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How can I forget about the bad memories of my past?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2022 at 3:29pm
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Anonymous
October 2nd, 2021 9:04am
Memories are components of our life that are very difficult to avoid or forget. Every individual has their share of bad memories, but the reality is that the harder we try to ignore, the more it may try to influence our mental health. It may be helpful to consult a therapist or psychologist to help in moving on from the bad memories. Some people may eventually forget certain events as life progresses, but it can be challenging to do it alone for others. I would suggest seeking help as a professional can help according to the intensity of influence of that memory.
Anonymous
October 21st, 2021 9:20pm
As cliche as it may sound, taking on a new hobby works based on my personal experience. It took a while for me to embrace the bad memories and I still recall them from time to time but they don't hurt me anymore. Distracting yourself with something that brings you joy will help you ease the pain and lets you stay more focused on the present rather than the past. Those bad memories will gradually fade once you find your joy. Your healing journey may be bumpy in the beginning and that is normal! But it will sail smoothly soon enough
quaintrellee
October 24th, 2021 5:42am
You don't necessarily need to forget the bad memories, you just need to process them and interpret them in a different light. Every experience you have gone through that has had some traumatic effect has shaped you into who you are, and it is preferable to process them, confront them, and own them, rather than trying to suppress them, and having them affect you in ways that you do not understand. These 'bad memories' have turned you into a stronger person, and it takes a lot of courage to fully process and confront these memories and overcoming the negative emotions that stemmed from them.
Anonymous
November 18th, 2021 12:17pm
You can't forget about the bad memories of the past. But, by staying grounded in the present knowing that the past is the past and I have no control over it and cannot change it. There are many ways to stay grounded, including mindfulness exercises. You can also reach out for support by speaking with a listener. If that is not enough, you can also be connected to a 7 cups therapist. There are many resources available to help people deal with past trauma and PTSD. 7 cups can help connect you with some resources to help you through this time.
naturalhelper6843
January 5th, 2022 5:29pm
The bad memories of my past are what brought me here to help others. That is how i am forgetting them, I am focusing on other peoples troubles rather than my own. I find that if you need to get rid of bad memories the best way to help is to find something else to think about. such as finding a friend, helping somebody, literately anything that requires you to focus. I say this because if you can find something that will make you happy and focus on that rather than your own bad memories you should be able to forget.
precioust1
January 23rd, 2022 2:55am
sometimes its difficult to forget about bad memories in our past. the ugly truth is, sometimes we cant. sometimes we are meant to use our past experiences as lessons to help us grow.... sometimes bad ones too. if you are willing to devote your energy and time into attempting to forget a memory, it takes patience. being patient with yourself will help you grow into accepting those bad memories which can sometimes help you reflect on them. bad memories are planted throughout our lives that can sometimes help contrast the good from bad. without these bad memories, we wouldn't have any good ones.
comfortingParadise6788
February 24th, 2022 9:34pm
When you replay bad memories in your brain, you are strengthening the neural pathways that are connected to those bad memories. Basically, you're telling your brain that you need to keep those memories in your mind, because they're super useful: you keep recalling them all the time! So if you try not to obsess over your bad thoughts, you will have an easier time forgetting. Another way to overcome bad memories is by repurposing them. Find meaning in them. Maybe the bad experiences you went through led you to where you are now. Maybe the bullying you went through caused you to find your true friends. Find a way to show yourself that the bad experience you had paved the way for a good experience.
reverecrivain
April 15th, 2022 9:36am
In my experience, there's no way to forget your bad memories. You keep reliving them in your head, depending on how intense they were for you. Although, it is said that time heals all wounds, that certainly is not the only factor. The more good memories you create would help in diluting the bad ones you have, and the more positive experiences you surround yourself with the more it becomes easier to live with your bad memories. With time you'll be so involved and content with your new life and self, that the bad memories either become a lesson or irrelevant. Either way it depends on how you want to move on. Do you want to live in the past, or create the future you want in order to not repeat the bad past which could re-create the bad memories.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2022 3:57pm
memories are memories, they just seem to stick.... ecpecially the more traumatic ones. some of us get flashbacks from the past, others are visited with bad memories in their nightmares, theirs not really a way you can completely drop them out and forget completely, but sometimes over time they will start to fade, and maybe finding something to distract yourself from them, like learning something new, or playing a game, maybe making something new! I wish you the best!
Comfyshell05
May 20th, 2022 2:08am
According to me forgetting bad memories is not a solution to move forward in life. I always suggest people learn lessons from your past either good or bad experiences and try to never forget that. What you have learnt in the past just remember the lesson and make you sure you never repeat your mistakes. Make it your strength that you have experienced such challenge in your past and you are as strong you could never think. Motivate yourself that you're strong enough to experience any new challenges and tell yourself that "I'm much more stronger than that, i have experienced the worst, i can face any challenges in life now".
Kpopcat2020
June 10th, 2022 3:29pm
Forgetting bad memories of your past is tough, but they are a part of you and shape your current self. If you forget them, you forget a piece of yourself. Both good and bad memories can be beneficial to your current life. Don't try to forget the things that shaped you into the person that you are. I've tried this, I know others who've tried this, but past trauma makes you stronger. It makes you more aware of the things that have happened to you, and it gives you emotional strength. Don't forget bad memories-recognize them. Best of luck, and take care.