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How can I feel happy about being single?

303 Answers
Last Updated: 07/30/2020 at 6:50pm
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Jessica McDaniel, LPC, LCPC

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I have been practicing cognitive behavioral psychotherapy since 2007 with a diverse group of adult clients with various diagnoses, all races, and socioeconomic classes.

Top Rated Answers
SpiritAlchemistAlexandra
April 6th, 2018 3:42pm
You must be happy with where you are at, with your current situation, in order for change to occur.
WMM
April 7th, 2018 11:48am
You're single.. enjoy life, go out, have fun, hang out with your friends.. theres so much to do.. you dont have to be in a relationship to be happy
helenzhang19
April 12th, 2018 2:12pm
I think you have to be happy on your own before stepping into any relationships. So, being happy single is a must. And I think it has a lot to do with your purpose in life. Once you find what it is and live your life according to it, I'm sure you will find this feeling of satisfaction and wholeness and you will feel happy.
oceanblue876
April 13th, 2018 2:32am
There are many greta things about being single. For example, you have more time to spend with the people you love and to do the things you love. You also have more time to build yourself to be a better person, which can sometimes be ignored when your in a relationship.
Vivian4
May 9th, 2018 2:05pm
That isn't an easy task and it take some time to find out how being single can benefit you. You can take it as a curve of being with yourself and taking care of your self and people you love, cultivate things hobbies and dreams and when you will find someone you can focus on relationship.
Stayloved
May 10th, 2018 5:22am
Self love is the best thing in world. Love fades, life dies, relation ends but self don't leave you alone anyday!
Anonymous
May 11th, 2018 10:33pm
Well, you can talk to as many people as you want without someone holding you back, you can openly stare at hot people and you don’t have to be tied down by a relationship x
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 8:04pm
You need to love yourself they way you are, and not let it bring you down. Just think that "If I was in a relationship right now, I would be doing something else, something I didn't want to do. But I'm single, so I can do whatever I want!"
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 6:40am
You can live our life, every moment to the fullest and completely by your choice. You also learn to love yourself and you create a bond with yourself, inside and out.
mvpeng
June 16th, 2018 3:56pm
Being single is a great opportunity to get to know yourself and grow as a person! It also allows you the freedom of doing whatever you want and not having to worry about how another person feels about it. It can be very freeing.
cherbrox
June 24th, 2018 11:35pm
Embrace the love you have for yourself. You can’t pour from any empty cup. You have to love yourself in all that are you alone to be able to love someone else as a couple
Nessachka
June 27th, 2018 8:25pm
There are plenty of things to be happy about when you're single (: There is no reason to be dependent on someone else when you, yourself are an amazing person. The right individual will come eventually. Some of the things you can do are 1. Go pamper yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you! 2. Meet tons of people. When you are in a relationship you can't flirt with that cute guy at the coffee shop you saw the other day! Get out there!
klistener01
June 28th, 2018 4:50pm
How can you feel happy about being single? You can feel happy by focusing on yourself because this time in your life you get to understand your likes and dislikes and figure out what you want in life.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 10:42am
think about the benefits. you don’t have to worry about someone getting upset if you have opposite gender friends. there’s many benefits, that’s just one.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 5:46pm
At first it may seem impossible to juggle being single, but in a way it’s good for you. Spend some time bettering yourself and feeling confident and good again
porsxh22
July 11th, 2018 8:53am
You should enjoy being single! Because you get more time to work on yourself and you’ll also know that your true love is out there waiting!
AskTierra95
July 11th, 2018 7:02pm
Take some time to find yourself. Take that time to pamper yourself and engage in activities you enjoy.
BehavioralAnalystinTraining
July 14th, 2018 5:46am
I've struggled with this in my life as well. It's led me to 2 divorces & a trail of broken hearts. The key for me was to be comfortable with myself. As soon as I discovered a me I liked it became much easier to not seek external validation.
RyGuyListener10
July 19th, 2018 6:15am
Realize that this is a time for you and you only. You now have all the freedom in the world to accomplish so many things. You are free from the worry about what others may think. You can spend your time only for you without having to compromise or sacrifice. You can get out of your comfort zone and experience life the way you want to. You may even meet like-minded people along the way and forge new and exciting friendships, or more.
genderfluidme
July 21st, 2018 6:09pm
Being single can give you the chance to go see things you haven't seen, go places you haven't been, try things you haven't tried.
Rebekahlistener
July 25th, 2018 9:07am
