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How do I know if my ex is thinking about me?

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Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 10:29am
You can tell with someone cares when they communicate with you too. He most likely will reach out to you and try to get in touch.
GottafallBeforeyouFLY
September 11th, 2016 5:37pm
If he keeps talking to you and flirting. Also if he keeps liking your pictures or giving you compliments on social media. Or asks your friends about you/
Anonymous
October 2nd, 2016 7:34pm
It is important that you try not to focus on what your ex is doing. Instead, focus on what you are doing, focus on your own well-being and health, as that is what is important. Put yourself first.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 1:50pm
If you were in a meaningful relationship, then I can guarantee that your ex is not quite over you and you are still thought about. But, it also depends on how long you have been broken up. If you two have been separated for a while (a year or more) then chances are they might have moved on.
Maranda4You
May 5th, 2017 10:43pm
Think of it as how he is acting around you. If he seems to want to be close to you, mentions you a lot, or tries to talk to you out of the blue, he probably has you on his mind. If he seems the same way he has since you broke up then he probably isn't. But if they are thinking about you, don't give into them again so easily. They broke your heart once before and probably wont hesitate to do it again.
SingedPaws
December 23rd, 2017 2:25am
You don't unless they bring it up with you and that's okay, the best thing to do is move on healthily
TakeMyHand13
March 8th, 2018 11:54am
He may still seek contact with you, talk to you, look at your pictures and social media. Most ex's create distance to get over one another, however if this person still wants to be with you or friends, he will stay in contact and still keep close to you. Eye contact is a good sign, if he looks at you often still. Sometimes signs are subtle. Sometimes, however, we think the signs are there but really its ourselves that are still craving the connection to our ex's.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 4:34am
You won't be able to know. I mean at some point you will probably ask his/her friends and they will perhaps tell you about how they're feeling(But I am not advocating this and I do not recommend this) However, if you're expecting anything from your ex then you should allow it to happen organically while giving them space.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2018 7:21pm
Usually by social media because when u post thing's and they get notified by it. If they take the time to look at it. Then bingo . they are thinking about u. Because me and my ex girlfriend broke up a week ago and after the break up she went cold she told me to lose her number but when i would call she would answer. One night i called her and she sounded as if she'd been crying so i asked if she was ok she said yea. And i asked ehat she was up to she said just chilling. Then so i said ok well i was just checking up on u and it sounds like u don't want to talk to me. So i hung up. And after that day. I no such contact with her. Even when in person dont say or do anything. But if she talks to u first then u can't be a jerk and ignore her. Say hi, and how he or she is doing. Then u keep it moving. And when they see that your not the same person that they dumped they're gonna be like. Wow that's tim?. He changed he doesn't get angry or emotional and he's positive on social media. Always show your doing good and happy even when your not. And give them time and space to miss u. Use the no contact rule it truly work's. If they dumped u. Let them make the first move to initiate contact. And if u did the dumping make sure u work on yourself, focuse on your goals and achieve them. And if u still want your ex back then go for it. And trust me if your ex can look at what u post on social media or text u back, then yes they are thinking of u. If they dumped u, better yourself, have fun and enjoy your life and use no contact. And watch they will miss u like crazy and then reach out to u. But if u constantly are available and around how do u expect them to miss u. If your always there. Follow these steps.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 9:07pm
Unfortunely you can never know for sure if someone is thinking about you. All you can do is hope that if they still care for you then they might think of you
ElliotIsGoingPlaces
November 5th, 2016 6:54am
Be brave and ask him yourself. If you have noticed signs that your ex is thinking about you, such as putting things in his bio on your social network, or has been looking at you recently, then he or she has.
prettygrlnay
November 5th, 2016 4:24pm
well you shouldn't think that go forward in life not backwards in life or less you thinking of him or her!
