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How do I know I am ready for a new relationship?

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Last Updated: 11/09/2021 at 2:48am
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JOSHlovesyou
April 25th, 2015 1:45am
You know you are ready when you fully come to terms with the emotions from your break up. When you are able to look back at those memories and not break down. also it is important not to start a relationship until you have come to terms with your feelings for your ex-partner. entering a relationship with feelings for someone else isn't healthy for you, and it isn't fair to your new partner.
ImaginaryLight
November 9th, 2015 2:13am
If you start talking to people, getting to know them better, (even knowing this could lead you to something more) and feel completely fine and comfortable about it, it's because you're ready. So, if you feel like, maybe it's time give it a shot!
goldenLight64
March 6th, 2015 1:12pm
I'm in a good place in my life. I'm doing well in school, I have a great relationship with my family and I would like to complete the circle by finding a special person I can call my partner.
helpfulhand1234
November 3rd, 2020 1:37am
When you know you are independent and confident in who you are and you have purpose outside of relationships. You can reflect on life and know that the past was in the past. It grew you and now you are ready for the future. You can forgive the other people and learn it will always be a memory. Life will not always be easy but you are willing to take those risks again with someone else. You are ready to grow and learn with someone new. You won't compare them to others, but you will live to have purpose every day with that person.
Efini06
March 3rd, 2020 8:45pm
One of the biggest signs is to understand the importance of communication. It is a key role in a relationship. Trust should be within the relationship. You need to love yourself before loving someone else. If you have just gotten out of a relationship personally I wouldn't recommend as you are focusing on the other person instead of yourself during the breakup. If you think you are ready you need to notice little signs as, good communication, understanding one other, trust, being comfortable around them and commitment. Another key thing is balance, too much lovey dovey romance can become toxic later on. Little arguments now and then is what makes it balance out. Just like having an argument with a friend then making up. It makes the bond stronger
MrDoctorMan
May 14th, 2018 9:26pm
You are ready when you feel it is right. Maybe evaluate your mental state, if you are dealing with any kind of disorder that may make you unstable, you may not be ready and want to take time to get better before involving yourself in a committed relationship, because that way you will be able to stay focused and dedicated for when you do decide to get involved.
benevolentBlanket61
July 3rd, 2017 6:53am
When you are happy as an individual. When the past doesn't matter anymore. When you've completely moved on and contented with what's going in your life at the moment.
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 11:16am
When you no longer see yourself in the future with that person. The past is an important thing, but it shouldn't dwell upon the future.
Greatlistener87
August 22nd, 2016 2:20am
When you stop comparing your old relationship with your new one. When you have totally let go of your past relationship and you are willing to open a new chapter with a new relationship.
xTOMx
July 4th, 2016 12:19am
By feeling that you are happy knowing your with somebody else, by knowing that everything will be okay
Anonymous
May 10th, 2016 8:46pm
Well, how do you know? Have you moved past your ex? And you feeling ready to be in another relationship
Brooksy999
April 5th, 2016 1:01pm
If you're happy to look for a new lover, and that you have truly moved on from the last relationship
Nithou
December 29th, 2015 1:26pm
Once you start to believe in your self-worth again, go at your own pace, build yourself again, you'll be ready once you regain full confidence in yourself :)
TellMeImListening
December 15th, 2015 4:51pm
I know I am ready when everything in my life is the way that I want it. I can't add another responsibility to my life if other things are out of order.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2015 9:48pm
When you feel you are mature enough to handle all responsibility and you feel that you can commit!!!
Tinygreentreefrog1234
September 22nd, 2015 2:13am
That is based on you. Maybe talking to friends, family, teachers, coworkers, people in the chat, listeners, chatlines, and other mental health care professionals. Take your time. Enjoy your life. Don't be in a hurry. You and your future partner deserve it.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 1:59am
1) The thought of your ex going out with someone else doesn't upset you (too much, anyway). 2) The thought of going out with someone new makes you feel fresh and hopeful. 3) You don't feel compelled to talk or think about your ex the whole time when you're with the new person.
WoundedHappyHeart
July 21st, 2015 10:34pm
It's different for everyone. You might start noticing things abut girls/guys that you didn't when you were in your relationship.
catsforever
May 22nd, 2015 5:36pm
If you feel that you want to date someone else, only you can decide when you are ready. You might not be over your last partner but some partners may be difficult to get over.
therapinto
March 5th, 2015 7:56pm
Well there are many factors you can consider while answering that question. First of all, you need to learn to be happy by yourself (you must not be desperate to be a relationship). Secondly, you won't settle for conditional love (have it with conditions or don't have it). You should be happy the way you are. Make sure your not in that phase of life when you seek for constant distraction like keeping the TV on all the time or music playing in the background. Attract a like-minded partner. Well I think that's pretty much the things you must check before getting into a new relationship.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2021 2:48am
When you are happy for the other people you have been in a previous relationship with and the way their lives are going. You are happy with yourself and how your life is progressing and you realize that you don't need someone else to make you happy. That you are just fine on your own. You have been thriving by yourself and know that even if you get into a relationship with somebody else it will be to benefit them and not because you need a crutch for yourself. You know that you're okay by yourself and you want to share that happiness with someone else.