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How could I prevent breaking up?

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Last Updated: 03/02/2021 at 5:13am
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Top Rated Answers
Marumarinuki1
September 27th, 2015 9:16pm
If the relationship it's meant to continue, it will continue. Don't force things. There are a lot of reasons to keep a relationship or not to! Don't worry! This stuff takes time, and the decision is all up to you. Do not give it more importance than the one it deserves.
listening4you17
June 6th, 2016 2:28am
I feel the best way to prevent breaking up is staying connected with each other. It is important to tell the other person how you feel, whether it be the relationship is falling apart, or simply not spending enough time together. The important thing to do next is solve the issue, which could be talking more, spending more time together, and doing my activities as a whole. Above all else, stay happy.
kindRainbows1448
March 2nd, 2021 5:13am
It is harder to break up with someone when you don't start the relationship with the option in the equation. We all go into relationships and marriage thinking like well, if it doesn't work out we can always split or divorce. I believe that a relationship will hold strong if you love well, and welcome every part of the other person to the table. Also, if you take the time to read the 5 Love Languages together it will give you a sense of what will make your partner happy and satisfied, with a more likelihood of them wanting to stay.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2019 2:52am
You have to be honest and open about everything (problems/feelings/accomplishments), have good communication skills and respect with each other (by being understanding/loving/supportive), and I would say have fun and continue courting/dating each other. Don't let it be stagnant and in a routine like robots. Change things up and be spontaneous and do things differently. Otherwise when things don't turn out to be how it was initially in the relationship, things change during the course of it such as being complacent, different goals, beliefs, lack of needs not being fulfilled, etc. There's probably more that I'm not mentioning but basically I feel like you have to have a good foundation with each other where you both are on the same page that prevents a breakup. Hope this helps!
cherryblossomsss
May 28th, 2018 11:51pm
It all depends on the circumstance. Sometimes asking to take a little time away from each other or finding common ground can work, as well as being open about needs and being aware of what made you guys want to be together in the first place. Unfortunately, the ending of some relationships are inevitable, though, but as mentioned - depends on the circumstance.
purplewidow345
May 1st, 2018 3:12pm
If the feelings are mutual, sit down and be completely honest about how this person makes you truly feel. Do not try to comfort the truth. Sometimes the truth have to hurt.
SerenityAndLove
April 3rd, 2018 11:19am
Communication is key! As long as you two are REALLY trying, You can make it work. Instead of fighting (which is a big cause in break ups), Explain how you feel and ask for them to do the same.
Andrew1137
February 27th, 2017 1:19am
Relationships can be a very touchy matter. Depending on the reason a relationship is in trouble, it may or may not be able to be saved. The best way to determine that in my experience is to evaluate the problem and ask yourself it it will 1. occur then go away constantly and/or 2. if it is a problem that will not end. If it is a yes to either question, a breakup may not be able to be stopped but it may be for the better. If you truly believe you want to prevent a breakup, the best thing to do is be honest with your partner and talk over with them the problems and possible solutions. Relationships are about honesty and teamwork. Without both, they are not harmonious.
CaressingYourSoul92
October 17th, 2016 4:37pm
Nurture love by creating spaces and moments of intimacy, little details, trust, support, great surprises, and tons of communication; this way the relationship will keep stable, interesting, happy, and so, there would be no reason to consider a breakup.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2016 9:28pm
on a regular basis talk about your concerns in the relationship and talk about things that you are unhappy about in the relationship. communication is key to a good, respectful, working relationship
miraculousFlower47
August 2nd, 2016 5:05am
Talking with your partner is a way to prevent breaking up but if it was meant for a breakup to happen then there is no way to stop it.
Ozzyoxgirl
July 25th, 2016 7:27pm
Don't give up on the relationship itself. Talk it out and try to fall in love again with that person. Maybe it'll be worth it .
Katastropheez
June 13th, 2016 6:13pm
To prevent breakups you should make sure your relationship is going the right path with full honesty, loyalty, and avoid problems by communicating in a gentle and understanding way.
bestTruth96
February 28th, 2015 6:47pm
If you are in a healthy relationship, communication skills are key. Feel comfortable with your partner to share your feelings, hope and dreams.
Skittle
January 11th, 2016 6:05pm
I think break ups are inevitable, sooner or later. I learnt that analyzing the situation and expecting anything from anyone can help. Many people get blind when they fall in love and they never think about the bad. I think, again, analyzing the person and understanding his or her life and influences can help a lot.
calmListener21
December 14th, 2015 6:32pm
Try to have a face to face conversation with your partner. Talk about the issues you two are facing, while doing so try listening to your partner's side too and try to solve the problems rationally.
Bblovetj
November 16th, 2015 5:12am
Communication is the number one key into having a healthy relationship. If you are unsure of something or maybe have questions about the relationship you should talk to your partner about it,
Rosealyn
November 3rd, 2015 2:04am
I think the answer here is to remember that a good relationship takes two people. I was in an on and off again relationship for four years. The guy constantly broke up with me, but I hung on. I would have kept myself out of a lot of pain, suffering, and frustration by remembering that it was just as much his choice as mine to end the relationship. Instead of asking how can to stay together, take time to sit down with your SO and talk about your goals for the relationship. From there you can TOGETHER discuss whether the relationship is meeting both of your individual needs.
fruityIris44
September 22nd, 2015 6:51pm
I am not very sure that one can prevent breaking up except that one could try to actively listen, communicate and feel your partner's needs. Ask yourself questions on what you could be doing that is not aligned with your relationship needs and how to amplify your synergies in the relationship. The true answer here is focus on giving to your partner in the relationship and you will get reciprocal focus on you (if the relationship is really working).
Eloquentgraffiti10
September 21st, 2015 11:48pm
It all depends on the situation. If it is not meant to be, don't sweat it. Things will get better!!
BeSerene
June 22nd, 2015 4:45am
i can undwratand your best interest the very interest if pursued by tru heart and keep workibg on it. You may let go and acxept until when a poibt comes where there is nothing to let go it all sounds perfect..its about developing youraelf to be cimpatible with the ither and vice versa if you stick ariund it happens no matter.
HealingLotus
May 6th, 2015 2:36am
Breaking up isn't a bad thing. If things aren't working or if there is abuse involved, two people shouldn't be together. It shouldn't be a thing about preventing a break up. but about nurturing the good.
supportiveIceCream52
April 3rd, 2015 3:55pm
There are three things every relationship must have: communication, trust, and honesty. If a relationship does not have these three, then it is not working as efficiently as it has the potential too.