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How can you tell when your partner is about to break up with you?

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Last Updated: 12/22/2020 at 6:24am
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September 5th, 2016 12:04pm
You can't really tell. Some people wait for things to peter out naturally; you'll notice unanswered texts, calls or you conversations die easily. Other people are afraid of breakups and confrontation. They'll act normal and suddenly ghost you the next day. If that ever happens, know that it isn't about you; it usually has something to do with them. Take care of yourself and love yourself. You deserve someone better!
November 30th, 2015 4:36am
There are normally warnings signs that your partner is distancing themselves from you, and are prepared to break up with you. These warning signs could be anything from threats, to their own happiness decreasing in the relationship, and have brought up facts on the relationship that maybe causing them to be upset in it. They will also alot of the time distance themselves from you in ways of intimacy. If you have a gut feeling that your partner is looking to break off, have a good chat to them and see where their stance is and just try to make sure that they are committed as much as you are.
January 20th, 2015 12:17pm
They may not text you as much, or talk to you in person that much. Also they wouldn't really be that excited to hang out with you anymore.
March 13th, 2015 8:54pm
Unfortunately, you can't always tell. Even if your partner is very close with you and seemingly open in their communication sometimes they are keeping their fears and insecurities and needs to themselves. One day you think everything is ok and the next they are gone. No matter what is happening in your relationship it is always worth it to practice open and honest communication. If you have concerns or fears check in with yourself to see if you can isolate a root cause and then talk with your partner about them. You don't always get the answer you want but by being honest you are opening yourself up to growth and new possibilities.
April 24th, 2015 7:50pm
Having gone through one such situation, I think they would completely avoid you. They won't have their ears for your concerns and most importantly they will try to prove that they will be happy without you, more to themselves.
May 30th, 2015 2:28pm
When emotional connections start to break up, they stop telling you how they feel. Trust is the biggest and first thing to go. They start being impatient and frustrated with themselves because they can't bring themselves to be honest with you.
June 17th, 2015 4:26am
There are signs... you may notice your partner becoming distant & spending time with you less. You may notice your partner calling you less & less willing to participate in conversation with you. Your partner may seem really irritable & never discuss his or her future with you.
July 7th, 2015 3:20pm
He stopds taking interest in you. He'll stop giving you time and will get angry on lil stuff. He'll get quickly annoyed and irrite . he'll hang up the call early.
July 21st, 2015 2:14am
you cant really tell, everyone is different based on their own feelings. but if you are really feeling like something is up, talk to your partner
November 2nd, 2015 2:09am
when they show no more interest in you, when they get irritated of what you do and once which who they used to love, not telling any thing thats happening in their life. showing interest towards other people. not giving you your time.
December 15th, 2015 8:19pm
When they have a cold look in their eye, lack of chemistry and it's hard to make conversation. This is usually because feelings have been shut down and there's not the same connection there usually is.
March 15th, 2016 12:30pm
Breaking Up is not an easy thing to do, feelings get hurt and you would be very distracted and feel completely devastated but just move on. Learn new things do things you love and just be happy :)
April 5th, 2016 5:55pm
i think when your partner is about to break up with you, you would notice a change in their behaviour.
June 13th, 2016 7:39am
sometimes you cant tell what your partners intentions are. the breakup may even be a spontaneous event.
June 21st, 2016 1:51pm
It could be a sign if they start distancing themselves from your or acting abnormally, or maybe talking to other people more than you.
June 27th, 2016 4:20pm
There are a few things that would hint to you that your partner wants to break up with you. Firstly you would have the inner feeling that would tell you that your partner is starting to be less comfortable around you and also that he or she tries to minimize the contact with you. Next would be that when your conversations with your partner starts to get more emo in the sense where he or she says that you are not there when they need help or in other words depressed talks. Lastly, the biggest clue would be that he or she seems more happy with other people, could be his or her group of friends or could be another person.
August 23rd, 2016 2:53pm
Sometimes you can't tell and it is out of the blue but usually, they will distance themselves before a breakup to make it easier (?!)
October 25th, 2016 4:42am
He/She is emotionally withdrawing Not being available and no being caring. You call leave a message and he/she doesn't bother to call you or text you back. You feel that something is going on.
December 22nd, 2020 6:24am
I can tell my partner is about to break up with me when they start to become distant. They usually become less interested in our conversations, as well as make less of an effort to make plans. This includes not only over the phone conversations, but also in person. For example, we could be in the middle of a conversation, but they will sit on their phone and hardly respond back. Another key give away is when they start to get easily upset and frustrated over what seems like the smallest of things. The last give away for me is when they start to make plans to go out with their friends. Of course it’s healthy to do that on a regular basis, but when it is almost every day, and my partner is canceling our plans to see their friends, it’s usually a give away.