How can I move on when almost half of my life I've spent it with this person that I've broken up with?

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Last Updated: 10/31/2016 at 4:15am
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Anonymous
July 28th, 2015 4:19pm
Try to concentrate on yourself. There is a reason, why you broke up. Get clear for yourself, which needs were not met during your relationship and try to find strategies to take care for your needs. Meet friends that could give you a warm, benevolent feedback and with whom you could connect in an open, sincere conversation as well as in just having fun together. Step by step start with thinking in terms of "I" instead of "we". Learn to enjoy the time with yourself, it could be quality time. Take your time to find out what YOU want: Avoid the trap, to fill the gap you might feel by filling it with someone else. Until you did not find out what went wrong it might not be the best way to figure out what you want for your future. From my own experience: everything, that let me get in touch with my inner self, helped a lot! Ask yourself, what you need in these different realms: your body, your mind and your soul. The more you get in touch with this, the better you could find out for yourself how to fulfill these needs. Enjoy to play and find sides in yourselves you never new before...
Brittneym101
February 24th, 2015 12:16am
Well, just try to live your life the same you were doing before you two got into a relationship. I know that it's going to be hard trust me I know especially when you truly love someone. I have been there before going through it now, but it will just take you some time to get use to being without him/her. If you still have this person in your heart and can't get over him/her no matter what.. then pray on it and let fate run it's course. If it's meant to be it'll be. Time heals all.
positiveLynx64
February 25th, 2015 4:11am
I know how very hard it can be to move on and start over after sharing so much with another person.
Lennya
April 8th, 2015 1:22pm
One day at a time. Each day make decisions to validate yourself and to not stay hung up on the relationship (easier said than done, I know) but it just takes time and making simple decisions every day.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2015 1:15pm
Take it one day at the time, try not to rush things and just think of the positive things that you have in life.
roselynl
May 15th, 2015 4:52pm
Hey I know its hard to move on because you and your partner have shared so many memories together, but think about the reason why you guys broke up, and think back to the moment where you have decided to end this relationship. You don't need to forget about your relationship with him completely, but you gotta know that maybe by ending it, you can regain yourself again. Your life does not just made up of the memories you have with your partner, you have a whole amazing life right in front of you. By stepping outside the relationship and sadness, you enter a wonderful wold in which you will find more amazing things Moving on from someone who you've spent so much time together with is scary, but what you are gonna experience when you did is gonna be so worth it and you will have such a bliss. Theres no one that can tell you how you can move on and do it, you are the only one who can think of that answer and make a decision to go out into a much more wonderful life or dwell on the past. xx
NDS369
July 10th, 2015 8:41am
Just like the other person did. If he picked up the threads I should too, it just showed I meant nothing to him and I deserve better, may it be life or partner.
calmHero7
September 22nd, 2015 3:56am
Like everything in life healing takes time. Don't rush it and do things you enjoy but also don't be afraid to show emotion. Keeping your feelings inside do more harm than good.
thoughtfulParadise01
October 26th, 2015 11:23pm
You have to realize for whatever reason the relationship was broken off that you are worth it and that you deserve the best. You have to be strong throughout the struggles with getting over him/her. You can spend time with friends, go to a movie (I suggest not a love story ,a comedy), go exercise; anything to get your mind on something else besides the break up.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2015 10:56pm
You can move on because you have to. You don't have any other choice. Often times people stay in relationships just because it's easy and they don't want to struggle with starting fresh, especially if you've spent half of your life with someone else. You can move on. I did it. Trust me. : )
sweetlinda22
November 9th, 2015 11:14pm
you have to be willing to find out who you are as an individual, independent of him or her. find something you like about your independence and embrace it. It could be that it empowers you, or inspires you or simply just challenges you to be independent.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2015 10:53pm
start looking at other people that made your life better through that time other than that person!!!!!1
Anonymous
November 17th, 2015 8:51pm
You can always move forward even if part of your life was spent with that person, you can recall the positive memories with that person and be happy you had that time with them. Now you'll spend time with new people and discover new things you never knew existed. Look forward to having more time ahead of you instead.
AngelWithLove
December 14th, 2015 1:40pm
Time is the only thing I would think of and being with friends and family also lots and lots of ice cream.
astral358
February 8th, 2016 3:41pm
It's actually hard at the beginning. But at least if you give a try to walk again broken, you might put the pieces of yourself back together in the long run. Time heals. But you will only appreciate that if you prove it to yourself that you can do it. It's about the test of courage and the quest for hope to live and be happy again.
Greatlistener87
March 22nd, 2016 4:06am
As long as you are living a breathing you can move on. Just because somebody has been removed from your life for a reason does not mean that life stops there. Life will keep going on and if you stop where u are you are gonna miss out on it.
allnaturalUnicorns70
September 27th, 2016 2:40pm
How can you mourn the loss of a relationship? There are different answers to ever person on that. How can you move forward? Once you're done mourning, it will come naturally. I hope you find peace!!
Anonymous
October 31st, 2016 4:15am
just remember that you broke up with this person for a good reason! breakups can be sad, but in the end some people dont work out for us