How can I stop thinking about my ex?
Last Updated: 03/20/2021 at 6:24am
Kacey Oliver, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I specialize in depression and anxiety disorders. I offer warmth and compassion, cognitive behavioral therapy, along with mindfulness for a successful therapeutic outcome.
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How about instead of thinking about this person, write it all down in your journal. Every time you have a thought, if you are near some paper, write it down. If not, wait until you get home and write it all down. Keep doing this until you are able to move forward in your life.
You have to surround yourselves in things that you enjoy. Change up your everyday routine make it interesting. Otherwise everyday you will have an empty feeling and your ex will take up your mind every second of everyday.
Think of our live’s like books, some people come and go. But just because their gone, doesn’t mean it’s over. It just means their part in our story is over. Just another chapter. It’ll be hard to get over them but it’s not impossible.
Try to focus your attention on something that you like. As in you can engage in some activity which helps you forget problems.
To stop thinking about your ex, you need to start keeping yourself busy. It can be hanging out with friends, finding a new hobby, joining a gym or any class, a new tv series, etc. Because remember an empty mind is a devil's workshop. Focus more on yourself- your health, your goals. Do what makes you happy and content :)
Before anything else, you have to allow yourself to grieve. Watching our relationships end will never be something we can just get over after ten minutes, and that's okay. Cry in your bed, cry in the shower, cry with your friends. Allow yourself to sit down on the couch and feel nothing but absolute sadness. Don't try to skip this stage; it's the first step towards getting over someone. After you're done mourning and crying and feeling sad, however, you have to take some more proactive steps. Throw away all that reminds you of your ex, return everything that belongs to them. Delete pictures, throw away the gifts (or if you're not ready just hide them somewhere you can't see), get rid of anything that even slightly reminds you of them. Unfollow them on social media, at least for now (out of sight, out of mind). After you do all of this, it's time to focus on yourself. Get a new haircut, clean your whole house, adopt a new habit, start exercising, buy some new clothes or sell/donate the ones you don't like. Hang out with your friends (I would not advise drinking or doing drugs just to try and forget someone), whether it's pizza night or going to a club or both. Just make sure you're having fun with people who care about you. It's all a matter of keeping yourself busy and doing things for yourself; that's what moving on with your life really means. Try that art class you always wanted to take, try a new workout routine, set new goals. If you try to forcefully not think about your ex, it will have the exact opposite effect. When they come to your mind, take a deep breath and just let that thought go; there's not a lot of things you can do. It's in the past. Focus all of your energy on your own stuff and after a while you'll realize that you hardly ever think of them anymore.
Try doing things that you love and focusing on experiences and yourself. It's alright to think about your ex and the memories you share, but don't focus on just that. Focus on growing yourself. Find something that you love, either sports, books, friends, religion. What makes you happy is what is important.
Many ways, however, some people deal with things differently so we'll see. But...usually, do things that you enjoy and feel comfort in. Do things that are the complete opposite of what it was like in the relationship, do things that maybe your partner hated but you loved. Something along these lines
Thoughts aren't something easily controlled, however that doesn't mean you don't get to choose how you see your experiences and memories with them. It's not necessarily bad to think about your ex, though those images can be sour at first, with time and compassion they can develop into something to reflect instead of dwell upon.
firstly, focus on the word 'ex' and understand that it means he/she is not in your life anymore and for you to be happy, concentrate on your present. i know it is hard but you have better things coming your way. try and avoid places and memories that trigger you to think about it.
It is a cliche but finding yourself a hobby to distract you would help a lot It can be challenging at first however once you feel the relief of setting your mind free it’ll get easier and easier
care for yourself. Hobbies, eating healthy and getting enough sleep will make you feel much better.
It really is just 'time', that old cliche. It takes time to get over someone, but you can certainly take steps towards this, by building up your life with more social activities, joining a group, finding things to focus on, learning to be happy with yourself and working on you. Take yourself out on a date, make sure you have good friendships around you and eventually over time things will heal. They are your ex for a reason.
