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Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 2:05am
If someone is being physically abusive or mentally abusive by calling you hurtful names, causing harm to you, or making you do things you don't agree with.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 9:17am
See how they treat you and how you feel around them do you feel like you can be your self around them ?
This can be one of the most difficult situations to find yourself in an accept. I've found most people in these sort of relationships know something is wrong but refuse to fully admit it. If you are wondering if you're a relationship is toxic then take a step back, look at what you have from the view of a third person. The most important thing is never to allow your partner to diminish your self-worth or erode your confidence. If you find that happening then you are in a toxic or abusive relationship and you should seek help and remove yourself from that situation.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 8:34am
Manipulative words. Saying that not everything is perfect. Wanting what they want, but when you dont give in "everything", its your fault.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 1:52pm
If you are starting to lose yourself and it is always one-sided. If you are starting to feel empty and unable to decide..
Anonymous
March 13th, 2018 2:07pm
I think if most of the time it's fighting for example and mostly you hurt each other more than good times together. Probably it's toxic.
You will know if you are experiencing more negative feelings than positive ones, or you are attempting to convince yourself that you are okay with what your partner is doing, when really you are not. A toxic relationship can really take any form, but the most common occur with controlling, rude or abusive partners.
Here are a few ways to gauge the health of your relationship. Do you feel a sense of imbalance in communications or interactions, a skewed push-pull or give-take? Do things that used to give you pleasure feel like a chore or worse, fill you with dread? Do you sense tension or friction where there shouldn't be?
Ask yourself a few things: Do I feel valued in this relationship? Am I being abused either physically or emotionally? Do you put everything into the relationship, but get nothing back in return? Do you feel like you are “walking on eggshells†around your partner? Is there a lack of trust? Are you belittled, called names, judged or put down? If the answer to one or more of these is yes, I would sit down and deeply analyze the relationship and what reasons I was choosing to continue with my partner.
Ask yourself these questions: Does this person complain non-stop to you about their problems? Has this person abused you in any way? Does this person blame you for their problems? Keep asking yourself questions like these. If you keep coming up with the answer "yes", then you are most likely in a toxic relationship.
A toxic relationship is like a one-sided love.. You know you are in one when your partner shows no interest in what you like/do and forces you to always do what they like..
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 3:06am
If are hurting emotionally , mentally and physically. Love is not suppose to hurtful or harmful
If your unhappy. If your partner does not respect or appreciate you. If they are abusive in any way towards you.
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 3:27am
If the constantly blame you for everything. If you are always the one having to ask if they are free to talk to you. You they use you in any way. If they talk behind your back or make insults at you and disguise it as a harmless joke. If they ignore you, don't chat to you. If they never seem to remember anything about you but you do remember things about them.
There are many "red flags" in a toxic relationship. Do you give and never get back? Do you argue a lot? Do you always feel you chase for your partner for affection? Does talking always seem negative? I think in order for you to decide whether or not it is toxic is are you happy? If you say I would be happy if they .... , then there is an issue in the relationship. Remember, we can not control anyones behaviors or feelings, but we can control our own and do what is best for our mental health.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2018 1:30pm
If it feels wrong,and you can't find joy in happiness in your partner. If your self-esteem gets low and you find yourself blaming for everything. And the other person doesn't care or doesn't even try at all to contribute to your relationship.
If you feel constricted in your relationship or a strong feeling of anxiety or sadness when the other person is around, usually that is a good telling point that it is time to change some things.
Toxic people usually like to take control and are quite possessive, they usually deny doing any of these things and always make themselves out to be the victim
A toxic relationship can be hard to spot. However, I believe the giveaways are easy to spot if you know where to look. If your partner outright threatens to harm themselves if you leave them or tries to keep you away from your friends and family, it shows that they are possessive and potentially a toxic person to be in a relationship with.
weigh the pros and cons. Think about how they make you feel. Powerful, or worthless? Do they support you? How do they talk to you? Do your family and friends think they're good for you?
Anonymous
April 19th, 2018 6:12pm
If they honestly dont want the best for you and get jealous when you’re happy with friends or by yourself.
The feeling as if you are this person to fail all of the time. Just not feeling as free as if you say as you please it is not going well. Isolation.
The best way to discover this is to look for online guides on what a toxic relationship contains, for example, being manipulative and controlling. If most of the traits listed are what your partner exhibits, then perhaps it's time to leave. Staying in these sorts of relationships are not healthy.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 2:23pm
There are many ways to find out this. Whether it's long distance or you can see each other in person, if one of you aren't making time for one another then that is bad. Furtherly, let's say if your other half has had a bad day and they take their anger out on you... that is bad. It is not your fault. Communication skills are very important for a relationship to work too! make sure you two have that. Here is a link as well! https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/35-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-business-relationship.html
A toxic relationship is any relationship that is unfavorable to you or others. The foundations of any relationship, healthy or not, are most commonly established upon mutual admiration and respect, but can, in time, become remarkably unhealthy. ... Toxic relationships can be caused by two polar opposite personality types.
If you have to put them before you in everything, and they refuse to do anything of the sort for you.
If you have a gut instinct that someone is a bad person, trust that instinct. It is 99% guaranteed to be correct.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2018 7:33pm
You're in a toxic relationship if you feel that you're not very happy, but it's hard for you to leave and if they make threats when you try to leave. You're giving your all and your partner isn't giving back.
Feeling generally uncomfortable around a person that you should trust and care for could mean you are in a toxic relationship. From mental to physical abuse, toxic relationship symptoms can vary based on each relationship.
Look around you, turn off the lights sit back and think
About yourself and what you do? Are your suspects or acts justified? Put yourself in the other person's shoes and think how would you react?
Try to understand the other person, talk to other people and tell them and ask them what they think.hope this helps. Love.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2018 3:44am
When all the things you use to enjoy...friends & family, places you hang out, and things that bring contentment is now under your partner control. While their interest is to rob your self esteem, crush your dreams, and isolate you from happiness. That’s toxic and a very unhealthy relationship that is design to break you down to feeling worthless, hopeless, and lonely. It takes two toxic people to create toxicity.
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