How can I tell my boyfriend how I feel about him?
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Anonymous
August 14th, 2019 4:35am
Sharing feelings with other people might pose challenges for you, and you’re not alone on that. I know the feeling of anxiety and nervousness will creep in, but don’t let them stand in your way. You’ll realize that by sharing those feelings with the person, you’ll get more closure and come to an understanding for both sides. Considering this is your boyfriend, I assume that you guys have an ongoing connection, and I’m positive he’d like to hear what you have to say. You are the expert here in your situation, if your heart truly feels it’s right, then take the courage to make that move!
Honesty is key! You should be honest with him and communicate every feeling you have towards him and the relationship in general. Relationships can often turn toxic with a lack of communication and honesty. If you're struggling with how to start maybe sit him down when both of you are calm and are not in bad moods and just tell him how you feel and ask for support from him. If he does not give you that support then he was never meant for you! If it gets toxic, no matter how in love you are with him you always should take care of yourself first.
You can tell your significant other how you feel in many ways, depending on your personal preference! You can write him a note, a letter, a song. You can message them, email them, video or voice call them, do it face to face. Do what you feel is right. What might seem right to you may not seem right to others and vice versa so do what you think is right and tell them how you feel. You'll need to have confidence but if you plan it out beforehand what you want to say, then that will definitely help you in the long run. Hope this helped!
You have to say it what you feel, is not difficult, if you love him, say it, if you dont, say it too, dont be scared okay? nowbody are perfect, and you arent too. Youre boyfriend have to know what you feel, you understand? if you have a relation ship, it have to be true and safe. Dont be scared of anything, you are strong and you have to say what you feel always. Just, talk to him, and say him what you feel honestly, it is not difficult, be honest always, and all will be okay with him
Close your eyes for sometimes. You'll see him, you'll see the man of your dreams in front of you. You'll feel butterflies in your stomach, you'll feel your heart racing. You know you have a lot to say to him, you love him so much. It isn't hard to put feelings to those words of your heart.
Start with taking them somewhere that you both feel comfortable. It could be your apartment or his apartment or a neutral place like a park. Now it depends on what you're going to say if it's something like you don't want to be with them anymore then you have to be very honest and sincere but also listen to their concerns when they talk. If you want to tell them that you love them then you want to do so in a way that doesn't come off as obsessive or like you don't mean it you want to be sincere. If you want to keep seeing them just simply tell them you're having a great time and would like to see where this goes and that is probably the best answer of all.
Expressing your emotions is a very complex thing and takes a lot of strength. It is very important for a person to express their emotions in a way that they really understand and it is very important for your well being as well as the strength of your relationship and hiding emotions can cause great harm sooner or later and then it gets really messy when things get build up between and there is a lot of tension or baggage, just take deep breath and be calm, honest and be subtle and don't be afraid to show you actually feel. You should just be yourself.
Be open and honest don’t hide anything. Start out by having a normal conversation than slowly go into how you feel.
Being true to yourself is always the best way to make yourself happy. So please open up your true feelings to your boyfriend. One tip to make this work better. Please choose a time when he has a good mood with less anxiety. So that he can be a good listener and things will be worked out.
Sometime, when he avoid to listen to you and it may not mean that his feelings on you is decreasing time by time. But he may be very tired from a long day. He must have his own stress (work, family matter and etc).
That's why choosing the best timing and situation to open up your feeling to him plays vital role.
Think of what comes to mind when you think of him. Ask yourself what it was that attracted you to him in the first place. Think about the small things he does that make you smile or hurt your feelings. By doing that, you have a the beginning of a solid foundation on starting the conversation and being able to hold his attention while you say what you feel is needed to be said and how it needs to be said. Also, ask yourself why you need to tell your boyfriend how you feel. Is there something wrong? If it's just to express love, then you'll be good to go!
That heavily depends upon what you are telling him, if positive this should be fairly easy, simply telling him how you feel straight up is plenty and he will love you for it. On the other hand, if it's more of a discussion about a problem in the relationship or the fact you simply want to split up, it becomes a much more sensitive subject and much more difficult to work with. If you need to tell him something serious, personally I would recommend you to do it in person as this will usually help him come to terms with things and make him feel better about it in general. Just ensure you aren't going to hurt him any more than is needed.
