How can I tell my boyfriend how I feel about him?

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Top Rated Answers
Lavenderskies35
June 29th, 2017 9:25pm
The best thing you can do is just tell him, chances are he probably feels the same way about you but is too scared to tell you.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2017 2:58pm
Be honest with him, and don't hide how you truly feel. Honesty and communication are your strongest weapons, so just talk to him causally about it.
ChinUpSmilesWide
July 8th, 2017 2:37pm
Be confident. Do not be scared and choose wise words. Do not mean to sound rude and make sure your message comes accross the way you want to. We do not want it to be misinterpreted.
Z3rocool
September 15th, 2017 11:29am
By talking with him. If it is hard for you to share verbally, write a letter to him. Write everything you feel for him and let him read.
Myra22
November 15th, 2017 7:06pm
Depends on what you feel about him. Simply, Communicate. Talk. Say whatever is bothering you. Don't keep it inside.
goodfriend5
November 16th, 2017 1:30pm
A heart to heart conversation is some that helps clear all doubts. If we don't talk to our loved ones about our feeling directly, we won;t be able to know about their feelings. Communication is very important.
natashaRiver38
November 17th, 2017 6:07pm
Ask him out, and when you´re prepared to tell him it would be a great idea to tell him on the date.
palan
November 29th, 2017 7:56pm
Expressing love too much can take away the charm from it. If you love your boyfriend, through your look, your gestures, and your tone, he will know. Life is a futile attempt to express the inexpressible, and that is part of its beauty.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 6:13am
Sit down with him. Somewhere away from all distractions and have a nice talk with him about how you feel
dinathedino1
December 6th, 2017 5:13am
In my personal experiences, it's always best to be honest about how you feel. No matter what the feeling is.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2017 1:07pm
hablando desde el corazón, con la verdad, es la mejor manera de hacer las cosas, de la manera mas pura y sencilla que puedas hacerlo. recuerda que solo lo que hacemos y lo que dejamos de hacer tambien!
bunty2040
December 9th, 2017 1:17pm
Don't need to tell. If ur feelings are real and if feels the same then he will understand your feelings. Just be natural.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 9:03am
By communication. Letting any such feelings build up will result in frustration and bad feelings that needn't be there in the first place. If you're uncomfortable with talking face to face, communicate through text.
sereneWillow87
January 10th, 2018 3:32pm
The best way is to just be honest and say it. If this is too scary maybe just write him a letter or make him a video saying it. If he is your boyfriend you want to feel safe with him like its ok to express your feelings to him.
yyskjk
January 24th, 2018 8:46pm
You could tell him over a dinner. Or over a normal conversation. It would make him feel very special. You could write him a small note on how you feel for him.
Mushu74
January 31st, 2018 11:41pm
Through being completely honest. Telling him whats on your mind, your thoughts and you feelings. Its just being genuine and honest
gentleSky95
February 5th, 2018 8:37am
The more u try to frame the words.the more badly u can perform in front of him.its better to go and tel him directly by looking into his eyes.if u have a relationship then u should not have formal behaviour.tell him your feeling in a natural manner.just try to make it special for him.
confidentKoala73
February 8th, 2018 1:01am
Be open and honest don’t hide anything. Start out by having a normal conversation than slowly go into how you feel.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2018 3:15pm
Being honest is the best approach to talk about your emotions. It is how you open yourself to others and let things become a possibility.
JenniferCh1991
March 8th, 2018 1:20pm
In every relationship you need to break down your walls (fears) to become emotionally connected. Once you open up you will realize how simple your relationship really is and how easy is it to discuss your feelings. Try open up with a compliment first.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 6:33am
Tell him what you feel, not by text or through a phone call. Talk to him personally, and only the two of you will discuss on what you are feeling. :) Make time to talk to him.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:36pm
Sit down with him, and have a meaningful conversation. Don't hold back your feelings. Tell him, or else you might regret it.
Anonymous
April 11th, 2018 8:28pm
You need to make sure both of you are in a comfortable, emotionally as well as mentally. Be it good or bad feelings, make sure you're mature about it and don't hold back. Be civil, keep in mind that the other person has feelings too and make sure to always hear out their opinion as well.
SeekApotheosis50
April 14th, 2018 4:15pm
Have you thought about writing down your feelings first so you have a chance to reflect? Sometimes sharing your feelings while on a walk makes it easier - being out in the fresh air reminds you to breathe! And it’s less intense when you’re not directly face to face.
Realinx
April 20th, 2018 9:55pm
How can you tell your boyfriend how you feel about him? First off all you need to find out what is is that you are feeling. Are you in love, are you falling out off love or do you have an issue with something he does? A relationship is all about trust. Opening up to each other. Exposing your emotions and feeling to your partner. So that's what you should do in this situation as well.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 11:50am
Sometimes it can be hard to express your feelings, especially if they’re strong. Usually the best thing to do it sit down, with no distractions, and tell him exactly how you are feeling
Anonymous
April 25th, 2018 4:22am
If he's an honest rational person who is willing to respect what you're saying, then he will listen willingly to whatever you will have to say. If that is not the case, then the more you need to say how you feel about him. The best thing I can say is to be completely honest about it. No sugarcoating.
zangetsu16
April 25th, 2018 5:02pm
go and tell him on his face,i know u may be shy but thats the best thing u can do,maybe buy a gift too,and most importantly have confidence
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 4:18am
It’s actually pretty easy. Just be completely honest with him and tell him everything on your mind. Sometimes this is done easier over text.
Bigheart4all
May 5th, 2018 10:30pm
Just tell him how you feel. Being open and honest with each other is key for communication. Maybe have a sit down and talk to each other as much as you can.