Anonymous
May 6th, 2017 2:46am
People used to say that if you dream about somebody, it means they're thinking about you. Sadly, I learned the truth the hard way. You can never tell when somebody is thinking about you. Life is kinda weird but you just have to roll with it and forget about the past, because the past doesn't determine your future. If your ex is thinking about you the only sure way to know is by having a legitimate conversation with them.
colourfulEars95
July 22nd, 2017 11:33am
You dont, and there are probably ways to find out. But why bother? Either your or your ex ended it for a reason, why cling onto something thats gone? Try to get them out of your life as best you can, and make yourself busy. Because the first step is to fill that void in your life positivly, weather that be freinds, family or travel. Whatever you do, remember, one day at a time
shiningOcean95
September 13th, 2017 6:26pm
Since he is your ex and you're wondering if he's thinking about you it must mean that you miss him. The only way to really KNOW if someone is thinking about you is if they let you know they're thinking about you. If they aren't letting you know that they're thinking about you, you have the option of assuming either they are NOT thinking of you or that they ARE thinking of you. I always choose to think that they ARE thinking about me with very loving thoughts. It makes me happy and let's me move on to other thoughts. So the bottom line is that we cannot know for sure if someone is thinking about us but we can always assume that they are if it makes us happy .
AliceCares96
October 22nd, 2017 12:27am
There is no way of knowing if your ex is thinking about you unless they reach out to you or if you reach out to them. Before doing so, ask yourself if it’s worth it to repeat those feelings you’ve felt.
BriaStar
November 10th, 2017 5:18am
The main way to know this is to ask them, but, you shouldn't be worrying abut what your ex thinks. No matter what it is.
peaceful99
November 16th, 2017 10:35am
She ask your ftiends about you , chek your new photos, try to get some news about you , and she watch some old photos of u and her
Anonymous
December 31st, 2017 9:07pm
Honestly, the only way to know is if they tell you they are. If you are wondering this, it may show that you still have feeling for your ex.
Mysteral
January 13th, 2018 6:46pm
If they message you or seem to talk about you to others then they will be thinking about you, if its a recent breakup then there is more chance they will think of you even a little bit.
EarthWalker97
February 1st, 2018 6:55pm
There is no way of knowing 100%, but relationships are important aspects of our lives, and we can leave a very lasting impact on the people we have relationships with. So you're always going to think of an Ex, for a time certainly. But it is all part of making us stronger people.
healingsam450
February 4th, 2018 3:43am
There is no real answer to if your ex is thinking about you, but one thing is for sure. You are thinking about them, which could end up being bad if you and your ex are not on good terms. I understand that getting over an ex can be really challenging, especially if it was a long-term one, but you can get over it. It just takes some time.
starryPanda93
February 8th, 2018 3:33pm
see, y do uhh even want to know and still if uhh wish so then ask a common friend of yours but i think its better not to ask because if it gets to the negative ide then it really gets depressive.
gracefulBeauty100
February 9th, 2018 8:15pm
You can't know unless you ask. The thing is, why would you bother yourself with that? I know that we are very curious beings, but bothering about other peoples thoughts won't make us happier.
KingAaron84
February 28th, 2018 12:15pm
You don't and the question you should ask is do you really want an ex thinking about you? What pleasure or joy do you really get from a person who you aren't with thinking about you? If I was you, I wouldn't want an ex thinking about me.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2018 7:46am
Ask him. But if you bother with that question it means you need to think about your inner state of mind and heart first. Good relationship is to give not to ask. If both sides only ask there is nobody to give, but if both sides give both sides can receive.
avaryteal01
April 5th, 2018 8:03am
You don’t. It’s your ex. I know you loved them once, but it’s over now. It’s best to stop drowning on the past.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 10:27pm
Maybe you should not think about it, sometimes a ends comes to brings a new beginning. Maybe focusing on the present moment will be more rewarding than thinking about what doesnt belong in the now. And if it is meant to be. it will be so don't worry too much if your ex still thinking of you and start to think about yourself.
nataliejuliet
April 25th, 2018 3:12pm
Your ex probably will reach out to you and ask you how you are doing. Even your ex just saying "hey" would indicate that they are thinking about you.
HugsNPugs3
April 26th, 2018 9:06pm
You don't need to think about your ex anymore. The past is past you have to let it go you can't continue on thinking about the past anymore you have to live the present moment and forget about it.