How can I stop thinking about him/her? Why my heart hurts so much?

u cant stop thinking. so dont punish yourself by trying . instead bend your thoughts into another direction, what u can be thankful for. when u want to be with someone, u cant force them, or change them. what u can change is yourself. how u wanna feel and do everything thats needed to feel so. selfpitty did not helped anyone ever. and no one want to stay around someone who fill so. first look that u can live happy with yourself, than others want to stay with you automatically. an old joke say for a man: if u ran behind a women, she may just call police, if u park ur car visible and put your purse on the top, she will come herself. and for a women the same, maybe you just stay there and enjoy yourself in all the beauty and love you are

Surround yourself with other things and people who make you happy. Read, paint, sing, Ect. Always put yourself before anyone else because you are the most important thing. Think about joining some kind of club to help you get your mind off of things. One of the best things you can do is reassure yourself that it was not your fault and it never will be. If you reassure yourself then you will feel better about your self esteem along with your personality. I think you are great and will do amazing things in your life time. I wish you all the best.

You heart hurts because you care, but you need to direct that care to yourself now! Start thinking, and taking care of you the way you would want to take care of them. I am sorry your heart is hurting, but with time...it'll be okay. Moving on from anything, rather it be love or friendship is a difficult task, but I believe you are strong and I also believe things happen for a reason. Maybe you needed to go through this to learn more about yourself. To fall in love with yourself, and to continue growing. Don't put so much effort into think of someone who didn't deserve your sparkle, love.

The best way to stop thinking of someone else is to focus on yourself. Take yourself in a date or find a hobby. Take this transition period to learn something new about yourself. Getting over a breakup is hard because we get so used to having that person in our lives and we now have to adjust to being without them, it can be challenging but it is possible. One thing you shouldn’t do is jump into a relationship with someone else, that’s not healthy and you won’t get over the person you’re missing any faster. Stay single til you’re ready to move on.

I'm going to use "him". Anyway, if you loved him and you two aren't together anymore it will hurt. And your heart will hurt. It's all about time. Time heals everything. It depends on how much you liked or loved him or spent time with him. If you want to stop thinking about him. You should do something you didn't do with him ever. Delete his pictures and everything related to him. Whenever you think of him Engage yourself with something else. Listen to pop music. Listen to some songs that does not remind you of him. Spend time with friends and family.

You have to occupy your mind, I've been there and it's really hard to make yourself stop thinking about someone. Try to be in a happy setting, spend time with friends. Or work on a hobby, even if it's something like coloring, when your mind is working at something else, it eases the pain for a while. When I went through a bad breakup a couple of years ago I spent 3 days alone laying in bed. That was NOT the way to heal. I started going to the gym and meeting friends for dinner or drinks, even spending time with my mom. After a while I realized that I shouldn't be suffering because he was the one who lost, I still have good memories of him but I don't miss him anymore. Usually a break up happens because it wasn't meant to be, someone better will come along and love you unconditionally.

Breakups can be tough to deal with. Having the person you shared everything with ripped away so easily hurts. There is no right way to just stop, to get them out of your head. They will be there for a while. However, continuing on a path such as this one, or even just talking to people who are here to listen is a huge step. Relationships take time to forge, and they take time to heal. It's like fixing a hole. You can't just throw some dirt over it, you have to slowly fill it up till there is no more space left.

Cause he hit the basin. He knew where he wanted to take me. Manipulator. I wanted to be manipulated. Just for that look in his eyes. The look of gratitude, appreciation, love, care and adoring. But he has that click in his head. When I am not perfect, better should not at all. Maybe better to say, when he is not perfect? But nothing ever will be and if he is not able to deal with that, he would't be able to handle other life issues. He is not worthy. It will hurt for a while, I know that. But I am worthy, though I doubt that, easily, I am. He is not, cause he doesn't believe that. My part now is to accept that and remember! Not to get to a manipulated position again. Because it is not me there. I am the one elsewhere. He doesn't want me there, but he is the one who puts me there. And I allow it. I CAN'T allow it anymore. I am worthy.

When you love someone, you make a connection with your heart... literally, above in the chest. When that person disappears from your life, your heart hurts because you experience the loss of there heart to heart connection. Because it hurts so much, we have the tendency to go to our mind-space to find solutions, reasons, we dwell in memories. These kind of thoughts trigger again the feelings of loss in our heart-space. So a loop is formed. We can break this loop to stay in our heart space. Breath slow and deep breaths and feel the air in the heart and keep focusing on the pain. Don't go in the mind but stay focused on the pressure in your chest and heal it with your breath, attention and self love.

