How do I know if my ex is thinking about me?

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Greatlistener87
June 15th, 2016 4:21am
You can only know if you ask your ex directly. Thats the only right way. Don't fret on whether or not your ex is thinking about u. Remember there is a reason why he/she is your ex.
Flawlessinsanity21
June 30th, 2016 6:05pm
If he/she messages you often or at all even. If he/she posts things on social media that seem to be about you either a picture or a word post. Or maybe even ask them, that is if you're thinking about them too.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 3:23am
Good question if you guys aren't talking. The best is to reach out and ask them. Best of luck to you.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2016 9:07pm
Unfortunely you can never know for sure if someone is thinking about you. All you can do is hope that if they still care for you then they might think of you
ElliotIsGoingPlaces
November 5th, 2016 6:54am
Be brave and ask him yourself. If you have noticed signs that your ex is thinking about you, such as putting things in his bio on your social network, or has been looking at you recently, then he or she has.
prettygrlnay
November 5th, 2016 4:24pm
well you shouldn't think that go forward in life not backwards in life or less you thinking of him or her!
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 1:50pm
If you were in a meaningful relationship, then I can guarantee that your ex is not quite over you and you are still thought about. But, it also depends on how long you have been broken up. If you two have been separated for a while (a year or more) then chances are they might have moved on.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2017 2:46am
People used to say that if you dream about somebody, it means they're thinking about you. Sadly, I learned the truth the hard way. You can never tell when somebody is thinking about you. Life is kinda weird but you just have to roll with it and forget about the past, because the past doesn't determine your future. If your ex is thinking about you the only sure way to know is by having a legitimate conversation with them.
Mysteral
January 13th, 2018 6:46pm
If they message you or seem to talk about you to others then they will be thinking about you, if its a recent breakup then there is more chance they will think of you even a little bit.
EarthWalker97
February 1st, 2018 6:55pm
There is no way of knowing 100%, but relationships are important aspects of our lives, and we can leave a very lasting impact on the people we have relationships with. So you're always going to think of an Ex, for a time certainly. But it is all part of making us stronger people.
healingsam450
February 4th, 2018 3:43am
There is no real answer to if your ex is thinking about you, but one thing is for sure. You are thinking about them, which could end up being bad if you and your ex are not on good terms. I understand that getting over an ex can be really challenging, especially if it was a long-term one, but you can get over it. It just takes some time.
starryPanda93
February 8th, 2018 3:33pm
see, y do uhh even want to know and still if uhh wish so then ask a common friend of yours but i think its better not to ask because if it gets to the negative ide then it really gets depressive.
gracefulBeauty100
February 9th, 2018 8:15pm
You can't know unless you ask. The thing is, why would you bother yourself with that? I know that we are very curious beings, but bothering about other peoples thoughts won't make us happier.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2018 7:46am
Ask him. But if you bother with that question it means you need to think about your inner state of mind and heart first. Good relationship is to give not to ask. If both sides only ask there is nobody to give, but if both sides give both sides can receive.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2018 7:21pm
Usually by social media because when u post thing's and they get notified by it. If they take the time to look at it. Then bingo . they are thinking about u. Because me and my ex girlfriend broke up a week ago and after the break up she went cold she told me to lose her number but when i would call she would answer. One night i called her and she sounded as if she'd been crying so i asked if she was ok she said yea. And i asked ehat she was up to she said just chilling. Then so i said ok well i was just checking up on u and it sounds like u don't want to talk to me. So i hung up. And after that day. I no such contact with her. Even when in person dont say or do anything. But if she talks to u first then u can't be a jerk and ignore her. Say hi, and how he or she is doing. Then u keep it moving. And when they see that your not the same person that they dumped they're gonna be like. Wow that's tim?. He changed he doesn't get angry or emotional and he's positive on social media. Always show your doing good and happy even when your not. And give them time and space to miss u. Use the no contact rule it truly work's. If they dumped u. Let them make the first move to initiate contact. And if u did the dumping make sure u work on yourself, focuse on your goals and achieve them. And if u still want your ex back then go for it. And trust me if your ex can look at what u post on social media or text u back, then yes they are thinking of u. If they dumped u, better yourself, have fun and enjoy your life and use no contact. And watch they will miss u like crazy and then reach out to u. But if u constantly are available and around how do u expect them to miss u. If your always there. Follow these steps.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 6:19pm
Many times we can overthink and then it can upset us. We may think that something someone does is meant a certain way but it really wasn’t. You can never know 100% if your ex is thinking about you unless they admit it to you. However just think about what type of person they were when they were with you. Would this person think about you? Why did your relationship end? Sometimes reflecting on the type of person they were when they were with you can give you an idea of whether this person would take time out of their day to think about you.
