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How can I stop looking back and have the courage to only look forward?

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Last Updated: 09/15/2020 at 5:55pm
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kindheartsamm
June 8th, 2015 11:44am
when we are still in dream and thinking to happen something good then we can not stop looking back.so we should do something work which make a contact with our present. thats way we can look forward.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2016 4:41am
Think of how far you've come, even if its not that far, it's still a step forward. And then think about where you want to end up. Use the past as the driving force that is taking you to your destination
jordanneedscoffee
July 13th, 2020 1:16pm
Our history is what shapes us, but it is important to remember that we cannot change our past no matter how badly we might want to--we can only learn from it. So when you begin to feel yourself looking back, take a deep breath and center yourself and focus on the moment that you are in. Try taking 5 deep breaths and say to yourself: "I am in the here and now and I can only control what happens to me now." Repeat that as many times as you need to, to remind yourself that you are only able to move forward in life.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2015 9:36pm
It is always good to accept our past is indeed the past. Come in terms with things we did well and those we regret doing. But we always have to view the future as an opportunity to make things even better and correct mistakes.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2015 12:26pm
You have to have the will power and really want to start looking forward. Its not going to be easy at first, but you can conquer anything if you put your mind to it!
Anonymous
September 14th, 2015 11:03pm
I's always good to look back on past because mistakes were lessons and you gained experience. Use what you learned to pave a way forward. You have all the courage in the world you just need to find it.
musicalDew34
November 11th, 2015 7:01pm
Always keep your self bsy in anything...dont keep on talking about your past with anyone.. dont take advices from anyone..do what your heart says
mackylistens629
December 15th, 2015 1:16pm
Live in the present, not the past or even the future. If you live in the life you have now, the ride to the future will only be more enjoyable :)
HeyoSarah
June 6th, 2017 10:39pm
It takes time, surely. In my expirience, it takes confidence in yourself to move forward, literally and figuratively. In public, keep your head high and no one will question your self esteem, and if you love yourself it's so much easier to work to move on.
avanef
July 24th, 2017 11:47pm
You just need to focus on yourself and the goodness in you. There are always things you can do to reassure you are still a good person and good things are in store for you. Start up a new hobby or something you know you love to do and it distracts you from thinking about your past.
lovingWords79
December 5th, 2017 11:46am
try taking little steps in your life to help you succeed forward then if you do look back in life you know you can do it because you found the courage to make that first step
Anonymous
January 15th, 2018 4:25pm
thinking about the positive and the good people etc youhave now by living in the present and the now moving on from the past is a big step on living at the fullest and better happy days are coming for sureif we believe it.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2018 9:21pm
There would be a phase where you would feel that a string is pulling you backward but it's you who has to move forward and break the string which is holding you back
silverArrow8473
September 15th, 2020 5:55pm
I use the analogy of driving a car. We do not drive backwards by looking in the rear view mirror to get to our destination. We must look forward to get to our destination. We also must think of ways to fix what we are unhappy about. Creating goals and accomplishing them always makes a person feel successful. Brainstorming about things you want to do is always fun. Moving forward also opens up opportunities for many other positive things to come. Accomplishing goals proves that we can put one foot in front of the other and move on.