Block them. Start focusing on yourself. The world doesn’t revolve around them. I know it seems hard now but your gonna get through it. I promise. Start going out for walks, a jog, anything to get your mind off of him/her. They moved on, so can you. You are strong and you can be independent. You came out of your mother by yourself and you are going to leave this world by YOURSELF. Reevaluate your life and open up your eyes to see what you’ve been missing because you’ve been blinded by love that life has been passing you by.

Hey, I’m just saying the truth; it’s hard but not impossible! I did that by spending time with my friends. Whenever he/she sent me a text, a snap or posted something, I didn’t reply, snap back or like the post within the first 5 seconds. Also, if he/she goes to your school but not in the same class, try to avoid the classroom and the people in it as much as you can. If he/she is in your class, sit as far away from them as possible. Don’t look at them to check if they look at you. If he/she talks to you, try to not freak out. Talk normally, pretend he/she is your best friend. And I know this step sounds ridiculous, but it helped me when I had a crush on a boy; pretend he’s your brother/she’s your sister.

To stop thinking about someone so much you have to focus on yourself. The only way you can do this is to find mindful activities to do and to do things that you truly enjoy. Start focusing on who you used to be and not the person that you became when you were with that person. We are all one whole person without someone and we are also a whole person with someone and both people are different people. You want to get back to being the person you were before the relationship and ReDiscover at heart who that person was.

That's up to you. Only you know what's best for you. Find your own personal way to to be at ease. There are many options in finding help and support; such as talking it out. When you can go over something in your mind out loud it allows the brain to see it in a new perspective. Seeing key points allows you to really define the root of the problem. Only then will you know what's best for you. Each individual is in fact individual, but finding someone who can listen and understand may help to fully develope the emotions you feel. Once we have a better grasp on what's causing this feeling, then you can build a personal growth path to help you feel whole again. Remember that nothing is permanent and everything in your life can be how you desire.

Start thinking about the the things which you love to do, like writing poems/stories, painting, social work, learning music etc.., Make your mind so strong that you should never go back searching for what went wrong between you and her/him. Dedicate all your time and energy in learning new things. Travel around the world, which will make your mind feel happy and relaxed, make you forget all the wrong things that happened in your life. In case if you still struggle to forget her/him, burn all the items that you shared with each other. Motivate yourself to go out of that stupid situation and achieve something in life.. good luck

Take a break and focus on yourself. Find something that you enjoy. The happier you are, taking time for yourself then the easier it'll be to stop thinking about the person. Your feelings of hurt are a normal reaction to a major life event - reflect on it and use it as something to grow in order to gain more healthy future relationships. It takes time to heal therefore just be patient and do not rush into things. Hobbies and interests can be a great way of also meeting new people and not falling into a spiral of sadness.

It sounds like your feeling a lot of grief due to someone in your life. Only you know why you are feeling pain, but often times when we are in these positions we tend to blame ourselves. I too have experienced loss of a loved one and I know that it takes a lot of strength to reach out in times of need. The fact that you are here demonstrates courage. Could you tell me more about what is going on with the person you can’t stop thinking about? It could help to tell me how you feel about this person.

Try and focus on things you enjoy doing and keep busy, what do you like to do? What is your routine that you have on a daily and weekly basis? Make a plan for your week and weekends and stick to it. That will keep you busy and less time to worry and you will feel like you are achieving something which in term will make you feel in control of your life. Look at what hobbies you have, make time to see your friends and family or those that are important to you. Learn a new skill and time will then pass more quickly.

You can't forget it of course.but I think you can choose to not care anymore what do you think? It's ok to not being ok sometimes.......,............. And you know this is really important thing so let's change our role for a minute if someone else said that to you what would you answer to her

It is normal to feel like this, don’t feel like you are alone a break up is a big thing to go though and is difficult for everyone but you will get there we are here to listen if you need to talk. maybe doing things that will keep your mind occupied may help. Thinking about them to much will distract you from finding yourself and a true soulmate, finding the person that truly makes you happy, so just go with the flow and let life do its work you will be happy again keep telling yourself that to get you though this!

Heartbreak is an experience sadly every teenager has to experience, and in that moment it may feel as if our world is falling apart. But you need to know that you were your own person before, you were one. it may take time to feel like yourself again but self-love is the way to go. physical pain also occurs with heartbreak at times. pushing through it with the support of your friends and self-acceptance might open up a new door.

It is not easy to stop thinking about someone who you have cared for and shared most of your time with. It will be difficult and it will take time. But you can start by removing everything that will remind you of him/her. Cry if you need to because it helps to let everything out. Talk to someone you trust so that you can vent about your feelings, it helps to talk instead of holding everything inside. Try doing new activities to keep your mind busy. Do something that you always wanted to do, and most of all take time to heal.

