How can you tell that you have really moved on?
Last Updated: 12/12/2021 at 11:20pm
Lindsay Scheinerman, MA, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
My work with clients is to help them recognize and build on their strengths to find solutions for the conflicts presented in their lives.
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When you no longer feel an emotional attachment to the person that you were with, when the thought of them no longer triggers a negative response.
In my experience, you can tell that you've moved on when you don't feel dependable on a person anymore. Perhaps you don't think about them all the time like you used to, and when you do, it's normally just a side thought. You can look at them and feel no emotions, and that includes anger. You forgive them for previous actions and look at the situation as a learning experience. Above all, being happy without that person is a big sign that you have moved on.
Really moving on differs from person to person. Some people feel like they move on when they begin to start dating other people. Personally, I know I have moved on when I start to feel better about myself and know my worth in life.
When you move on you don't care about seeing that person anymore and don't think about the person anymore. You have found something else to put your energy into.
Moving on happens very very gradually. Many times, thinking about it too much causes you to hang on longer. That is why many times, people suddenly realize that they've moved on months down the road. You know you've moved on when you've stopped thinking about the person daily, don't feel an urge to talk to them, and have that moment of insight.
When a guy/girl asks if you’re single, you respond with a resounding “Yes!” (and not “Yes, but I just got out of a long relationship”). You no longer reread old text messages that he/she sent you. You’ve stopped checking his/her social media pages. When you hear he/she is dating someone new, you’re happy for them (or at least indifferent). When you realize that you still have a photo of him/her on your phone, you delete it without even flinching You don’t feel awkward when you run into him/her in public. I think these are what I know of! Hope I helped!
When you go on with your day thinking about yourself more. When at the end of the week, you're like "Oh! I haven't thought of him for a week?!". When everything you've blamed yourself for seems to go away. When you start accepting that it wasn't because there was something wrong with you, but because it was just not meant to be.
When you no longer feel hurt and talking about the previous experiences no longer bothers you as much as they used to be. Thinking how to know if we've really moved on shows that we have moved on, or that we're almost there:)
You know you have moved on when you don't expect a text every day, or a phone call. You don't really find yourself thinking much about that person every day.
When you're no longer frustrated or worried about it. You seem lighter and happier. The pain isn't in your chest anymore. Your mind isn't constantly fighting over thoughts. That's when you know that you've truly found happiness and peace within yourself :)
I don't think there is a right or wrong way of knowing if you have moved on from a relationship. I guess one way of judging this could be when you feel completely at ease without that person, you no longer feel the need to be with them like you used to and you are happy by yourself.
When you don't have an urge to know what is going on in the lives of people related to the move on When you have done your moping ,forgiven them for everything wrong and forgot about them.
When you don't think about him/her at your worst times. When you're lonely, he/she does not even cross your mind.
When you can be happy for his/her relationship and wish the best of luck on their future endeavors.
When the thing that used to bother you , doesn't anymore. When you're mind is not filled with thoughs about it like it once was
If it doesn't hurt anymore when you think about that person then yeah you have moved on. If you can talk about that person to someone else without any pain without crying then yeah you have healed.
You don't think about the person every minute of every day. When you look at things that used to remind you of them, it is with a sense of indifference or relief. You see the relationship for what it was and not just the good memories.
When you realize out of nowhere that you haven't thought about 'them' or 'it' for a long time and that your priorities have changed.
when you don't get jealous or bothered by seeing the person with someone else. And other things have occupied your mind. Then its a clear sign that now you give a damn !
When you stop thinking of that person when their name does not bring tears to your eyes or make you anxious or sad any more when someone can say that person's name and it no longer has an affect on you that is when you know you have really moved on.
The easiest way to tell I have moved on is when whatever situation/person no longer pulls at my emotional strings. I can think about the situation/person without it affecting my day.
you can tell that you have really moved on when they do not effect you anymore, when you can live positively, let go of all the hurt and focus on continuing to heal yourself
i can tell i have moved on when i don't have repetitive thoughts about the old and am excited about the new things life can bring.
If someone mentions a party and your first thought isn't 'what if they're there' then you're well on your way.
When you can tell the story and it no longer makes you cry, that's the first sign that you've started to move past the hurt.
When you have let go of that thing that was holding you back and you have no burden moving forward and finding your happiness in the process.
When you stop thinking about them or the things that associated to them, when you can find happiness beyond what already made you happy beforehand.
I think it depends on the person. When you're no longer concerned about what the other person is doing or when you're not constantly thinking about them are signs that you're moving on. When the thought of not being with the person isn't as painful is also showing that you're moving on. When you have truly moved on, you accepted or are okay with that happened and it no longer consumes your entire life.
You can tell that you have really moved on when you don't think about your ex and you accept your past.
I sit upright, and close my eyes. I lay my hands palms down on my thighs and take deeps breaths. Counting the seconds it takes to complete a full insulation and exhalation. I focus my mind completely on my breathing so that I can drown out all other noises and distractions.
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