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How can I get over someone who played such an immense role in my mental well being?

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Last Updated: 04/13/2021 at 5:14am
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Emmy3108
June 29th, 2015 6:35am
People come in and out of our lives for a billion different reasons that are not always easy to identify. When we disconnect from those who played a positive role in who we are, it can be painful to let go of that connection. That type of loss can sometimes cause grief and require mourning. That person came into your life for a very important reason--to be a part of your personal growth and process--and moved on when it was time. Identify what their purpose for you may have been and hold onto that purpose rather than the whole person. Some people also find it beneficial to write a goodbye letter to whomever it is they're losing, not to actually send, but to process through the grief.
XionStrife
March 3rd, 2015 11:54pm
Get rid of all their stuff and all the things they gave you. If you don't get rid of all that, then you'll constantly be reminded of the memories you shared with that person. Pick up a new hobby or do something fun to get your mind off them.
BrianTheListener
April 8th, 2015 6:23pm
There's no way you will ever really get over them. All you can do is take time and realize why it was for the better that you two parted ways. It was for the better, not matter how great the pain might be. Never turn back.
JoakimperssonG
May 18th, 2015 2:31pm
try to enjoy life and try to forget him/her it will be hard at firdt but you will overcome it there better days ahead my friend :)
interestingLove66
May 22nd, 2015 11:33pm
cherish the good memories and swallow the bitter pill that your on your own now. Next step, move on.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2015 1:40pm
Taking each day as it comes and working on ways to help get through the days without that person. A lot of time an effort
AskingAriel
June 30th, 2015 2:05am
Find something new to help maintain your well-being. Some THING, not ONE. Relying on someone for happiness is a very unhealthy move. Find a replacement activity.
DefinitelyUnsure
September 28th, 2015 10:15am
For me it is knowing that I can provide that to someone as well, and that I know i can get better on my own.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2015 4:08am
Getting over someone who played such an immense role in your mental well being is very difficult. It is hard to learn how to get through life without them, but it definitely can be done. You need to realize your self-worth, and how great it is, and then you need to realize that you are better off without this person. You are free to find yourself, discover what you are passionate about, concentrate on yourself as a whole, and find ways to love yourself that make up for this person being gone. Filling a void is hard, but if you constantly keep yourself busy with GOOD activities and thoughts, then you will succeed.
RyanLau21
February 23rd, 2016 11:33pm
Read, write, meditate, listen to music, workout, find a new hobby but most importantly do stuff for you for a change!!!
OYH
March 1st, 2016 12:34am
empathy. see the perspective from another person's point of view. without empathy, we are just blindly following our own opinions.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2017 3:32am
There must be a reason as to why you need to get over this person. And am sure that this reason is valid. Be thankful of the times you guys were together and for the things this person has done for you. At the same time move forward in your life and know that greater things are on the way.
Anonymous
May 5th, 2020 10:22pm
You are the expert on yourself. You can do anything you put your mind to. Just focus on yourself and do things that make you happy. Try learning more about yourself. It hurts to lose people but you have to remember that you are strong and capable of doing so. Never give up on yourself and just keep pushing no matter how steep that mountain is. Sometimes all you have is yourself and that’s okay. You have to be happy with yourself before you’re happy with anyone else. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to be mad. You never owe anyone an explanation.
CBRNSWCULA
April 13th, 2021 5:14am
That is something that may not be easy to do. Getting over someone that played such an immense role in your mental well being will be a part of your life for the rest of your life. One way is to try meditation practices. Another way is to exercise. Another way would be to have positive thoughts ready and available to change your train of thought. As soon as you think of someone that you are trying to get over, you think of the other thought that you have saved in your mind. For example, whenever you think of the person, think about a book you read and summarize a chapter in it within your thoughts.