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How can I make it easier to tell them I want to break-up?

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Last Updated: 06/10/2019 at 10:14pm
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November 15th, 2014 7:56pm
Breaking up with someone is never easy, but there are certain things you can do to make it easier on your partner. Keep three things in mind: empathy, strength, and kindness.Empathy for how they'd be feeling, strength in your resolve to end the relationship, and kindness for their emotions after telling them. First, tell them that you need to talk in person. This is crucial. Second, don't break up with them in a place they frequent such as their bedroom, car, or workplace. Next, be honest with them and don't beat around the bush. Prolonging the break up does no one any good. You need to be strong, and just come out with it. Remind them that they're a great person, and if necessary, explain why you need to end the relationship. Not every break up requires an explanation, that's your decision if you want to explain or not. Lastly, remember that they were in this relationship, too. How would you like someone to handle breaking up with you?
November 14th, 2014 9:43pm
I guess there is no easy way of breaking up with someone because not only do we need to take care of our own thoughts and feelings, we need to be respectful of the other persons feeling as well. It can be challenging to say what we need to, however owning your thoughts and feelings ie don't blame others, being honest and upfront about how you feel can be a good start.
November 20th, 2014 6:16pm
October 14th, 2014 7:25pm
Remind yourself that you need to put yourself first. If you need to be out of a relationship, then that's the best course of action. Self-love has to come first in this situation.
October 22nd, 2014 3:57pm
So basically be yourself, you should be aware that it wont make it easier for them if you just keep putting off :)
October 23rd, 2014 9:25pm
Breaking up with someone is never easy, the best you can do is be compassionate and understanding of how their going to feel.
October 27th, 2014 8:05pm
The easiest way to break up with someone is simply to do it, be honest about it without being hurtful if at all possible, and to be genuine. It's never easy to initiate a break up, but ultimately, if you want this, then it is in the interest of both parties to be honest about it and do so.
November 2nd, 2014 4:18pm
Take your time when explaining why you want to break up. Let him/her talk as well and find out exactly why you are breaking up.
November 4th, 2014 12:38am
Honesty is key. The burden of a breakup is heavy, but the secret of wanting to is even heavier. Organize your thoughts and ask yourself why you are feeling this way. It is your right not to be with someone if that is what makes you happy. Once you've done that soul searching, go to them and tell them the same thing. They may not like it, but you owe it to yourself to be open and honest with your partner.
November 4th, 2014 8:16am
Pick somewhere private and safe for them, so they don't have to try and be strong or feel under attack. Don't sugar coat it, be clear and no break up sex.
November 4th, 2014 3:40pm
Let them know that you enjoyed the relationship, but you feel that it's not exactly what you want & you hope you can still be friends!
November 5th, 2014 10:44pm
Just tell him/her that it just isn't working out. And give him/her a reason. Just say we can be friends
November 6th, 2014 10:47pm
You have to over-think about your breaking up decision sometimes we take stupid decisions in our life due to stress and other problems but if you feel like you really need to break up try to tell them the advantages of your relationship with them but the inconstant feelings you feel about them!
November 8th, 2014 12:15am
You should tell them immediately, don't wait any longer so they get they hopes up for something that will be destroyed. There is no easy way cause if they love you, they will take it really hard but the best way is to just tell them the truth and only the truth. Tell them exactly how you feel about them or if you don't feel at all and be specific with the reason of breaking up so then they don't have to overthink about any possible reason you left them and start blaming themselves.
November 10th, 2014 10:58pm
Maybe talling them the truth and how you feel can work out, you aren't trying to hurt them, you are just looking for your own happiness which is really important :)
November 16th, 2014 5:53pm
Just don't lie or do it unpersonal. Breaking-up is never an easy thing. Just do it like you'd want people to do it.
November 17th, 2014 4:05pm
Discuss with them the reasons you should go separate ways,and how and why they have been affecting you.
November 18th, 2014 1:59pm
Hey there! I think it's better to talk things out then juat blowing them up... Have a conversation with him/her and tell what you want and why it's not working for you anymore! Stay blessed! :)
March 20th, 2015 11:12am
Break ups can be hard for both parties. Don't try to sugar coat things. Honesty is always the best policy!
March 26th, 2015 10:31pm
Honesty is always the best policy. Think about what you want to say and say it. Be careful of how you say it though. The tone of your voice can speak volumes.
April 23rd, 2015 10:40pm
It's hard to make it painless, even for the both of you. Depends on the situation, but try to let them know that they were not the only ones failing the relationship, that it was on you too.
May 14th, 2015 8:41pm
Say it kindly! Don't do it around people, or with attidude. Do it in person when it's just the two of you. Also, do not post it on facebook,instagram, etc, before you talk to them about it! Make it easy on both of you.
July 11th, 2015 1:49am
Breaking up with someone can be very hard to do. The one thing you want to avoid doing when trying to breakup with your partner is NEVER do it in a text message or over the phone. Do this type of thing face to face and never have a friend or anyone else do it for you. Always give your partner a reason/explanation as to why you are breaking up with them, otherwise you're going to make it even harder for them to move on after the breakup because they're going to want to know why you're ending things. Always be respectful when ending a relationship no matter what the reason is. Don't be cold about it. Just tell them that the relationship isn't working out. Tell them why it's not working out and go from there.
August 18th, 2015 7:08pm
A calm mind and clean concience makes for an easy way. I start with some of my internal issues before I go do a task.
August 25th, 2015 2:52am
if that person is understanding then you have nothing to worry about, all you have to say is, " i dont think this will lead to a healthy relationship, its better if we stop here and seek love in other directions, but you have been a wonderful person it just does not feel healthy for us both."
November 17th, 2015 1:09am
There really is no easier way for breaking up. You just have to do it and hope that they will react appropriately.
November 24th, 2015 12:01am
Face-to-face or phone contact is a must. If you do Face-to-Face find a neutral place that is away from both of your homes. Be direct, honest and to the point.
March 21st, 2016 3:04am
Its always good to be honest and to explain on why u made the decision in the first place and how u feel about the decision.
June 7th, 2016 2:54am
Remind yourself that it's the best thing for you. Remember that you need to come first, your happiness and care, and so if this is going to help improve those things you should do it.
May 22nd, 2018 11:52am
Something that can help make a break-up easier is by saying that it isn't something that they did and that it is simply something you have been feeling. Don't make the break-up seem like it is one sided and definitely make it quick so that it can be over with.