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How do I know if my ex is thinking about me?

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Last Updated: 06/15/2022 at 3:43pm
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Anonymous
March 16th, 2022 11:24pm
I don't think there's any way to find out unless they tell you directly. I also used to often wonder if they were thinking about me after we broke up, but often times it led to unproductive thinking and emotionally hurting myself. Everyone's situation is different but if you want to find out whether they are thinking of you, think about why you feel the need to know in the first place!! Grieving the loss of someone important to you will always be difficult. I hope you can make peace with not having the same relationship with that person anymore, because down the line, you could find something greater. And we learn/ grow as people in every relationship, so I hope you don't regret the relationship either!
Anonymous
April 13th, 2022 6:08pm
There is no way to definitely know if your ex is thinking about you unless they tell you. Trying to figure out whether they may be thinking about you through other means will just be a waste of your time and energy since overthinking with no basis can be hurtful for your mental health. When people want to reach out, they do so. If this person wants to talk to you or reach out, then that is what will happen. I recommend getting your mind off of it and try not to overthink the situation as much as you are.
KesiaJiang0729
May 17th, 2022 5:45pm
When I saw this sentence, I felt that you still had feelings for him. You thought he was looking for your information with his phone, but he was actually busy with work or playing games. You think, like you, he can't sleep late at night and misses you, but in fact he slept well. You thought he would talk to his friends about you, but after the breakup, this situation didn't exist at all. He didn't want to mention the failed relationship at all. It's all over. With all due respect, he may think of you occasionally, but he won't think about getting back with you. The emotions of two people after breaking up are essentially a psychological game. When you think about this question, it means that you have not let go of this relationship.
magneticWaterfall9754
June 15th, 2022 3:43pm
I'm sorry to hear this, I'm sure you were sad and upset when you heard the news but I think you should listen to his explanation and ask if it was done and the reasons for the solution, you can be angry but I think when you are done you should open the door to negotiate again and you should sit down and talk about the respect you have for each other and if you want to go back to the way things were before. If he still feels the same way about you then it's perfectly fine to start again, but of course if he doesn't want to you should respect his choice, love isn't selfish possession.