How can I stop talking to my ex after a breakup?
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Last Updated: 11/15/2021 at 2:03pm
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Anonymous
June 15th, 2016 4:25pm
If you two decided to break up, there is obviously a reason why. Often times, we do not see certain things when we are in a relationship. Although break ups can be extremely painful, it is best to take this time to reflect on things. You can't take back what was said and done, however, you can take this time to better yourself and learn from your past. By doing so, you will be focusing on yourself, rather than focusing too much on what is already gone. In this context, your ex partner.
Anonymous
November 7th, 2016 2:27am
Well there are a few things you can do. For starters block him on everything. Snapchat, facebook, instagram, his number. Whatever you have it's gone. If he finds another way to contact you block that too.
I know sometimes it can be very difficult to stop the feeling towards an ex, but in the long run it gets easier and you can overcome them.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2021 2:03pm
Breakups can be very emotional and heartbreaking. Acknowledging that this is a very hard time and allowing yourself to feel is important. In some cases, you may need to block them on all social media and platforms to allow yourself time to heal if you feel it may be too hard not to reach out. Sometimes remembering that the other person is probably hurting too and deserves space for themselves, as well. Respecting their choices may look like not talking to them after a breakup. Talking with someone who is not your ex about how you feel may make it easier not to reach out to your ex.
Ignore her texts. Get rid of any momentos that might remind you of her. That way you'll stop thinking of her and won't feel the need to talk to her.
Try to focus on yourself. Look for different things to do that are new and can challenge yourself to steer your thoughts to other things.
It's easy! Just don't. Fill your days with activities that you enjoy doing that also require concentration. For example, rock climbing, hiking or running trails. spend time with friends and family. If you have no friends or family then get a job or a second job.
Delete their phone number, Facebook, etc. You need to realize that if you want them back, it is probably best to have some space before you guys make a move.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 3:00pm
Stopping talking with someone with whom you used to be close may be really difficult, but not impossible. I suggest doing things you like in order to keep your mind busy. You can also start hanging out with your friends and soon you will be able to move on.
Maybe give them a minute to themselfs and text them in a little bit because they might need some space
You can just not answer phone calls. Or establish boundaries that specify what they can and/or cannot do.
To stop connecting with your ex you must accept that it is over and look to the future instead of looking for comfort in the past. We all have brighter horizons that will come to us if we set our sights on what is to come.
It can be difficult, but it's best to just block them and, if you know them in real life, only talk to them when necessary (I.e a class project)
Slowly start distancing yourself and hanging around your friends more. Eventually, you'll find yourself never talking to him/her.
i would say go out and meet new friends, look for a hobby to do ,start a habit of reading books or find something interesting to do. and do not forget to delete his or her number
Just stop cold turkey. Delete their number. If you need an excuse and may want to be friends in the long run, just tell them you need space to sort yourself out, and hopefully they will respect that
Try distancing yourself a bit more. How long ago have you broken up? Was it harder on you or your partner?
Well the best thing you could do is find a good group of friends and a nice hobby! The habit will begin to grow smaller and smaller.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2016 11:14am
Decide, in your own mind, that this is what you know you must do, and then, do it. Sometimes the hardest problems do not require the most complicated solutions. Just do it.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2016 6:38pm
just delete their number and try to not think about them all the time if you find yourself thinking about it redirect yourself to a new activity
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2016 4:04pm
Delete his number. Delete him on any social media you have. If you want to be 100% sure to stop talking to him even block him. Don't go in on his trys to have contact again. Find yourself other people to surround yourself with.
You can stop talking to them by creating distractions for yourself! Go outside, hang with friends, read a book, see a movie, etc. Anything to take your mind off the breakup is a healthy way of distracting yourself.
There are ways to block them, from ignoring the,, to tell them that they should stop because you simply can't. You can also literally press the block button that is a feature on most Apps/ Social Platforms. Please state your reason before doing so.
Delete all possible contacts you have of them and start doing activities that will makenyou forget .
Anonymous
May 8th, 2016 8:50pm
Explain to him or her that you would rather not be friends after the break up. Give a brief reason as to why.
Delete all contact with them, including social media. Then just ignore them. It.may sound simple, but it can be that easy!
It's normal that you still have the urge to talk to your ex, and if you agreed on staying friends there's no reason to stop talking. But if you really never want to talk to that person, then delete them. Delete the conversations, the number and delete or block them on social media.
If your ex is continuing to talk to you, you should politely ask him to stop. If he refuses, you can either block him on social media or just avoid him. If he insists, then you can always try telling him that you don't want to talk to him. If that doesn't work, and he tries to stalk you, contact the police.
Look at it from the other side. Would like to be on a date with someone who talked about they're ex? Talk to someone the way you'd want them to talk to you
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 2:13pm
Ignore all their texts and/or phone calls and don't make any yourself. You can always block their number and change your cell phone number.
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