How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

Nothing can ease a heartache. It can only be controlled by averting the thoughts, something that keeps the mind off the person. But it never fully goes away. It simply gets less painful each day, as long as you realize that you need your mental sanity to function as a human, instead of putting your faith and happiness on someone who isn't worth it.

Broken hearts are tough indeed, but if they did something bad to you, then you need to move on. They aren't going to change. Don't let yourself agonize over it.

Find healthy ways to cope, remember that your feelings are valid, and stay positive! Remember people are out here to listen to and try and help as well.

I don't think I could stop thinking about the people I love or have loved, because Love is a strong emotion we identify with as humans and I think its the essence of life, so if someone ever was loved by me, I doubt I could just forget them and not hurt because naturally we would want to be with people we love and to be wanted by them, and not having that happen is a tragic place to be in. And understandably we would then be consumed by their thoughts and their absence. I think with a good structure in life and time to build on a different future and a better future with hope for love to find its way back in our life might be how we can not be consumed by this loss, and that structure or acceptance can be different for everyone which will help them heal and cope.

Yeah its absolutely natural to being in love someone , or like someone . its never be in your hand to love someone. Love is somewhat like unconditionally ,its donot see religion colour caste or anything its a basic connection by heart only . but its not necessary that u can get someone to whom u love or might be possible that she \ he would torn your feelings as well . but that's doesnt mean love is bad or never do again . love is the most precious things of the world who holds u tightly . if someone doesn't accept your love dont worry be optimistic about that the next person actually never deserve your love and feelings . I know its very painful to forget and move on but believe me the soon u get of out it the more u see yourself better and can Buck up yourself as well by confidence what u gain after this, that life doesn't ends here if next person has refused your love . u must keep strive for better love partner and believe in that somebody is there who made for you , who deserves u actually . who holds your hands unconditionally and that confidence will payback u definitely in future 😊

Sleep. Occupy mind with something,. Exercise till u drop. Go into an enclosed place or open space and scream.

I do my exercise to release the pain. Beat that hurts with something positive. beside that do socially meet up with others. share laugh and positive minds.

Your heart hurts because you - probably - loved him/her truly, this feeling is called longing! How can you stop thinking about him/her? Start thinking about something (but never someone) else. Your work, your college or school, the point is BE BUSY! Gradually, you will think of him/her less frequently. Finally, if you really loved him/her, you won't be able to forget, but at least it won't hurt!

Its hard to stop thinking about another when you are so in love. But maybe taking your mind of things by doing things you like may be a good start. Your heart hurts because someone has made an impact on your life and sometimes the thought of living without them causes not only emotion hurt but it may feel like your heart "breaks".

The heart is a tricky organ, it keeps you alive and kills you all at the same time. Sometimes it is best to accept that you will have thoughts about them from time to time. If you tell yourself "do not think about them" you are really forcing yourself to do just that. Accept that you may and talk to someone you feel you can trust when you do have thoughts. Eventually as time goes by you will find yourself having less and less thoughts, and the ones you do still have will be less and less important to you. It will get easier, reach out if you feel you need to talk. There are plenty of listeners here for you.

It's alright. Heart hurts because it loved once. And it's okay . Its okay to not feel okay during such times. Start distracting yourself in doing activities you love doing and make sure you socialize more and more, that would help you to move on to a certain extend. and then time would play its role. :)

See your friends, remove social media evidence of them, talk to someone on 7cups, take care of yourself. You can not switch of thinking about someone, it will take time but you will get there! Heartbreak is an awful awful thing but you will be okay before you know it, even if you don't believe it now.

It can be hard to get your mind off of someone, but from my personal experience the best thing to do is to either a) distract yourself by doing activities you love or b) track your feeling every day using a journal and how you feel each time you engage with the person. It helps and you'll eventually be fine i promise :)

You are hurting because you really cared about them... maybe you can go and enjoy some time with your friends

To stop thinking about him/her just ask your self was he/she worth it to get my attention just think of people who loves more than anybody like your parents . family and friends. So think about them instead of that stranger.. You are not in love its just attraction which will go after sometimes.. But true love like your father/mother love always remember the same

Your heart can hurt because of two main reasons. First, if you've been in a long and deep relationship, it's normal to feel hurt after it ends. Especially if you trusted your partner and your trust was broken. But even in a perfectly healthy relationship, it's normal to feel sad and lonely after a breakup. You will heal with time, and the best thing you can do is be kind to yourself, hold space for your emotions, and let them run their course. Secondly (and this might be combined with the first one), you believe that the he/she is the only person that can fulfil you, and that you will never find anyone else with whom you want to build a connection. While this may seem true at the beginning stages of a breakup (due to strong emotions and personal history between the two of you), it's really suboptimal to think that way, and I would also challenge you to find proof that it is really true. If you've been through multiple breakups already you may find that this belief weakens with each breakup. But more importantly, expecting someone else to fulfil you is like giving them keys to your own happiness. No one person can fulfil your core need to love and accept yourself. You are the only one who can do it. So keep your keys in your own pocket, because your happiness starts with you.

