searching for your mate that they appear in your life. stressing yourself out over being single is not doing anyone any good. settling isnt an option and you know you are single for a reason since you were likely unhappy in previous relationships anyways
peacefulHeart33
October 11th, 2017 9:17pm
Get to know yourself more. What makes you feel really hopeful and fulfilled? What gives you joy? Also, spend more time in developing your talents and skills. Find a hobby. Enjoy experiences with your loved ones. And always remember that you are not alone. You are loved. Live and love well.
Amandamarissa
October 12th, 2017 2:25am
You should remind yourself of all the wonderful qualities that make you, YOU. Take care of yourself and do the things that you enjoy doing or try something new. Strive to do something out of your comfort zone. When you are happy with yourself and living life you'll attract what you put out. The person you've been looking for may cross your path.
MissNatureNat
November 11th, 2017 9:53pm
Be positive, think about your goals, what you want to achieve, remind yourself that you can be independent and do not need a relationship. think about what is best for you.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 4:37pm
By knowing that being single is empowering.. it's better than being in a stressful taxing relationship. And that you'll be ready when the right person comes along. Even if he doesn't atleat you aren't with the wrong person
TogetherForeverAlways
November 15th, 2017 9:36am
For me it was hard, as I am a very affectuous person who loves to love and be loved. I was single for about 3 years till I found my girlfriend. Be patient and kind to yourself. If it's in your cards, you'll find someone, no matter how long it takes. Learn to appreciate yourself before somebody else needs to do it.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 3:10am
Being single isn't a bad thing. It might not seem like it but is has its advantages to like when your single u can go anywhere without having to tell no one or giving any explanations and u don't need any guy to feel pretty because u all ready are
rosie24
November 17th, 2017 4:32am
The biggest plus is everything is all you all the time! If you want to just stay home and read a book you don't have to worry about a boyfriend/girlfriend wanting to hang out. This being the holiday season...you can take the money you would have spent on a silly gift for a boy/girl and use it to buy something for you!
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 8:45am
I always think that not having a romantic relationship is way better than having an abusive or a hurting one.
cuddlyDay48
November 18th, 2017 10:47pm
Embrace all the happy things that you do when you are single..remember your good single life before any relationship;freedom,no responsibility,no attachment & you do whatever you want whenever you want
xenabeeena
November 22nd, 2017 4:32pm
I love this wiki post which helps this question: https://m.wikihow.com/Be-Single-and-Happy Little things like heath benefits and the freedom to do what you want help.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 7:03pm
I think it is so exciting when you are single if you think of it from an positive perspective. Relationships requires a huge amount of investments. During your time of singleness you could use it to focus on things you want to accomplish in life. Such as sky diving or traveling to the Bahamas. There are so many things that relationship may restrict you from doing because relationships requires some sacrifice. (In my opinion)
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 4:47am
Being single is great, without lover, you can still have your bestfriends around, you can have more free time on your own, you can do anything you want. Sometimes being in relationship means commitment and it can be really strict. so be happy when you're being single. Being single is not the end of the world!
palan
November 28th, 2017 6:14pm
Companionship can really be one of the sweeter things we experience so I feel for you, but also if you take a partner that's not really right for you, it can take away your freedom big time and your connection to your true self -- which I think are more valuable that any partner, and requirements if you want to be a good partner to someone else. If you can grow and be comfortable while you're in this period rather than jumping into a relationship that's not right, eventually you'll find someone really wonderful -- promise.
LittleRayeOfSunshine
November 29th, 2017 9:29pm
In my personal experience with being single and in relationships, there is one thing that helped me so much when it came to feeling happy and content with myself. It was showing gratitude. Now it doesn't have to be being grateful for being single, it could be something as little as maybe having the clothes you have on right now. They might not be the best quality but they keep you covered and give you some warmth. Think about the time it took to make that outfit, think about the person who designed it, who had to pitch it to a company, who had to go to school to get that job. See? You can go as far back as you'd like when it comes to gratitude. Showing little bits of gratitude like that every day can make a big difference when it comes to thinking about what you have right now in the present that you feel like you can appreciate the little things you have in life. What I do when I show gratitude is I identify a small object that I keep with me at all times. Maybe my keys, my phone, jewelry, glasses, something that is easy to just carry around with you. Personally, mine is a little bracelet that my cousin made me at camp, which has a lot of history and resemblance to me. I always have it in my pocket (in fact, I have it right now) and every time I put my hands in my pocket or touch it, I think of something I'm grateful for. Maybe for you, it can be every time you pick up your phone, or every time you adjust your glasses, or fiddle with your jewelry. Taking the time to show gratitude is a good way to find happiness with what you have in the present, and I believe it'll help you find happiness in being single.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 2:01am
being single gives you more time to love yourself and better your mental health so that you feel good about being on your own.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2017 12:55am
Think of it as a time you are given to work on yourself. Do what you've always wanted to do, work on what makes you happy. If you believe in the law of attraction then doing what makes you happy will only bring positive thoughts into your mind and positive thoughts will lead to positive things being brought into your life ☄
ChloeKindness81
December 6th, 2017 12:06am
You can save money and be independent! A lot of the time when in a relationship there's stress. When you're singel you have the freedom to answer to yourself and not someone else.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2017 1:33am
Being single gives to independence and if you think about it you don't need a partner to be happy you can be happy with yourself
CreativeJill79
December 8th, 2017 8:27am
There are positives in being single. For example, you meet new people. And you get so many firsts when you meet someone new. That's pretty exciting. First dates, first kisses, first inside jokes. You never get to have those again. Also, not having to share blankets. Being spread out on a bed - highly underrated. That is a luxury in itself!
Anducandu17
December 10th, 2017 3:28pm
You have the amazing opportunity to go out and meet new people! In a relationship you are sometimes tied down due your partner having jealous tendencies or you are focused on him/her. Without these barriers you get exposed to new people and new experiences waiting right around the corner. You have more free time and you don’t have the stress of worrying about a significant other.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2017 11:24am
Realize that being single is better than getting into a toxic or unhappy relationship. People tend to love being with other people they think they are their halves but you are complete and you are not a half and you dont lack anything. You may try to see what makes you happy and try to explore and discover yourself and try to get to know yourself. You are a whole deep world so don't say "i know myself well " and if you doubt being yourself and you think that what makes you single or that you are not good enough .well If you don't love yourself no one will love you .
EmRivale
December 21st, 2017 10:34pm
Remember that you are the most important thing in your life. You must love yourself before you love anyone else. Use this time to build your character, learn what you like and don't like and treat yourself like the king or queen you are
LauraW96
December 29th, 2017 1:21am
See it as an opportunity to grow. You can't give to another person if you aren't whole yourself already. Take the time to get to know yourself. If you feel lonely, learn to be okay with it and do something kind for yourself in those moments when you are learning. The person for you is out there, living and walking this earth. :)