How can I move on and let go?

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snugglyParadise48
February 18th, 2015 1:40am
With my personal experience, you have to first address what is holding you back. You have to look deep within yourself to find the things that are holding you back, and address those issues, so that you can move forward!
Anonymous
May 2nd, 2015 6:35am
Well whatever happens time never stops, so why are you stopping when something bad happen... Just think that bad time will pass, and good time will show up soon...Keep your hopes up...
Anonymous
October 26th, 2015 10:55pm
Moving and letting go are difficult things to do. It will take time for someone to get to the point in which they truly feel they understood why letting go a person that was once so meaningful in their can no longer be in their life. What has helped me is by keeping busy in my daily activities. I always give myself some time to write down how I am feeling about not having someone in my life and reflect the little things that are positive without having that individual in my life. I try to tell myself I had a life before the person was part of it and I have to remember what I was doing before being involved with them.
justanotherfool
November 8th, 2015 4:12pm
It certainly depends on the individual. Usually, these things are supposed to take time. But i have seen many, including my friends move on very quickly. In my case it has been almost 3 years now and I am still struggling and fighting to move on. It is probably one of the reasons for which I am diagnosed with Depression. But still, the intensity of these struggling will get lower as the time passes by. But at the same time it can also be the other way around also. The mistakes I had done were sticking to the same plans and dreams me and my ex had set in the past while she has moved on. It is always better to have someone to vent about all these and slowly setting new plans and focus areas. It is difficult though. But it is necessary to remember that there is no easy way also. And do not try these so called shortcut ways like moving into another relationship and all real quickly thinking it would help because most times it ends up in another hear break. These situations can be used favourably also, like to identify the flaws and faults in us or to improve spiritually. And after all realising that they have the freedom to leave you is also important. Letting them go as they wish is the best thing to do for us and them. And silly things like burning or dumping all the monuments can also be helpful. The fact is it is o painful so I had kept all that all these years but a few days ago may sister pushed me to do all that and helped me with it also. It can be disturbing for sometime but slowly it cools our mind. The difficult thing will be for those who were so dependent on their ex, like in my case. All I can say to you is find a good listener/friend here in 7 cups to help you with. And all the best everyone. You are not alone.
TheImpossibleInfant
February 13th, 2018 8:13pm
By putting yourself first. Everything and every problem deals with you. Allow yourself to be the most important thing. I will make you feel more empowered and more "you." That will give you the courage to move on.
SuperSandi
July 10th, 2018 1:51pm
Moving on and letting go is a very slow and difficult process which it would be better if one had others support (friends, family) Depending on the situation, it would make things easier if you could find things, hobbies that make you happy and distract yourself. When you start thinking thoughts that get you down, just remember that things will always get better if you allow it to. Moving on and letting go is a choice you make for yourself when you come to understand that you can and will be open to being happy again. You must want to be happy in order to move on. In my opinion.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2015 5:03pm
Whenever you're thinking about the event, know that it's normal to think about it. But then after that, distract yourself and force yourself to think of something else except for the event. You should soon learn to not think about it as much.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2015 7:30am
You've got to distance yourself from this thing. Remember that this is just a chapter in your life, and have an open mind with what's going to happen. Make new memories. Try new things. You can't expect to completely forget/ignore this thing but strive to be better.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2015 12:21pm
Moving on and letting it go takes much emotional motivational mind and even physical efort.Everyone is different and can deal with breakup in his own way..Accept the fact that you had a breakup avoid any contact with the person express your feelings to friends who can understand you and arent toxic people meaning that can be more bad than good for you situation.enjoy being single start new activities,start viewing new people erotically though you shouldnt go further yet as it may result to worse results..
liwenh
June 30th, 2015 1:47am
Write about it in a blog, talk to close friends and even to animals. Pet therapy worked well for me
xdchloe
July 21st, 2015 1:38pm
Moving on and letting go can often be hard especially if it is family, friends, or just general issues. Recognize first what you are moving on from, and then take steps to avoid contact with once you have recognized. Letting go can be hard so give it time and be patient, and best of luck. There is resources for professional help available to you if you need to talk to professionals about complications the 7Cups Of Tea Community has tons of ways to get the help you need.
peacefulDreamer76
December 14th, 2015 2:13pm
I was in a relationship for 6 years, she cheated on me and then we broke up, now its been 4 years from that and I am in a live-in relationship with a beautiful woman from past 6 months and will be marrying her in awhile. so i guess anybody can move on
shishir77
December 21st, 2015 12:15pm
Distract myself and find other sources of happiness once i know theres nothing much i can do about something
serenekindness66
June 7th, 2016 5:08am
Try to understand what happened. Focus on what you want and how to get there. Take active steps to accomplish what you need to do to get where you want.
HeartofaPhoenix
January 31st, 2017 11:38pm
Moving on is not an easy process. One of the things that helped me to move on was to focus on the things that I enjoyed that didn't involve who/what I was trying to let go of and from which I was trying to move on. Start with little steps and take it day by day. No one expects it to be an instantaneous act and neither should you.
ThaliaRavenclaw
December 18th, 2017 11:52pm
Time. Time and patience. Realising memories are nice and all, but you have to take a step forward. It will hurt, you will want to run back over and over again. You will cry and anguish, but you will also laugh and smile at some point. You will find something else to hold on with. Your hands may feel empty, without nothing to hold on to, but use it to your advantage to grow as a person. You can't just 'move on and let go', you have to grow.
purplewidow345
May 1st, 2018 3:11pm
You can achieve this goal by working with yourself. Try standing in the mirror and saying "I am good enough. I do not need to suffer myself to have love. I love myself. I trust in ME that I will be okay as long as I have myself.