NotSoSuspiciousSock
July 19th, 2018 8:50am
Your ex can and will think of you sometimes. But not always in a good way. They might miss you, they might think of you when thinking about all of their exes, they might think of you when they go to a place where you were. Those are random thoughts that pop up to everyone. Now that you know this, ask yourself why are you thinking about them. Is that good?
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 9:06pm
He will try to get in contact with you or somehow strike a conversation with you. Or you'll be hearing his friends talking about you (don't depend on this too much though).
Supergirl94
June 16th, 2016 8:36am
The honest answer is you don't. :) But you may be able to know if he talks to his friends about you, if he mentions you a lot, the way he acts around you although be careful not to over analyze how he acts around you. He could really be acting in a way that means he is thinking about you or he could just be being himself and you feel he is thinking about you.
lonestar87
July 11th, 2016 5:00pm
If theu are thinking of you they will most likely contact you or turn up to places you usually go in order to get your attention
Anonymous
September 10th, 2016 11:57pm
You could ask her face to face if she still thinks about you or you could try to ask one of her friends. Most people tell their deepest secrets to best friends.
GottafallBeforeyouFLY
September 11th, 2016 5:37pm
If he keeps talking to you and flirting. Also if he keeps liking your pictures or giving you compliments on social media. Or asks your friends about you/
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 3:31pm
You don't know for sure. But maybe if he's reaching out to you every now and then, that's a surefire way to tell. But whether he is thinking about you with love, you would have to ask him yourself.
FeelFreeToShare
June 25th, 2017 1:47pm
Well no one can know. It is a good thing if after a breakup the couple wants to get back together again but it takes a lot of work and surely equal effort from both sides. There is no other way to know but talk directly. However you should keep in mind that you broke up for a reason and the plan of getting back together must be evaluated properly.
colourfulEars95
July 22nd, 2017 11:33am
You dont, and there are probably ways to find out. But why bother? Either your or your ex ended it for a reason, why cling onto something thats gone? Try to get them out of your life as best you can, and make yourself busy. Because the first step is to fill that void in your life positivly, weather that be freinds, family or travel. Whatever you do, remember, one day at a time
II7Luna7II
July 28th, 2017 4:43pm
I don't think that there is a way to know for sure if and how much your ex is thinking about you. You could invest a lot of time in "researching", asking his/her friends if he/she talks about you, you can try to catch your ex looking at you or spending time near you at school or at work, mayve visiting places that you used to go to together or where he/she knows you spend a lot of time. But I would say that investing all that time isn't worth it. That way, you'll never get over your ex and your efforts to spy on him/her probably won't go unnoticed and that could be embarrassing. So my advice is to either approach your ex and say that you want to get back together if that's your reason behind your question or try to get over him/her by avoiding any contact :)
shiningOcean95
September 13th, 2017 6:26pm
Since he is your ex and you're wondering if he's thinking about you it must mean that you miss him. The only way to really KNOW if someone is thinking about you is if they let you know they're thinking about you. If they aren't letting you know that they're thinking about you, you have the option of assuming either they are NOT thinking of you or that they ARE thinking of you. I always choose to think that they ARE thinking about me with very loving thoughts. It makes me happy and let's me move on to other thoughts. So the bottom line is that we cannot know for sure if someone is thinking about us but we can always assume that they are if it makes us happy .
AliceCares96
October 22nd, 2017 12:27am
There is no way of knowing if your ex is thinking about you unless they reach out to you or if you reach out to them. Before doing so, ask yourself if it’s worth it to repeat those feelings you’ve felt.
BriaStar
November 10th, 2017 5:18am
The main way to know this is to ask them, but, you shouldn't be worrying abut what your ex thinks. No matter what it is.
peaceful99
November 16th, 2017 10:35am
She ask your ftiends about you , chek your new photos, try to get some news about you , and she watch some old photos of u and her