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How can I stop thinking about someone I want to forget?

25 Answers
Last Updated: 10/19/2020 at 9:16am
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Depression and anxiety can feel overwhelming even on the best of days. I believe in helping clients understand these disorders and help them to reduce and manage symptoms.

Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
February 1st, 2016 7:46pm
If the crush isn't too consuming, we could simply enjoy the sensations. If it's too difficult, my suggestion would be time and distance. We could also try focusing on filling our lives with other things. More meaningful things, we can manage, such as personal goals. If we keep our mind empty or unchallenged, it will wander.
aamdna
April 23rd, 2015 12:06am
The best thing to do is to stay busy so you're distracted and thinking about other things. It also helps to not talk to them anymore if you still do. Another thing that helps is to delete or block them from all social media so you don't see them anymore; out of sight, out of mind! Good luck!
evalis
May 23rd, 2016 9:19pm
The more you wanna forget someone the more you will remember them. So stop trying to forget and accept they were a part of you life and try to move on.
Anonymous
September 7th, 2015 3:54pm
Acknowledge the feeling. Think of something unpleasant immediately afterwards. Or allocate a time to think of the person and try not to do it outside that period.
Celty
January 15th, 2015 5:31pm
You can use distraction (sport, art), talk to some interesting people about things you love, organize something big like a travel or a party, realize that you're the only one who realy deserve your attention (yeah, you should think about you first), and do all the things that make you feel happy, and try new things ! Adventure is always exciting, it helps us to build very strong personality. :)
Anonymous
February 16th, 2015 2:27pm
Distracting yourself from thinking about them as much as possible!Trust me you can do it!I believe in you!
coffeeok2
July 13th, 2015 5:50am
Acknowledge to yourself that your spending too much energy thinking of this person. Make a commitment that whenever you find yourself thinking of this person, you acknowledge the thought and tell yourself to think of something else. Be consistent and be gracious to yourself. It could take some time...
PaloP
August 18th, 2015 8:53am
Time is all you need. One day, without notice, you realize that you don't think in that person. It's simple at all.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2015 4:23pm
keep you'r mind on other things get out for a walk, talk to a friend , go shopping and when you don't expect it you will forget the person all together .
4thepeople20
February 8th, 2016 6:33pm
Truth is, if you are still thinking about them, then your subconscious isn't ready to let go yet. My advice would be to find something to occupy your time.
Hometown2017
December 19th, 2016 11:06pm
I will be honest i am in the same situation. I think that it helps if you dont see this person or do something that reminds you of this person. Because when you do that its hard to forget. One thing i was doing was trying to fix the problem. By constantly talking to this person and engaging. Now i havent really talked to this person and that helps.
IngeniousBanana
August 6th, 2018 2:13pm
I know how you feel, i've been there, many times, time is only thing capable of doing such a thing, when i was in your situation i read a quote "Even the strongest feeling, if unrequited eventually fades". I didn't belive it at the time, i thought it wasn't true and yet one day i came to realize that it was true all along. Some days you will still find yourself thinking about that person because getting over real love ain't easy, but believe me eventually you will.
withyouforever
May 20th, 2015 9:31am
There are instances when we think about a person. Maybe a particular song, a place or anything. To forget that person, you must foresee such circumstances and try to avoid them completely.
TheGirlInMyMirror
June 5th, 2015 11:33am
I understand it can be hard on your side to get over a loved one. as a friend, I would suggest you to indulge in activities that give you happiness. try taking up a hobby, that might drift you off from the pain.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2015 2:09am
try to block that person from your mind. block them on social medias or don't call them etc...
Thefreudianslippers
August 17th, 2015 5:06am
realize if this person is worth remembering asking your self this questions: " Is this person contributing to my life in a positive way or negative way. Become aware that this person is someone you want to forget. Coming to terms as to what the person has done to you helps with the process of moving on. Make the commitment to leaving this person in the past. Lastly, why are you giving this person so much power chances are this person has moved on, and it's time you did as well.
ChainsGoneSetFree
June 13th, 2016 3:45pm
Tell me why you want to forget the person. Talking it out may help with your perspective. It might help to be intentional about focusing on other good aspects of your life.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2016 12:15am
I don't think you can ever completely forget someone, but by letting go of the anger or sadness they brought you will help.
Josehelpx
February 6th, 2017 3:26am
Distract your mind! Go out with friends, go for a run, go for some food, watch a film, listen to music, try your best to divert your attention and it becomes much easier :)
Kalanchoe
December 4th, 2017 5:10pm
To stop thinking about someone you need to cut ties with anything you might associate with them and generate new or stronger ties with other people. To cut ties you can delete pictures you have with them, delete old messages, stop talking to them and avoid places where they may be. Making new connections or making existing ones stronger allows you to put your focus somewhere else and can really help you forget. Hang out with existing friends or make new ones, you can also pick up hobbies that include other people to help you.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2018 6:44pm
Been there- many a time. It's never easier, despite going through it all the time. Try and distract yourself and don't listen to things/look at things/do things that remind you of them. Try new songs, new hobbies, new books... You can create new memories without them in it.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 2:34pm
i do some activities that i love and i dont think about him when he comes to my head i try to thing in another thing
daniiii
March 7th, 2016 11:16pm
Meet new people. And think about the bad things from the person you want to forget.. perhaps makes it easier.
Marjo
August 6th, 2019 9:58pm
My personal advice is to really watch your train of thought. Every time your mind goes to that person, try to distract yourself. This will be very hard in the beginning, but as time passes you will notice that this becomes easier and you will slowly adjust to not thinking about them. If this does not work for you, try to avoid things that remind you of them, such as specific locations or objects. You really have to train yourself to not think about them, and do not be afraid to reward yourself if you think you're making progress.
Gl0wGOALS
October 19th, 2020 9:16am
I think it's valid to tend to think of someone, for whichever reasons you have. And you've taken a great, brave step in asking this question -- it demonstrates that you genuinely care in letting go and forgetting them. There are many ways to process this, and it may be a trial experience of trying out what works for you, so please keep your head up as you patiently walk through this with each careful step. One way you can handle this is to write a letter with the feelings you've had about your relationship with the person. You can do what you need to do - burn it, rip it, throw it away, ignore it, etc. You can also receive support from others. You're here for advice, but having support is great too. Having someone to listen to you and hear out what you have to say about the person can be so helpful, so a friend, family member, or listener here on 7 cups can be there to support you! One way that helped me let go of someone I thought about often was discovering my passions and hobbies. Having an enjoyable activity that I pursued challenged and motivated me to do it more to develop myself in the journey, and I fell a little more in love with life in the process! I encourage you to brainstorm a list of a few things you like doing or always wanted to explore. It's okay to think of them sometimes, and if you find yourself doing so, please be understanding with yourself and assure that you're doing your absolute best. Hey, you asked the question, and that was the first step! =)