I know what that feels like. It's literally heart-wrenching. You start getting all profound and finally realize that, wow, this is what all the depressed poets were talking about. The first thing to do is ACCEPT. Accept that you're not over them. It's okay to still have lingering feelings for someone after a relationship is over. It's nothing to be embarrassed by. We're human beings, and human beings feel deeply. The second step would be to START somewhere. Start trying to get over them. Distract yourself. Watch a good film, or a sitcom (sitcoms are great for distracting yourself from your broken heart lol). read, write, paint, sketch, go for a walk, try a new recipe, redecorate your room, hit up an old friend - just anything to get your mind off them. Bottom line is, be kind to yourself. Give yourself time, accept that getting over a relationship is a long process. But that's okay. That's the beauty of being a human. We feel so deeply. Almost every great artist persona was plagued by a broken heart lol. Go watch the moon or something, lament about your broken heart. Exploit your hurt, and use it to motivate yourself. alright, i'm aware i'm starting to sound psychotic now so i'll go! but the rest of what i said comes from the bottom of my heart! hope you get over them soon

ive been there before. its completely okay to let out how you feel, you can always vent about it to someone. if you have noone, have a diary about it. what i did before when i had the same situation is, i had a new interest. by having a new interest, i got myself too distracted to it and not think about them much. i get myself motivated to not think about them. everytime they cross my mind, i try to ignore it and distract myself. im not sure why your heart hurts so much from it, maybe looking at them hurts you. well for me, it hurts me that i cant help them well, but now its okay since it was a year ago. im sure everything will be okay sooner or later. i hope everything goes well for you!

Start journaling. Pour out your emotions about him/her on paper. It will make you feel better after. There are things that are hard to say to your friends. Therefore, journaling helps to get those emotions out when you feel like you don't have a place to come to for comfort. Your heart hurts because you are going through a grieving process. Allowing yourself to feel all the hurt is healthy for you. Suppressing feelings only get worst from time to time. Practice self-love. When you think about that person. Try to do something that would makes yourself feel happy.

Your heart may hurt when you have just left someone or recently started liking someone. I am not clearly sure about how you can actually forget someone you like or dated in the past but I was always told that speaking out helped a lot of people instead of bottling up your emotions and living with that pain forever. Even if thy deny liking or liked you some of your stress may be released for telling them the truth but just because you feel that you like someone out of your league it doesn't always mean they dislike you back, infact they may want to be your friend and you may just not know thy do because they could also feel you dislike or don't want to be around them all causing them a bit of stress which can soon leave them at thinking you hate them and not the other way around.

In my experience, focusing on hobbies that are of interest to me have allowed a distraction long enough to help relieve overwhelming thoughts of a past relationship or friendship. I would also surround myself with as much friends and family as possible whom are close to me, to ease my mind and allow it to focus on other things. We hurt because we invest ourselves emotionally and mentally into another person that we cared for, but we must understand an essential element of life is time; time heals pain. When we allow time to take its course, one hour, day, week, month, or year can change so much.

Your heart can hurt so much because you do not accept what just happened with the relationship between you two. You still are processing the fact that you guys are not together. You have to find something that interests you to get busy and occupy your mind in order to decrease the moments that you spend thinking about him/her.

Sometimes it takes a while to be able to get over or even stop loving or thinking about some person. It all depends on the person but some start focusing on themselves more, some find a person to help them get over the other with. Some people start to Exercise to get their mind off of someone they love. Some find a new hobby maybe like crocheting or journaling. You’re heart might hurt so much because you really loved that person and weren’t ready to let them go yet. It can be very hard and hurt so much more than we imagined. Also sometimes letting go is better than holding onto them still.

There are a few things that can be done. First, it really helps to avoid situations that remind you of them. Don't listen to songs or movies that remind you of them. Try to minimize your texts or calls with them. Distance yourself. If you continue doing things that remind you of them, it would make the hurt worse. It keeps you in a never-ending loop of hurt. Then, spend time with your friends and family. Being socially active online or in person will provide you with love and support. This way, you will not crave the attention of the person you can't stop thinking about. Lastly, keep working on yourself. At the end of the day, redirecting the energy that you devote to thinking about that person to yourself will allow you to come to terms with the situation. It will allow you to slowly resolve the hurt and make peace internally.

When we find ourselves fixated on a person, we need to wonder if it is healthy and the reason as to why we are doing it, is it a love interest? A best friend you wanna go do everything with? Heartaches suck, but sometimes we need to go find healthy distractions. Maybe calling or texting with a close friend for advice relating to the issue should be considered. I myself have crushed on a person and found myself fixated on them for a while, but eventually we can push past it and move onto something new, and or if it's appropriate maybe approach the person in a safe manner and take the dive to see what they think.