I have found it helpful when trying to get my mind off someone to instead put the energy into myself. Whether this be new hobbies, fitness goals, eating better, sleeping better, or better mental health. Healing is a long journey with harder days than others. It is important to not be too hard on yourself and express emotion when you need to get it out. Bottling the emotions up may cause them to not be healed properly. Also, having a great support system can be a great aid to healing after a breakup of some sort. People to lean on in a time of need are a great resource.

How can you stop thinking about him/her? One thing that helps me more often than not is distraction. Try to distract yourself from any thought, song, moment related to them. Make a list of as many lesuire activities as you can find- painting, reading, listening to music, drawing, baking, dancing, cooking etc. Anything you wanted to try but couldn't for some reason, perhaps a new dish? A new novel? A new musical piece? Divide them according to the days and try each on of them. Try to distract your mind with other activities, walks, perhaps wandering some unusual or uniquely fascinating place? But, I would suggest, never bottle your feelings up. Try to talk about it in as many details as you can with someone. If not someone, try to maintain a journal or talk to yourself. Ask questions like what do you actually feel? What led to the current situations? Where do you think things went wrong? Ask as many deep questions regarding it as you can. Try to let your feelings out: raw and hurtful. I would also suggest, never deny them. Rather acknowledge and accept them as you feel. It's okay to miss someone, it's okay to love someone. It's okay to feel for someone. Never be harsh on yourself for it. As for your question "Why my heart hurts so much?", I would answer it as- because you care about it; because you love them. How long will it hurt? As long as you care and love. How many times will the same thing hurt? Again, as long as you care and love. How deep will the wound be? As deep as your love was yesterday. The process of distracting yourself, not missing them won't be easy. In fact, it might be the most challenging thing you will ever have to go through. But, the end results will be phenomenal and worth it. Don't give up just before you succeed. You may remember them at some moment and it will hit you like someone kicked you in your guts, but, still go on. When those little moments or memories bug you, live them again and let them leave. When the feelings bug you? Feel them again and let them leave. Don't deny either, let them flow as freely as they want. That may hurt I agree, but keeping them rooted isn't the better choice. Good luck, hope you fall in love with the feeling of being alive again.

This means you could be infatuated or in love, or maybe you are talking about a friend or family member who you care about very much. Sometimes we get attached to people who end up leaving our lives at some point or another. This is natural, and we all go through it at some point in time whether it’s a break up, falling out, or passing of a loved one. Each person who comes into our lives brings us something new and different and changes us in some way or another. Allow yourself to feel sadness, grief, or anger, whatever it is you are feeling.

Someone told me once however long you dated or were in a relationship with someone it takes that much time or half that time to start feeling better so to speak again it's very difficult when you break off of any relationship a family relationship love relationship or friendship and it hurts your heart and sometimes it makes you feel like you don't even want to get out of bed like you don't want to do anything it feels like so to speak there's nothing left to do but there is and you have to just remember time will heal all and what you can 1st do is reach out get some resources together talk to her friend talk to her parent talk to someone that you trust the more you talk about these things the more guidance you can get from the proper professionals and resources and just remember it's okay to feel that way because that means you have empathy and you did love and you did care and it's okay to express yourself in a positive way finding Outlet that's positive

Breakups are hard. Someday, you'll learn to look at the breakup in a positive light. You'll find the right person and you'll be glad you didn't miss out on the experience.

Your mind thinks about things that you allow it to. When you need to stop thinking about someone, try cutting off from the person totally - block him/her on all the social media platforms, keep away from any kind of memory you think might remind you of him/her, don't listen to music which might bring memories of the past. Also, try keeping yourself busy throughout the day, surround yourself with friends and family, listen to motivational music, read/watch motivational movies! 'You' are the most important person in the whole world. Focus on yourself.

Find and do as many positive activities as possible, meet and reconnect with old friends. I can understand what you are going through, you are sad and heartbroken. Hopefully time will heal.

Focus on yourself things you like to do. Find yourself a passion. It hurts when you think about it. Get busy in your own life

Try to do things that you like and focus on yourself. Do stuff that makes you happy. Learn to love yourself.

i can stop thinking about others by thinking about myself first. After what i went thru the last 3 years, i realized at the end of everything - i have myself. And if i cannot focus and put myself as a priority then i will be at a lost. Your heart hurts because you have an overwhelming emotional attachment to that person. Accept that the pain is necessary to teach life lessons, understand that the pain is temporary and will go away. Writing down emotions will ease the heart ache.

It's called heart break. It will take a lot of time to get over but you will. Just be patient and keep yourself physically active. Do things you genuinely enjoy.

You are probably very attracted to said person, I have experienced a similar feeling, the best way to move on is carefully and at your own pace

Thinking about that person makes anyones head hurt. If you find an activity that can help reduce thinking about them it helps.

Because he or her gave you so much to remember- happiness, moments, presents- and now it's hard to forget this. Your heart has to accept this. Meet some friends, talk to them about this, enjoy life. Eat chocolate, this should help.