I know it takes a lot of courage sometimes to say things that are on your heart, but once you do it’s like a weight is lifted off your shoulder, and you no longer have to hide or fake how you truly feel. In my opinion that’s the best part of being in a relationship, having someone you can go to whenever you need to talk, and someone who accepts you. Even if it’s something they won’t like, you should talk to them about it, because you could just be second-guessing yourself. Just breathe, and tell him how you really feel.
Just be honest. Opening yourself up to being vulnerable invites him into that space where you can both be honest. Are there things you're worried about? How he might react for example? Often these fears are not realised when you actually get to talk. Being vulnerable is scary, but unless you express yourself, you won't know what he is thinking either! He might be sitting there wondering how to open up to you as well! I hope it goes well, but even if it doesn't you won't be left wondering about what might have happened or how he might feel.
You can tell her how much you love him and make him feel that he is special for you. You can make him believe that he is perfect for you with his imperfections and you love him the way he is. You can tell him that your world is incomplete without him. Happiness and success has no meaning without his support. And you want to love him throughout your life and want him to love you for this life. Your love is beyond these worldy things because you see stars in his eyes and want him to see galaxies in her eyes too
Good feelings should be easy to share unless he doesn’t want a relationship. Bad feelings are more difficult and you want to be careful not to say negatives things that you’ll regret. Sometimes letting those slide and turning your attention to something positive is best.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2018 5:36am
Honest conversation is the key to a good relationship. You could first not down or practice your points in from of mirror and then sit in a comfortable environment and talk in a friendly manner about your concern.
There are several ways you could try to tell him in a letter or over a candle lit dinner. The possibilities are endless
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 6:33am
Tell him what you feel, not by text or through a phone call. Talk to him personally, and only the two of you will discuss on what you are feeling. :) Make time to talk to him.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2018 8:15am
First, offer a private and direct conversation, make sure face to face conversation because if you see their face, you can know they are listening or not.
Second, talk in a gentle way. Tell them how you feel (happy, sad, pleasant or unpleasant... etc.)
Then ask him how does he feel after you tell him about this
Firstly identify the words to express how you feel about him, take time to think about the thoughts and emotions you have for him. Once you have gathered your ideas, ease into the conversation with related topics, such as how you have been feeling lately and how the relationship has been going in your eyes. Once you feel comfortable enough in the conversation, slowly start to let out all of your feelings and express to him your emotions.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:36pm
Sit down with him, and have a meaningful conversation. Don't hold back your feelings. Tell him, or else you might regret it.
You can make a special dinner, and after you both eat have a light hearted chat outside or in an area where it's quiet and no distractions. Maybe you can buy or make a card and share your thoughts that way. Hope these ideas can help you.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 8:28pm
You need to make sure both of you are in a comfortable, emotionally as well as mentally. Be it good or bad feelings, make sure you're mature about it and don't hold back. Be civil, keep in mind that the other person has feelings too and make sure to always hear out their opinion as well.
Just be straight forward and tell him. It’s best to have a open and honest communication. If I were him, I’d want you to truthfully tell me how you feel about me.
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 4:14am
Think about what do you feel and why. Then take your time to find the words he will understand and won’t make him overreact. Once you have figured out what and how you would explain him your feelings, plan a meeting in a quiet place where you want be interrupted.
go and tell him on his face,i know u may be shy but thats the best thing u can do,maybe buy a gift too,and most importantly have confidence
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 1:01pm
Usually, I would just advice you to go straight up to him and sit down and have a serious talk. if you truly love each other, there is nothing you can't talk about.
Anonymous
May 16th, 2018 11:55am
Ask for a good time to speak to him. Write down what you want to tell him before hand, be specific and non aggressive. Tell him in a calm voice and manner when the time comes.
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 4:22am
If he's an honest rational person who is willing to respect what you're saying, then he will listen willingly to whatever you will have to say.
If that is not the case, then the more you need to say how you feel about him.
The best thing I can say is to be completely honest about it. No sugarcoating.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2022 12:15am
Communication is always key, and opening up that conversation is important so that miscommunication doesn’t happen! There’s been times that I’ve felt frustrated at my boyfriend and refuse to communicate with him and play a game of chase, but it’s always best when we come together, and talk through whatever we are thinking and going through! Having that conversation is the first step to navigating and talking about how you feel, and can open up opportunities to focus on different parts of your relationship you haven’t addressed before. Try maintaining a clear and open perspective when talking to him, and listen to both his side and make clear yours.
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