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How can I go living without her when she's been my everything?

16 Answers
Last Updated: 12/28/2021 at 8:43am
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January 15th, 2015 7:04pm
I can understand how difficult life can be after losing a loved one, but I can assure you that life goes on. I can't tell you how to live your life-- that's something that you have to decide for yourself-- but you must not give up hope. Time heals all wounds, and all pain is temporary. The pain you feel now with dull with time and understanding, until you're at last back up on your feet again. How you do that is completely up to you.
February 13th, 2015 9:00am
Separations are always difficult. So is charge. But it is a part of life and we've got to keep on moving. As difficult as it might be, we need to eventually come out of our past.
April 8th, 2015 2:03am
There was a time when she was a stranger, when you didn't even know her. You must try and go further, keep on changing yourself, because you don't need anyone but you, you don't need anyone to love you, just yourself.
May 10th, 2015 7:19am
You have many other things in your life. She may have seemed to be everything, but she was only one thing. It's hard to get over her, but you will!
June 23rd, 2015 12:01pm
It's simple, when you feel pain, only you will feel it while others sympathise and when you die, you'll die alone so why bound yourself with a person? If she lives inside you physically and not metaphorically, then you can't live without her but if she does'nt then you can!
June 5th, 2015 2:08pm
Spend time with people who make you happy: friends and/or family members. Do things you enjoy with or without people to keep your mind off her so you stay busy. As time goes by, the pain will be easier to live with. And you might fall for someone else who falls for you too.
June 22nd, 2015 9:06am
Life always give many chances don't think this is end of everything and do something new and think differently.
November 23rd, 2015 2:01pm
Try doing something to distract yourself so you don't think about her so much. It may be hard but life keeps moving no matter what.
February 2nd, 2016 8:54pm
Maybe we will find peace in giving away a part of us , let that piece of you go away because you will never know if you will get a fitted piece back into place, just love her enough to live without her.
March 21st, 2016 5:07pm
I feel happy to do the things which she used to do for her happiness and find my happiness with the people around me ,It just a game of mind and heart together,if you handle one you can handle other one,means if you set your mind that you will go without her and move your life, am sure you can and you will because you have to change your mind and concentrate on the things which are your around you,if you find another one,its hell better option because after few weeks you will get used of it and new one will be more impressed because in first relationship you got loyalty and sincerity which is much expensive for everybody even your family value these things, but please be humble and positive in your life always, be kind to yourself because you are unique and attractive person at this planet.
May 3rd, 2016 12:40pm
Slowly grieve. Sounds like you need time.. Give yourself time and then slowly but surely let yourself live
July 11th, 2016 2:40am
Sometimes things changes, and you have to accept the changes and move on. Respect the decision that u guys have made and be happy for one another.
September 20th, 2016 5:56pm
Find a new hobby or chase after her! If she's your everything show her! Show her you really care, that you care enough to chase after her!
October 9th, 2017 6:40pm
You have to find something new to fill her space whether it be another person, animal, passion, sport, club, or hobbie
March 23rd, 2020 7:56pm
Losing a significant other causes a deep emotional pain and burden in our lives. I can relate! When I am experiencing lows throughout the day, I have to stop and accept those feelings. Heartbreak can take over your mind, body and spiritually cause a grievance of ongoing pain that seems impossible to digest. The hardest part is accepting that it is over and moving on with your life. It is completely normal to feel lost and down without someone who was such a big part of your life! Time heals even the deepest of wounds. Please feel free to reach out too, we are here to help, listen and can definitely empathize with these feelings!
December 28th, 2021 8:43am
I understand the sadness and frustrated completely. I went through a horrible breakup myself about 5 years ago and I will say the best thing you can do is focus 100% on you. You may not realize it now, but everything is a blessing in disguise. You may not know the reason things are happening but in the future, time will tell and you’ll realize either a lesson learned or something you can take with you forever. If things are meant to be it will find it’s way back to each other but in the meantime you can’t put your life on pause for someone else. Not to sound too “straight forward”, but their life goes on, your life goes on, and so does everyone else’s lives. I know it’s tough, I had to read motivation books and listen to podcasts to get myself up and going again, but when you have a few months to yourself some things really start to piece together and you start to realize what was good and bad for you. I’m not sure your situation but there’s a difference between love and lust. If you both were in love, love always finds it’s way back. There’s always a bigger picture to look at, keep your head up about things! It’s not a bad life it’s just a bad time and you’re struggling within. Again, aim not sure the whole situation but have you tried talking with her about it?