How can you tell that you have really moved on?

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Anonymous
November 22nd, 2014 5:30am
When you no longer feel an emotional attachment to the person that you were with, when the thought of them no longer triggers a negative response.
Ashley1226
November 21st, 2014 2:48pm
In my experience, you can tell that you've moved on when you don't feel dependable on a person anymore. Perhaps you don't think about them all the time like you used to, and when you do, it's normally just a side thought. You can look at them and feel no emotions, and that includes anger. You forgive them for previous actions and look at the situation as a learning experience. Above all, being happy without that person is a big sign that you have moved on.
kashu510
April 16th, 2015 7:06pm
Really moving on differs from person to person. Some people feel like they move on when they begin to start dating other people. Personally, I know I have moved on when I start to feel better about myself and know my worth in life.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2014 3:44pm
When you move on you don't care about seeing that person anymore and don't think about the person anymore. You have found something else to put your energy into.
summersunset02
July 14th, 2015 6:35pm
Moving on happens very very gradually. Many times, thinking about it too much causes you to hang on longer. That is why many times, people suddenly realize that they've moved on months down the road. You know you've moved on when you've stopped thinking about the person daily, don't feel an urge to talk to them, and have that moment of insight.
Nada
August 30th, 2016 6:51am
When a guy/girl asks if you’re single, you respond with a resounding “Yes!” (and not “Yes, but I just got out of a long relationship”). You no longer reread old text messages that he/she sent you. You’ve stopped checking his/her social media pages. When you hear he/she is dating someone new, you’re happy for them (or at least indifferent). When you realize that you still have a photo of him/her on your phone, you delete it without even flinching You don’t feel awkward when you run into him/her in public. I think these are what I know of! Hope I helped!
TheLovableSunshine
May 16th, 2015 8:00pm
When you go on with your day thinking about yourself more. When at the end of the week, you're like "Oh! I haven't thought of him for a week?!". When everything you've blamed yourself for seems to go away. When you start accepting that it wasn't because there was something wrong with you, but because it was just not meant to be.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2014 3:51am
You know you have moved on when you don't expect a text every day, or a phone call. You don't really find yourself thinking much about that person every day.
Artemis6
November 21st, 2014 4:11pm
When you no longer feel hurt and talking about the previous experiences no longer bothers you as much as they used to be. Thinking how to know if we've really moved on shows that we have moved on, or that we're almost there:)
Anonymous
December 4th, 2014 7:11am
When you're no longer frustrated or worried about it. You seem lighter and happier. The pain isn't in your chest anymore. Your mind isn't constantly fighting over thoughts. That's when you know that you've truly found happiness and peace within yourself :)
FeatherIce25
April 9th, 2015 3:32am
When you don't have an urge to know what is going on in the lives of people related to the move on When you have done your moping ,forgiven them for everything wrong and forgot about them.
Sammy24
December 26th, 2014 1:56am
I don't think there is a right or wrong way of knowing if you have moved on from a relationship. I guess one way of judging this could be when you feel completely at ease without that person, you no longer feel the need to be with them like you used to and you are happy by yourself.
QueenJ
December 29th, 2014 5:43pm
When you don't think about him/her at your worst times. When you're lonely, he/she does not even cross your mind.
SenpaiXD
April 20th, 2015 10:50am
When you can be happy for his/her relationship and wish the best of luck on their future endeavors.
KindGirl17
June 17th, 2015 8:08pm
When the thing that used to bother you , doesn't anymore. When you're mind is not filled with thoughs about it like it once was
Anonymous
October 7th, 2015 8:22am
If it doesn't hurt anymore when you think about that person then yeah you have moved on. If you can talk about that person to someone else without any pain without crying then yeah you have healed.
plushTouch35
November 10th, 2015 7:00pm
You don't think about the person every minute of every day. When you look at things that used to remind you of them, it is with a sense of indifference or relief. You see the relationship for what it was and not just the good memories.
iggyface
August 29th, 2016 12:01pm
When you realize out of nowhere that you haven't thought about 'them' or 'it' for a long time and that your priorities have changed.
Godlovesus
September 23rd, 2016 9:13pm
when you don't get jealous or bothered by seeing the person with someone else. And other things have occupied your mind. Then its a clear sign that now you give a damn !
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2017 8:53am
When you stop thinking of that person when their name does not bring tears to your eyes or make you anxious or sad any more when someone can say that person's name and it no longer has an affect on you that is when you know you have really moved on.
politeTruth51
July 11th, 2016 6:00pm
The easiest way to tell I have moved on is when whatever situation/person no longer pulls at my emotional strings. I can think about the situation/person without it affecting my day.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2015 3:43am
i can tell i have moved on when i don't have repetitive thoughts about the old and am excited about the new things life can bring.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2015 10:07pm
If someone mentions a party and your first thought isn't 'what if they're there' then you're well on your way.
avinity
August 29th, 2016 9:09pm
When you can tell the story and it no longer makes you cry, that's the first sign that you've started to move past the hurt.
Greatlistener87
September 15th, 2016 5:39am
When you have let go of that thing that was holding you back and you have no burden moving forward and finding your happiness in the process.
justdourbest
September 16th, 2016 12:44pm
you can tell that you have really moved on when they do not effect you anymore, when you can live positively, let go of all the hurt and focus on continuing to heal yourself
1musicloverever
December 1st, 2016 10:24pm
When you stop thinking about them or the things that associated to them, when you can find happiness beyond what already made you happy beforehand.
smileforawhile
December 7th, 2014 3:55am
I think it depends on the person. When you're no longer concerned about what the other person is doing or when you're not constantly thinking about them are signs that you're moving on. When the thought of not being with the person isn't as painful is also showing that you're moving on. When you have truly moved on, you accepted or are okay with that happened and it no longer consumes your entire life.
abcdELLEmnop
April 9th, 2015 5:35am
You can tell that you have really moved on when you don't think about your ex and you accept your past.
politeHero42
April 18th, 2015 10:14pm
I think you know when you've "moved on" when you don't feel discomfort from what you're going away from. You lose the emotional connection. Sometimes, that takes time and even something to replace that emotional connection.