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How can I stop talking to my ex after a breakup?

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Last Updated: 02/03/2020 at 12:55am
How can I stop talking to my ex after a breakup?
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Top Rated Answers
NoNonsenseGuy
December 21st, 2015 4:17pm
It's easy! Just don't. Fill your days with activities that you enjoy doing that also require concentration. For example, rock climbing, hiking or running trails. spend time with friends and family. If you have no friends or family then get a job or a second job.
mike251
January 18th, 2016 10:13pm
Delete their phone number, Facebook, etc. You need to realize that if you want them back, it is probably best to have some space before you guys make a move.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2016 7:34am
This may be very hard, but the best thing to do is "Block 'em, delete 'em, and don't repeat 'em." No matter how bad you want to interact with them, remember that talking to them will not help you or your mental state. Avoiding them will make moving on so much easier
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 3:00pm
Stopping talking with someone with whom you used to be close may be really difficult, but not impossible. I suggest doing things you like in order to keep your mind busy. You can also start hanging out with your friends and soon you will be able to move on.
Bubbles46
- Expert in Breakups
March 16th, 2016 4:02pm
Maybe give them a minute to themselfs and text them in a little bit because they might need some space
handsomeSun40
March 16th, 2016 11:02pm
You can just not answer phone calls. Or establish boundaries that specify what they can and/or cannot do.
kevco
March 17th, 2016 1:50pm
To stop connecting with your ex you must accept that it is over and look to the future instead of looking for comfort in the past. We all have brighter horizons that will come to us if we set our sights on what is to come.
LovingGamer
March 18th, 2016 12:10pm
It can be difficult, but it's best to just block them and, if you know them in real life, only talk to them when necessary (I.e a class project)
incarnadinepetals
March 18th, 2016 9:45pm
Slowly start distancing yourself and hanging around your friends more. Eventually, you'll find yourself never talking to him/her.
gentleDaisy83
March 19th, 2016 6:12pm
i would say go out and meet new friends, look for a hobby to do ,start a habit of reading books or find something interesting to do. and do not forget to delete his or her number
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2016 2:32pm
make new friends, block them on social media (facebook, snapchat, twitter... the lot!) Just pretend they don't exist.
beautifulPainting66
March 30th, 2016 2:18pm
Just stop cold turkey. Delete their number. If you need an excuse and may want to be friends in the long run, just tell them you need space to sort yourself out, and hopefully they will respect that
majesticUnicorns22
March 30th, 2016 9:08pm
Try distancing yourself a bit more. How long ago have you broken up? Was it harder on you or your partner?
Ijit99
April 2nd, 2016 4:11am
Well the best thing you could do is find a good group of friends and a nice hobby! The habit will begin to grow smaller and smaller.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2016 7:09am
block all of his contact on your phone, on your social media. you can talk to him again after you get over him
Anonymous
April 14th, 2016 11:14am
Decide, in your own mind, that this is what you know you must do, and then, do it. Sometimes the hardest problems do not require the most complicated solutions. Just do it.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2016 6:38pm
just delete their number and try to not think about them all the time if you find yourself thinking about it redirect yourself to a new activity
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2016 4:04pm
Delete his number. Delete him on any social media you have. If you want to be 100% sure to stop talking to him even block him. Don't go in on his trys to have contact again. Find yourself other people to surround yourself with.
HereAsAnEar
April 26th, 2016 4:29am
You can stop talking to them by creating distractions for yourself! Go outside, hang with friends, read a book, see a movie, etc. Anything to take your mind off the breakup is a healthy way of distracting yourself.
NamelessKnight
April 28th, 2016 8:33am
There are ways to block them, from ignoring the,, to tell them that they should stop because you simply can't. You can also literally press the block button that is a feature on most Apps/ Social Platforms. Please state your reason before doing so.
Sunrisecatcher7
May 8th, 2016 3:51pm
Delete all possible contacts you have of them and start doing activities that will makenyou forget .
Anonymous
May 8th, 2016 8:50pm
Explain to him or her that you would rather not be friends after the break up. Give a brief reason as to why.
FreedomIsPeace412
May 11th, 2016 7:11am
Delete all contact with them, including social media. Then just ignore them. It.may sound simple, but it can be that easy!
LemonToLemonade
May 11th, 2016 8:03pm
It's normal that you still have the urge to talk to your ex, and if you agreed on staying friends there's no reason to stop talking. But if you really never want to talk to that person, then delete them. Delete the conversations, the number and delete or block them on social media.
LolOreoGod
May 13th, 2016 2:07am
If your ex is continuing to talk to you, you should politely ask him to stop. If he refuses, you can either block him on social media or just avoid him. If he insists, then you can always try telling him that you don't want to talk to him. If that doesn't work, and he tries to stalk you, contact the police.
Square
May 18th, 2016 8:25am
Look at it from the other side. Would like to be on a date with someone who talked about they're ex? Talk to someone the way you'd want them to talk to you
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 2:13pm
Ignore all their texts and/or phone calls and don't make any yourself. You can always block their number and change your cell phone number.
LittleFloofFox
May 19th, 2016 10:10am
By not searching contact with him. take time for you now since you need it a lot more. Indulge a full day into things you enjoy doing. hang out with friends and don't be afraid to let out some sadness.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2016 4:53am
If you seriously want to stop talking to them, cut all communication. Tell them you need space and that you're done; that you may come back later. This fools them in "waiting". They eventually will give up and move on. Trust me.
WestWind92
May 21st, 2016 11:08am
It will be hard initially. Just keep yourself distracted. Do things you like doing. Be around people who'll make you happy. Just keep yourself busy for a while.