How can I stop feeling like no one will ever compare to the boyfriend/girlfriend I broke up with?
Last Updated: 02/05/2018 at 5:08pm
Amelia Winsby, PsyD
I often work with clients who experience a wide range of emotions and difficulties. I am non-judgmental and enjoy working with individuals from all walks of life.
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Just keep remember that maybe what you had with him/her was beautiful but it 's just the end of a beautiful chapter not the end of the book, don't stop and continue writing your book because they're much things you haven't discovered yet :)
that is completely normal, you will feel like that for quite a while but it will go away and you'll find someone better
Try to see your new romantic prospects/partners as individuals in their own right, instead of just replacements trying to fill the void left by your ex. These people will have their own merits & their own faults, just as you & all of the rest of do. Just as every person is unique in their thoughts, feelings, qualities & actions, every relationship is unique. Don't set unachievable or unnecessary standards for your new partner & relationship based on your experiences with others in the past.
You have to keep your head and think positive. Eventually things will get better and you will find someone who is better for you. It may not seem like it now but it will happen. Or if the relation ship you had with you ex was really meant to be then maybe one day it will happen.
Try your best to get over that boyfriend/girlfriend before you date anybody else. Chances are that if you are comparing them to someone else, you aren't ready to date. But eventually you will find a person that you won't compare them to. It might not be soon but who knows!
One of the most encouraging things ive ever learned is that no two loves are the same. Your last love will never compare to your first love and no other love will be the same as another. It helps to open your mind and heart to feeling new things and stop expecting it to feel exactly the same as it had before
That's a tough one, especially when the one being compared to is your first or greatest love. But like all things, it takes time to heal a broken heart. Comparing is not healthy because it puts you in a mindset where your current boyfriend/girlfriend seems not to be good enough for you and that can weaken or ruin a relationship because it will seem like you do not appreciate your partner for who he or she is.
Know that you will heal and it's normal to feel that way and know that you will eventually realise that it was not meant to be
After a breakup, it is very common and natural to feel like you will never find someone as amazing as they were. Life doesn't stop for anyone. It goes on. Change is inevitable. We meet new people all the time. Everyone in our life is there for a purpose. Some people stay longer than others. I'm sure you will find someone :)
have more self confidence in yourself and believe that you can get what you deserve or even more than you expect to have
Stop comparing everyone to your past, so you can look ahead to your further , that is how you'll be able to help
You have to accept that there is a reason for your breakup and whatever that reason is you bf/gf that u have broken up with is not perfect for that reason and many more. Give the people out there a chance to show u that what you are looking for they have.
I’ve had this issue before. If my boyfriend did one thing I expected all my others to do that same thing. And if they didn’t I would convince myself they didn’t love me as much. Which is completely untrue. Comparing a current relationship with on who previously ended is the best to fast-track a breakup. Look at this new person as a different entity not just another boyfriend. Reminisce about your old lovers, but don’t forget to appreciate what you have in the present.
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