Get a new one! Surely speaking , going any other thing to indulge yourself will not work , so instead go try out on a new girl/boy. This will keep you busy and you will find a beautiful/handsome reason to forget your ex
You can't stop thinking about your ex at the first stage, your mind will play and replay the memories, at anytime of the day, or night, your mind will keep replaying that first time, that last time, and whats' in between. The best thing to do is be aware of it, to allow it to surface, then to release it with breath, with carrying on with your everyday activities, or trying as hard you can not to let it halt you. But, in case you need to slow down, do it. In case you need to cry, do it. Reach out to a friend, a family member, a listener right here, do it, you're not alone in this. Break-ups are hard experiences, and they always teach us about ourselves, what we are made of, how we love, what we love, and also about connecting to others, the boundaries, the trust, the intimacy. Try to observe, take notes, create something out of the misery of a break-up. You're going to be alright :)
It's okay we all think about our exes at some point of life but thinking about them more can cause distress to ourselves. To avoid these negative thoughts we can fill some productive or better thoughts in our mind. We can replace past negative thoughts with better ones. We cannot stop our brain from thinking however we can replace thoughts. You can do that by many ways such as opting for a hobby, be with people whom you like. If you keep your brain busy in other things then it will not think about your past or your Ex. Hope it helps. Best of luck!
Speaking from personal experience. The best thing I found was to keep busy! Especially doing hobbies, seeing friends and family, and finding new things that you enjoy! The more time you spend doing other things, you’re not able to concentrate on an ex as you have less time to. Your mind will be occupied doing other things :).
Think about why you left your ex, if it’s a bad reason then try to realize that you left them for a reason and then it’s not good for you to be hung up on them.
The best way is by hanging out with your friends meeting new people just doing new things and experience life with your ex
Not thinking of your ex can be challenging. Maybe not "stopping" but just let those thoughts flow through. Don't judge them or push them aside. Over time those feelings/thoughts will lesson.
Work on yourself. Love yourself and think more positively for the future better than the past . The future is holding so many amazing people and challenges for you . Do what you love and what gives you joy . Keep yourself busy .
By stop thinking:-D simple. Don't think too much and move on. Think this way if he can move in why can't you.
If you truly want to move on from your ex, it will take time and a bit of effort. Start by removing the things that remind you of them from your life. This can be anything from physical items to pictures on your phone or music playlists. If possible, it may also be helpful to unfollow them on social media. Start to fill your life with things outside of them (e.g. different people, new hobbies). The less you remind yourself of them the better. Ultimately, time will be your best ally. One day you will realize that you no longer think of them the way you used to. If you do, try to remember the positive and graciously accept it as part of your past.
Distracting yourself with things that make you happy, such as little things, can help you stop thinking about your ex. Be sure to surround yourself with positivity. Taking a relaxing bath, talking to your friends, going for a walk, reading a book, or playing music are some suggestions.
Fixing on an ex might seem charming. It might even seem loyal. But if we see the picture a little closer, it means looking for love where it isn't. To get over someone, you first need to get over the idea that your ex was this perfect being. You should really get serious now. Take a notebook and with great details write down all the things you liked about her. There are other people with the same qualities. The liberation is not the moving on. But its that the same qualities we liked in our ex are present in other beings.
Consider distracting yourself with other things you enjoy such as watching movies, calling family or friends, reading a book, going for a walk/run, or learning a new skill.
Get Busy, focus all your thoughts and energy on yourself. Find a new hobby or join a sports group to meet new friends. keep looking into the future and keep rewarding yourself on choices that are helping you move on.
Make yourself busy in the works you love to do like sing a song, paint something. If possible try to make some new hobbies which will make you happy and motivated. If possible go out spend your day with those people who love you like your family members and your friends. And at last the most important thing is to Believe in yourself believe that you deserve someone better someone who care for you, someone who understands you and supports you. The most important thing someone who Respect you, your thoughts and your individuality and doesn't try to change you. Someone who will love you the way you are
These seven simple, effective tips on how to stop thinking about your ex-husband or ex-boyfriend will help you overcome obsessive thoughts. Take heart, for you will move on with your life. You can stop ruminating about the past – and you can rebuild your life, renew your heart, and restore your joy! The most important thing to remember is that you’re caught in a destructive, habitual thought pattern. You aren’t trapped and helpless; you are simply in the grip of an obsessive way of thinking. Learning how to stop thinking about your ex simply requires you to break the habit. It takes energy and dedication at first, but you can stop the obsessive thoughts about the person you lost – you can let go of someone you love. Another important thing to remember when you’re learning how to stop obsessing is that you are not alone. Millions of people have broken their addictions to their ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands, and so can you.
You can stop thinking about your ex by not perpetuating situations that trigger thinking about him/her. For example, looking at old photos, going to places you used to attend together. If you are stuck in a mindset thinking about your ex, change the physical location you are in and do something different. Doing new activities that you didn't formerly do when you were with your ex builds new brain chemistry and you replace old experiences with new ones. Try new things. Create a behavior that you use every time you think of your ex that is new and unique to the new, single, you. Try humming, writing a haiku, going for a walk or any other form of behavior based self care that stimulates your mind, body, and heart.
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