Its all about perspective. Being single can sometimes feel lonely, however it is a great opportunity to perceive 'singleness' as a time to develop and invest in yourself. Do things that make you feel happy, without anyone else. For me, when single, I find happiness thru yoga, meditation and investing in my friendships. The more you continue on a journey of self-development in which you find contentment in and of yourself, the more prepared you will be in the future to invite someone else into your life.
Opalescentrose
July 29th, 2018 11:42pm
Love will come around when you least expect it, and even if it doesn't, that's ok too! Society makes being single a bad deal but remember that your worth as a person doesn't depends on wether or not you are in a relationship and that it is ok to not have a partner
Anonymous
August 15th, 2018 4:36pm
Go out and do something you enjoy and be happy to be yourself treat yourself for dinner or something else.
Anonymous
August 17th, 2018 11:04pm
Well, most of all the things that have a part in this equation, you ahve to love hanging out with just you. the first step is to be happy with yourself and to realise that you are complete and you do not need anyone to make you whole. You don't need to find 'the one', you are 'the one'. Learn how to have fun with yourself, laugh at yourself, explore yourself, think about yourself, before you even think about adding another person to your life. do all the thing with yourself you would normaly do with an SO. Who knows, you might just be te person you needed all along. After all, first and foremost, you are the person you will have to spent your life with.
thoughtfulArrow88
September 1st, 2018 11:10am
Being single has given me a kind of emotional freedom I never knew I needed. It also gives me a lot of time for myself, my family and my friends. It's good to know that you're not being lied to, cheated on or played with anymore. You don't have to constantly check your phone or wait for texts from your partner. You don't have to cancel your other plans just to meet your partner. Overall there's a lot of emotional drama saved by being single. Most importantly though, being single teaches me how to value myself and know my worth and I am learning to be happy and content with myself a little more, everyday.
Red1088
September 1st, 2018 10:35pm
Realise that you’re free, you can make your own choices and you have a variety of people out there for you. ‘There’s plenty of fish in the sea’ and being single is basically deep sea diving. Don’t feel bad about it, embrace it because you’re lucky. If you feel bad about being single, don’t, because trust me, it’s fine. You’re not the only one, and that means there’s other singles out there waiting to meet you and maybe get rid of that title. Single as a Pringle and ready to mingle 😉 😂Anyway, like I said, it’s not a bad thing
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2018 8:06pm
Single means you're not attached to somebody which is a good thing. And when you are single there's no fears of being cheated. No need to be awake texting. No confusions about friendships. No fights. No attachments. No need to spend money on gifts and stuff. You have time for yourself. But the best part in my point of view is freedom. Being single means you can do whatever you want at whenever you like without anyone's permission. You're in charge of yourself. You can be happy and independent. I think being single is the happiest, most freeing feeling in the world.
Anonymous
October 13th, 2018 2:45pm
you are free and able to experience relationships with different people to understand what you want once you settle down in to a long term relationship with someone you enjoy spending time with and love to be around. remember to understand that you are were you are supposed to be right now in life and you will eventually be happier and have everything you want in life. being single means being free and understanding that you are free means enjoying your life. once you are single, and over a heartbreak, it is the most amazing feeling ever. being single is great
SnowButterf1y
November 2nd, 2018 3:47am
We all afraid of being single due to fear of being alone and that we don't feel complete. However, true happiness is from within ourself. When we understands and know who we really are, our purposes in life, things that we enjoy doing and what we do not enjoy makes us feel confident about ourselves, it brings out the best of us. Unfortunately, this cannot be achieved entirely when we are not by ourselves as there are too many things we are focusing while we are in a relationship. Sometimes people lost themselves as well. There are many activities that can be done to feel happy by just being single. For example doing activities that you always long to do and never able to come around when you are in relationship. Going on a spontaneous trip to soul search yourself, to widen your horizon, opens up your mind, learn and grow. Learn about yourself, learn to love yourself and you will feel happy by just having yourself.
allnaturalForest79
November 7th, 2018 1:35pm
Now I don't know too much, but I want you to think about what I'm going to say if you want an answer. To feel happy is to feel okay? Can't you feel okay to be happy? And happy to be okay? So they can be called one in the same can they not? Well if that is the case then you need to question your thoughts on happiness and not on your relationship status. You need to start to question just why are you sure not happy, because it is not because you are single. There must be something deeper, because would you really say you aren't okay right now?