How can I stop being controlled?

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Last Updated: 07/11/2017 at 6:28am
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markj7511
May 28th, 2015 6:11pm
If you are allowing yourself to be controlled, you are receiving something out of the relationship. With boundary issues--a boundary is an exchange of resources between individuals--you have to examine whether the exchange is healthy or unhealthy. If the exchange is unhealthy, then, well . . . the relationship has to be modified or removed. It is like the old adage, "sometimes we know what we need to do; we are just not willing to do it."
Anonymous
May 11th, 2015 3:18pm
No matter you're age or where you are in life you will always be controlled. Whether it be a parent, a teacher, a boss when your working, No matter what you just have to accept it.
ahelpinghand100
February 27th, 2015 11:33pm
Tell someone. Put your own actions into your own hands and do what's best for you. Being controlled is not good.
newbeginnings3
March 14th, 2015 3:38am
Communicate with the person and come to a compromise. Anyone who loves and cares about you will listen and respect what you want as well as what they want. But controlling behavior is honestly abusive if the person is being disrespectful and/or unkind. If you can, break away from the relationship if things are not working out. I am concerned for you, and would like to chat. Message me if you want to talk about anything and everything. Good luck!
Samuelll
July 11th, 2017 6:28am
Standing up for yourself in a appropriate manner lets the controlling person know that it bothers you, sometimes the person doesn't know. Failing that, recognize if this person does hold legitimate power over you. If they don't, then it's more of a mental prison and you have to take responsibility for breaking free from control.
ivysoul
May 22nd, 2015 6:00pm
Depends who is controlling you. Often times, you just need to realize that your decisions are your decisions.
Br33zyS3tz
August 10th, 2015 3:42pm
Sometimes its hard to take a stand, to be stronger than those controlling us, to be independent and assertive when faced with constant belittlement and dominance; its important to recognize your true nature, to be mindful of your internal strengths, confidence, self-esteem, pride and integrity; to use these characteristics, tools, and concepts for your own advantage in an effort to overcome being controlled. Making a statement is essential; its important to find some kind of power to break being controlled, and feeling helpless or unworthy. With faith, self trust, and determination, one can escape the griping grasp of control.
Greatlistener87
November 16th, 2015 6:21am
If you are being controlled by someone then if you can talk to that someone about it will be good, else leave. If you are controlling yourself then find out where in the first place the controlling attitude came from and deal with it.
heatherishere64
December 22nd, 2015 6:30pm
To be able to stop being controlled, just put your foot down, and be confident as much as you can, tell them that you are no longer their toy to be controlled, do this in an assertive way.
nikktton
July 5th, 2016 5:23am
You can stop being controlled by empowering your self physically and mentally. Working towards ones goal honestly without taking handouts and opportunities that requires owing or obligation beyond the regular.