How can I stop waking up sad? I just want to forget

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Last Updated: 07/10/2018 at 6:13pm
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Top Rated Answers
WeAreWarriors
November 30th, 2014 9:34pm
1. Express gratitude 2. Set your intentions for the day 3. Take five long deep breaths in and out 4. Smile for no reason 5. Forgive yourself for yesterday’s mistakes
Zoey24601
December 4th, 2014 12:02pm
This problem is all about perspective. When I was depressed I would wake up sad every day because I didn't see a reason to keep going. The easiest way to help with this is to find something to get up for. If you have a reason to get up everyday your day will start better, because when you have a cause you're glad that you're alive to be able to do it.
worldtraveller
December 8th, 2014 8:04am
Everyday when you wake up, write about a thing that you are hopeful about and/or something that makes you happy on a piece of paper and then put it in a jar. After some time, read all the things you wrote from the jar. It will make you feel much better.
heartfulSpring84
January 19th, 2016 2:23pm
It is never easy to forget, everyday you wake up sad until that one day when you dont! Trust me that day comes for everyone of us and hope it does really soon for you. Try to be happy and help others be happy, :)
TruthSinger
December 25th, 2015 5:39am
For me I look at my wall which has all the attributes, goals, inspirations that I am working to manifest in my life on it. I made a collage from a bunch of donated mags at the library that they were throwing out, cut out things I really like that resonate and I keep them near my bed. Before I go to sleep, I look at them. I spend a few minutes just gazing at them and which ever pictures feel most strongly so that I can get my headspace right before sleep. I say to myself, and frequently aloud, that I want to experience good dreams, filled with symbolism and divine purpose which I can easily understand and that support my efforts to lead a happier life. I take a few deep breaths, slowly and then I go to sleep. 80% of the time I wake up at some point after a dream and I make a point of setting an immediate intention to experience joy, laughter, friendship or fellowship and good things in general that day. By the time I get out of bed, I'm calm and looking forward to whatever comes up. I know that sounds involved, but after you do the work to set it up, it really takes less than 3 minutes to set those intentions and fill your brain with images you want MORE of in your life, rather than repeating what you don't want to yourself as you lie there worrying. I hope that helps!
QueenJ
December 29th, 2014 5:38pm
Listen to music as soon as you wake up. Eat your favorite breakfast. Take a bath. Go out shopping. Drink coffee.
naturalFireworks05
January 14th, 2016 3:24pm
When you wake up,rub your palms together then look at your palms and repeat,"today is going to be great day" and just go over in your mind how you want to spend your day and also give thanks for all the good things in your life,however small it might be. :)
VickyP
March 22nd, 2016 8:36pm
Hmm. I am so sorry you are going through something like this. It must be really difficult on you. However know that this feeling wont last forever. try to find joy in everyday things. Do something for yourself during your day. Go for a walk, listen to some music or watch a movie. Time heals all woulds after all. All we have to do is believe it. Be strong, follow your dreams and believe that you willl find your happiness. It will happen. Find that something in life that makes you feel anticipation for tommorow. Find something you enjoy and follow it. It can be anything. From working out to writting.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2015 12:02am
It sounds like something has happened and you should probably talk to someone about it. If that doesn't help, there may be some other things going on that needs to be addressed. It may be something as simple as talking about it, to being prescribed medication to help with continual feelings of sadness.
helpfulForever45
December 2nd, 2014 3:21am
It's devastating to wake up sad. Something that helps is focusing on the things to look forward to during that given day. There's always something to look forward to...even if its just your morning cup of coffee, it could be a book you like to read, a show on tv, whatever it is just something that makes you get up out of bed. Sometimes i like to start my day will some yoga or journaling to get my thoughts together.
smileitswhit
January 7th, 2015 10:24am
try to focus on the good before you fall asleep. find the Good in the bad, even if it's something small. Sometimes a bowl of mac and cheese will help an awful day better for me.
crixa
March 14th, 2015 3:18pm
It is believed that helps if a person before sleep thinks of positive things, whatever makes person happy it is helpfull thinking of that. If you fall asleep with positive thoughts the chances waking up more positive are more likely to happen.
mrnjyclmc
December 16th, 2015 7:10am
You can't stop waking up sad when in the first place, crying is the ultimate reason why you fell asleep. You really don't have to forget things. You just have to accept everything and move on with your life. Don't dwell on the past. It's not worth it. Stop looking back, because it's not where you're going.
