How can I tell my boyfriend how I feel about him?
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First take your time to know if you're sure that you feel about him like that, if you're sure then go ahead and tell him. You might make it special or just tell him over lunch or something.
Telling someone how you feel about them can be hard sometimes, but know that you don't have to tell them how you feel right away in the relationship. If you're early into your relationship, it's not crucial to tell him exactly how you feel as soon as possible, but if you do want to or if you're far into your relationship and still haven't told him because you don't now how, maybe try doing it in a way where you can tell him without using words. Bake him cupcakes and write "I" on one, "Love" on another, and "You" on another. Or maybe type/write him a note and put all your feelings into it.
I hope everything goes well!
Best of luck, Taylor, 7 Cups Community
Anonymous
March 13th, 2016 9:04am
Guys usually don't take hints like we do, so don't merely use hints. Most times (in certain situations) guys like it when a girl is assertive about her feelings! So be bold, don't feel like you have to let HIM make the first move.
Is it good or bad? And If you have a good relationship then you should be able to tell each other everything so I would just go for it and tell them
Overthinking ruins communication if you ask me. If you're not able to be natural with someone and just tell them without too much editing, then maybe it's better you scare them away
Do it in a peaceful place where there is only you two, so you won't get interrupted and you can talk trough it together :)
i would say tell him what you feel because if you keep quiet he is not a psychologist who can read your mind.
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 1:14am
You don't need an occasion to express what you feel towards someone :) ut a nice way to do it is to start a random conversation then throw in a casual comment about how you're glad he's around, or how you enjoy talking to him even if it's something so random..etc
Anonymous
March 20th, 2016 5:01pm
You just have to find the right moment and start talking. Be honest about your feelings but not too straight-forward and blunt. Be patient and brave. He is your boyfriend so you know him. Ask yourself, when is the right moment?
You can explain your feelings by asking him to sit down and listen, or write a letter to him, or text him. Don't be afraid to come off as "too strong", because if you don't take risks, you won't go anywhere very fast
Take a deep breath. Write it down, get together what you want to say. And say it when you feel like you're comfortable enough to.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2016 8:06am
Some feelings are hard to express, but small gestures are enough to make them understand. You can do something small and simple which can bring smile on his face. Small things can make a difference.
When he comes near you say what's been on your mind only if he is paying you mind, make sure you are careful and considerate with your words
Anonymous
April 6th, 2016 3:50am
Good communication is key to any relationship. Acquiring good communication skills will allow you to express what you feel to your boyfriend.
You can't go wrong with being honest. If he loves you, and I hope he does, then how you honestly feel will mean the most.
Honesty is one of the main keys to maintaining a relationship. Just say whats on your mind in the most considerate and kindest way possible. Let him know you are being real and genuine. In the long run, this will be beneficial towards your relationship because you are able to be honest with your partner.
Communication is a key factor in all relationships, sit him down and talk to him, express how you feel towards him.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2016 10:12pm
Honesty is the best policy, this may sound cliché but it holds true. You need to be straight forward and express your opinion
Anonymous
April 15th, 2016 3:34am
Well.......you can try by either writing to him if you feel like you cannot tell him directly :) A love letter is a sweet thing to get from your S/O!
Anonymous
April 20th, 2016 9:06am
You have to be absolutely honest with your boyfriend, right? It's the basement for your relationship.
Anonymous
April 30th, 2016 10:00am
By taking him to somewhere private where both of you are alone and somewhere very peaceful to think.
First reconnect with your thoughts, the mindfullness path in here is very helpful for that.
Once you have a clear mind, be comfortable with him, and tell him the truth. You know what to do, as you alone best understand your situation.
Just have a great night out some where and have a great evening and then just explain how you both feel that night about each other
Be honest. Keeping those feelings inside can create more problems in the long run.
if your feelings about him are positive, don't miss out on the possibilities.
if your feelings about him are negative, remember that honesty will help you both in the long run.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 1:21pm
Be open and honest! New relationships are always tricky. When is it ok to express your feelings? Will they express the same feelings back?
I myself am in this situation just now. My new partner of only 3 weeks has dropped the L bomb! It was very unexpected, and as much as I wanted to say it back, I simply felt that it was far too soon. It wasn't that I didn't feel the same way, it's that I feel rushed!
Actions speak loader than words, and so if you can't quite find the words to say, show him how you feel.
Best of luck!
I am not sure what will work best for you and give the results you are looking for. However, we can toss out a few ideas and look for examples to maybe help figure out what to say or how to say it. What do you think?
Well, this is an interesting question. Communication is important in any relationship, so explaining your feelings would be very important. However you feel, it's always good to keep everyone informed.
It depends on what you want to tell him, but I'm sure that he will love your honesty. If I was him, I would. :) Good luck!
Start with small talk about the relationship and get a conversation going. Then as the conversation gets going then use the word "feel" in your sentences.
Communication is the key to everything. Being compassionate and real with the person would make it easier to deal with. Address the problem in a good manner
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