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How can I get over a breakup?

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Last Updated: 08/11/2020 at 3:49pm
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Top Rated Answers
November 24th, 2014 8:08pm
Being patient with yourself is the biggest key. You have to regain the level you were on when you were were in the relationship. And that takes time. Then I feel that you'd need some time to pamper yourself a bit and re-establishing yourself once again; becoming stronger
March 26th, 2015 8:49am
The best way to get over a break up is to give yourself time to heal. It is okay to be sad, angry, and even confused. Acknowledge your emotions and express them. As time goes on, begin analyzing your relationship. what did you learn? Why was it best that you parted? Etc, In due time, begin focusing on your life again. Rely on a support system to get you through, begin doing things you enjoy, and try something new. Do not try to get over a break up by by getting into another. It isn't fair to you, or the other person. Although your emotions will be strong after a break up, it gets better with time. There is not a set time to get over it, people take different amounts of time to heal. Don't rush your healing process.
November 26th, 2014 7:26am
Grieve. Cry cry till your heart hurts, take any moment of strength to leave and venture to new places, do new things and keep a positive attitude. Breakups are like a death keep in mind time will heal you.
February 15th, 2016 2:36pm
Stop imagining that there's still a chance between the two of you. Accept that it's already over.
July 10th, 2017 4:42am
Lots of time, patience and self-care. Bring out the icecream and comedy movies. Things will get better.
November 25th, 2014 9:28am
Feel all the emotions. You don't have to pretend that you are fine. Cry if you must, feel everything, live by the moment. That's how you survive.
November 30th, 2014 3:18am
Change is good, but only you are in charge of how good it is. Change in any context is an opportunity for you to expand and grow. Change is inevitable. There are many options to choose when change occurs. You can accept the change; learn, grow, and gain wisdom. You can use that wisdom and weave it into your lifestyle. Or you can hang onto your past, watch the crowds pass you, as you cling to the memories you hold. If you choose the option of hanging on to your past, it may take you months, or it may take you years, but eventually you'll realize you may have missed your opportunity to learn and expand. My advice is that you continue moving on, but using the past as an asset to learn, and to improve.
December 3rd, 2014 12:41pm
To get over a break up firstly you'll need to accept and understand the break up, make sure your questions are answered as you do not want to be burdened with a curious mind - it makes the process of getting over someone longer. Reflect and appreciate what you once had, cry over the good times, release the emotion. Eat some ice cream, it cools the heart, be both clichéd and typical. Be thankful and assertive rather aggressive. Have patience, you won't heal overnight. Just remember, there's boys to kiss and ladies to dance with.
December 8th, 2014 3:57am
You can get over a breakup many different ways. You can cry and eat all the junk food you want, it can actually help. You can hang out with friends and try and get your mind off of what may have happened. Try not to over think why things may have happened.
December 16th, 2014 8:56pm
Getting over a break up can be tough, find what works for you. Some people need time. some people need a good support system and some people find it helpful to delve themselves into activities.
December 23rd, 2014 12:46am
Take it day by day. Process the experience in small amounts. You deserve happiness and appreciation.
December 27th, 2014 3:14am
Once you realise your past is just a story, it has no power over you. Turn your wounds into wisdom, keep your head held high and take one step at a time. It takes more bravery to find out who you are beyond your pain than to merely survive it so now you just have to use that hidden bravery in order to get better and feel like smiling again
December 30th, 2014 9:24pm
I would have to say is to forget them. Go out with friends and just have fun. Be yourself and dont listen to other people telling you that they are sorry. Delete your ex from your life.
May 6th, 2015 10:53pm
It's really hard... I know, I've been there. But what I would suggest is that you can try to do things that would make you forget. Think of things you couldn't do with that particular person. Live your life instead of grieving over what's gone. If it was meant to be, it'll be back. If not, obviously there is something much better waiting for you..
May 21st, 2015 12:55am
Take time for yourself. Reflect on the relationship and why it didn't work out. Do things that make you happy. Meet new people. Put yourself out there. But don't spend all your time keeping yourself busy, let yourself sulk, be sad, and think about it for a specific amount of time each day. Set aside that time each day specifically to think about it and then do something else. Don't let yourself mope around and just be sad all day. Stay occupied.
July 28th, 2015 12:28am
Getting over a breakup takes time. Different amounts of time for everyone. Easiest way to get over a breakup is to say how much better you can be without the other person. What good can come out of it. Do that one thing that you were holding back doing while in the relationship.
February 15th, 2016 4:10am
Breakups are pretty tough! The best remedy for heartache is time, but in the meantime it may help to reflect upon your situation. Think: why did the breakup happen, and what have I learned from this? Think of it as practice for your next relationship!
April 19th, 2016 9:44pm
In time. With acceptance and with forgiveness to ones self and your ex partner. With love for ones self and respect for all that has passed.
June 28th, 2016 2:32am
It takes alot of time and effort to do so. But it can be done. You will have to occupy yourself with things that you need to do and meet new people along the way.
February 12th, 2018 3:52pm
Ask for support from friends/family, start engaging in new activities and meet new people. Hide every item that reminds you of the person for a while and give them back whatever they might have forgotten in your house so that you have no excuse for seeing them, Having your head busy is the best step for getting over a breakup. In no time, you'll start realizing life is worth living even without the person and you won't feel so lonely if you have good friends and family to support you.
February 11th, 2019 5:10pm
Getting over a breakup is different among everyone. Personally, when I get over a break up, I start to focus on myself. From eating healthy to working out or even try learning something new. Start doing things for yourself so you can grow as a person. Engage into activities you like for example, for me was going out and making new friends I also started working out. Being in a relationship, our focus is primarily in the “us” so switch that focus on “me”. And of course do things you love to do whether it’s spending time with family or going out for a walk.
November 25th, 2019 7:02am
Don't let yourself be alone. The pain of losing love, not just on the same night, can last for a long time. Do not know how many days and nights, let oneself suffer the pain of lovelorn torture. So don't let yourself be lonely, stay close to friends and relatives, chat with them, do things, even sleep together. Because lonely, the most easy to let a person sad. Travel, but also healing holy product, the world is so beautiful, you have no reason to sad, no time sad! Don't choose some places you have been to when you are in love. You can choose some places you want to go, but you can't go to when you are in love. Don't look at things and think about love, love will leave you a lot of memories, especially the use of mobile phone WeChat chat, then every night to control yourself, don't pick up the phone, or even turn off the phone, to avoid their own look at things and think about love.
August 11th, 2020 3:49pm
the pain is necessary, the pain…the weight of it all can often be looked at as emotional dumbbells that will make you stronger more noticeable towards the ends of your journey of overcoming the heartache. the pain is the art of power, the pain will justify and remind you of how powerful you were and will always be. i’ve channeled so much of my pain into my artistic expression and because i know the pain that you’re experiencing, i’m writing this to remind you that there is still hope and that even though you feel broken, you will feel whole once you understand that the hurt will often transform you into more of who and what you should have always been.