hopefulWords007
December 19th, 2015 2:23pm
listen good and inspiring music not sad one..help someone daily, make a goal of life. if you have not then dont stop ,keep exploring ,hug your dear and near one to show your affection..these little things will make you happy .Do exercise , ,good diet with fruits ,take enough sleep .,one thing is important to remember is live in present.past die for present and future take birth from present.
divinewillpower86
December 23rd, 2015 11:03pm
the dire need to forget means the Thought o Remembering the things to hard. Just be Cool. and say to yourself that you are just cool. That's it. Trying to forget is like double the remembering!.
alwaysbelieve8
December 26th, 2015 8:06am
You wake up sad bcoz you go to bad sad...not over think before going to sleep.. I kn you can't escape but understand. .future is just an imagination and thinking about something which is just a imaginary will give you fear anxiety as long it as wrong affect on you skip your thoughts alternate your thoughts ..and of the day ur worrying over something imaginary and just an illusion. .If your stressing about yesterday it as already passed and you can't fix it it's just a phase ...so stay strong listen to beautiful songs think of the amazing and beautiful you and go to sleep in a peaceful mind
GuardianAngel19
December 1st, 2014 2:43am
The day before you go to sleep, think of stuff you can do in the morning. Like: plan a delicious breakfast. Ask yourself, why am I waking up today? To see your friends? To exercise? Have something to do. Hang out with friends and make future plans.
DreamerOfDreams
December 1st, 2014 1:39pm
When you wake up the first thing you should do is smile. You are alive and well. Also try doing something you injoy in the morning like reading the newspaper or watching the news. When you do that try to make a list off all the good things in life and all the bad things. Over time you will begin to see there is more good then bad out there. :)
erinjmuller
December 23rd, 2014 1:18pm
Find things that inspire you, excite you, and make you want to get out of bed the next day. Things that make you happy and feel good.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2015 8:19pm
Just spend more and more time with your famlily and friends..lets just try to forget the stuff bothering you..try doing things which makes you happy and whenever bad moment comes lets just busy yourself in anything else :)
Anonymous
December 9th, 2015 12:04am
It depends what you want to forget. Some things you have to know you might never be able to forget no matter how hard you try. You just have to learn to live with it. Try changing some things in your life to make it more positive and to make you more happy! Try some new hobbies, make some new friends, etc.
CatieCatWhispers
December 10th, 2015 11:26pm
Feeling sad and going to bed can be a great thing. You expect to wake up feeling refreshed and in a better mood. It is horrible when you wake up and still feel sad. I've been there. I know what it's like to go to bed sad and to wake up sad and it is one of the worst times for me. But, what helped me may be able to help others. I started to empty my mind before I went to bed. Either I would write my feelings down or meditate. Meditation has helped me greatly. There are many tools for meditating here and online. It may be able to help, even just a little bit.
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 7:32am
Forgetting traumatic and scarring events won't help. Often the mark they make are so scarred into our being, it becomes a part of who we are. However, use that experience to grow...to be compassionate...to understand your heart. When things get rough, find some one to talk to...seek help and don't hide. Understanding and accepting that you can't do it alone is a huge mark of strength--you are accepting that you want to recover. The tattoos left on our soul from past experiences tell a story...and though we cannot remove them, we can empower our future and our actions. We can guide others...we can learn, teach, and mentor. Don't allow it to rule you--but rather find empowerment...you survived...beautiful and wonderful you...you are here and though you may not feel it, you are strong.
KiraThePurpleCat
December 24th, 2015 10:00pm
Meditate on your heart chakra when you wake up. Use the mantra : I am enough, I have enough, I am doing enough. Alternately, picture yourself in your own secret garden. Your bare feet on the grass, soaking up mother nature's goodness. Embrace the sun's warmth. Breathe. Take in all the goodness, exhale the bad.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 7:35pm
Before you go to bed stop thinking about thinks, that are bothering you, maybe listen to your favorite song or do something you like.
Aon
July 10th, 2018 6:13pm
Books and video games are a great way to forget about everything bad. They help you zone it and forget.
Kjarra
April 10th, 2015 4:09pm
In order to forget you must first accept it. You wake up sad, it's okay : you won't remain sad forever. Be accepting your feelings.
candlelight8
April 12th, 2015 6:45am
I think that today will be better than yesterday. I will accept the sadness at night and try to figure out what is going on and what is really wrong. So when I wake up, my sadness dissapear and I could be doing something today with full of spirit and faith.
SpiritWolfNYC
May 30th, 2015 2:41am
Maybe you need to talk to someone about it. Talk about what you are feeling and why, because venting can be very helpful
Avianstar
June 17th, 2015 7:13am
Maybe try getting a few hobbies, it will take up your time giving you none to think about sad things