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How Can I get over my ex girlfriend?

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Last Updated: 11/08/2021 at 8:58am
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Olasf
January 1st, 2018 8:13pm
They say time will heal all wounds. It will. I was madly in love a couple of years back. It went bad and it honestly felt like life would never be the same. Hours turned to days, days turned to weeks, weeks turned to years. I still love her, but the pain goes away. Honestly.. Just try to take it day by day and try to focus on yourself. My best advice would be, be true to your emotions and allow yourself to feel. Good luck
Anonymous
February 12th, 2018 1:36pm
Get the closure you might've missed, try to understand the reason you guys broke up. But most importantly even if it doesn't feel like it no, time will definitely heal those wounds, even if it doesn't feel like that now. These things take time, trust me, I know
Kkxxrr
March 19th, 2018 11:13pm
try to cut contact, relationships ending can feel like grief. you need to give yourself time and put yourself first, do whats right for you. youll get there - sending you love and encouragement in this time
Anonymous
November 18th, 2019 5:31am
When I was getting over my ex boyfriend I tried focused on the little joyful things that would happen to me every day. These joys where small things like taking the first sip of my morning coffee, seeing a butterfly, or putting on my favorite cat socks. Before I knew it those little joys took over the negativity in my head, and heart, and allowed me to enjoy life again. Once I began enjoying life I started to love myself, for who I was in the past, who I was transforming into, and who I wanted to become. With all of my energy into what gives me joy and self love I grew and thrived into who I am today.
victoryhavealittlefaith5555
April 14th, 2020 8:39pm
If we love somebody - and if the love is real - it is lasting and it should always be there. Love towards other person should be directed towards that person and if the love is there, love that is not selfish, love that does not put the borders, love that cares and is thankful - that kind of love - is happy for others - It is unchanged. So do we need to get over something or somebody that we really love, ever? How to get over our own EGO that is another question and we should work on it every day. So the question is how I get over my own Ego? Start with loving yourself and feel how that love does not have limitations. Try loving...and if it does not feel right to have another girlfriend do not rush into another relationship just because you want to get over your ex girlfriend.
AmarahSofia
November 10th, 2020 2:23am
Moving on takes time. It is a process where you have to undergo some circumstances. Moving on starts from accepting that things didn't happened the way you wanted it to be. It hurts, its sad and it is frustrating. But it starts there, by accepting. You'll definitely feel sad, mad and confuse as days goes by. Asking yourself what you did wrong and why it didn't work and it is normal. Take your time, there is no need to rush. Start with acceptance and help yourself. Do something to get over with the pain. Make yourself busy with other things, be more prodcutive at work or school, engage yourself with different things, explore. Do sports, musics or arts. Spend more time with family and friends. Moving on was never been that easy, it takes time but what matters the most is you try to do something to get over with the pain.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2021 12:07am
Getting over your past relationship could be really hard. It's good to know that you want to try to get over your relationship, that's a huge step. The ways of getting over could vary from person to person! If you are feeling sorry for yourself - then try to stop it! Maybe try to embraces your interests! maybe think about how you would like your life to be! May try to break contact with her! Try to socialize with your friends if you can! Try meeting new people and maybe try to keep a journal! Write down the things or the other people you are grateful for! And most of all, this will be hard, there will be times when you'll remember her because getting over is not really easy but then maybe just try to cherish the good memories and be proud of yourself that you're moving on for good? Time heals wounds! Take your time but just know that you worth more! You'll be able to get over if you choose to, Good luck! (:
ComfortingEagle
November 8th, 2021 8:58am
Hi, Sorry to hear that you're going through this tough time. Relationships are difficult, especially with exes. I believe being patient and compassionate with yourself is necessary. A lot of lingering feelings may exist. Depending on how the break up happened you may it may not have gotten a closure, gotten to express your feelings and seek explanations. Therefore, you are likely to remember her time and again because clearly she was an important part of your life. Another trap is Social media: if possible unfollow/block their account. Constant reminders will trigger. It's not "immature" to unfollow your ex, if it helps you move on. Don't buy into the Instagram idea that you should be friends still. You do you. Journal your feelings when you feel like you're running into circles and overthinking. Indulge in your hobbies and get focused on your life. Give yourself time to feel your feelings. Don't hate yourself for missing her. Don't judge yourself for wanting to go back. Just allow yourself to sulk if needed. And, genuinely forgive yourself and that person for whatever has happened. Because hating them won't help you move on, becoming indifferent will. It will however take time. Work on what you can learn from the relationship about yourself. Seek professional help if needed. And know that it's ok to love someone and not be together. If you feel you won't find someone like them, that's completely alright. Be ready to move onto another chapter to meet someone who's unique and different, and maybe even healthier for your mental health.