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How do i know if my ex wants me back?

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Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 12:22pm
You should talk to him. If he’s not wanting to be open about his feelings, you probably don’t want to be getting yourself into this situation. You also have to remind yourself why there an ex
Anonymous
September 9th, 2018 12:19pm
He will ask me for a date, talk to me sincerely about what he feels, show an effort to win me back. He will makes me feel special and always be available for me. He will earn my trust back, shows respect for what i want, willing to wait patiently until i am ready to have him back. Never force me to do anything i dont like, would see my family and friends to show his sincerity and good intentions. Lastly, he will make me feel he cares about me and my feelings all the time. Would gladly be there with me when i wanna try new things even he's scares.
Clarisse29
September 14th, 2018 7:29am
If your ex keeps trying to contact you and acts really sweet and keeps complimenting you and is flirtatious and shows all abovious signs of care and affection then they want you back 💕 also if they’re asking your friends about you and trying to know if there is someone new you’re interested in or want to date, then this might also be a sign for them to care about you and your relationships and to want you back because they won’t feel good and would be jealous if they see you with someone else and they would just try to break you up with the other person if you’re involved.
Anonymous
October 7th, 2018 4:45pm
Well, when a man or want their ex back they normally will go out of their way to try to win your heart back. One probably will buy you flowers, or cook you meals and offer to take you out for dates. Also, you will see signs that the ex want to be around you more than his friends and family. He will begin to fit his schedule around your off time ad he will do everything in his power to be near you when the both of you have some free time. Last but not least if he really want you back he will take you around the people in is life that means to most to him. He will want his families and friends to know that you are the one for him regardless of what others might think or say.
alex45678
November 22nd, 2018 7:21pm
You might have some clues as to if they want you back, like do they make up reasons to text you? Or if you see them looking at you or they still post indirects. Or maybe they ask you’re shared friends about you or how you’re doing. They still make an effort to connect or reconnect with you. But you also need to remember that you broke up for a reason so unless you’ve both done some growing the relationship might not be as healthy as it should be. This is just some things I’ve noticed from past experience! Hope it helps.
Returncontrol2u
January 2nd, 2019 6:27am
Ask if you can. If not, then you will not know. You and your ex separated for a reason. If you both chose to come back together, you both have to chose it. Usually all you can do is make sure they have your contact information and move on with your life. You both deserve the happiness of a renewed life and the responsibility of choosing what that new life has in it. When you love someone you want them to be free to make themselves happy. If you choose to remain single, that does not mean they must also. Most frequently it is dating others after you have separated that helps both parties confirm their desire to be together. The things you want from them may actually be in another person also. You can only control yourself.
Anonymous
January 18th, 2019 5:29am
It is not very important to know that your ex wants you back. Relationships are coming and going. It is important to see how to move on and be kind to others. No matter who you have dated or had a relationship with, moving forward and making sure they understand the situation is better than wondering about if they want you back. You do not need to know if this person wants you back. Regardless of many situations. You have connected to that person and they will always hold a place in your heart, but pondering back in the past is an unnecessary idea.
Anonymous
April 21st, 2019 4:26pm
If you keep a positive contact with him and give space for you both to heal from the break up if they want you back they will write and say they want to work this out. Keep a positive chat whether on the phone or through texts and let them know your true feelings . Listen to them when they are talking or through their words, honestly answer them in a positive manner. Ask if they feel sitting down and talking can help the relationship. Listen to what They have to say and take it as their truly speaking their feelings to you.
happyWillow7797
June 22nd, 2019 6:01pm
There’s no way to fully know if he/she does unless they tell you so. A lot of times, people tend to talk to their ex’s as friends or as “hook-ups”. However if they truly want you back for something meaningful, they’d let you know and show it through their actions. They’d actually make you feel wanted and loved. If at any point, you feel confused about what’s going on between you two, then you should consider that they don’t actually want you. Personally, I believe that you should never be confused in your relationship. It should always be clear how the other feels because that’s effective communication.
endearingShoulder5837
January 9th, 2022 10:17pm
Here are some signs that your ex wants you back in her life 1- she keeps checking on your profile 2- she texts to you and deletes it immediately. 3- She gets jealous when you are with someone else. 4- she orders your favourite food. 5 - she still has your pictures saved in her phone. 6- She realises her fault and wants you to come back, but she's scared to tell. 7- she even moans your name when she misses you. 8- she realises that you were the perfect fit for her and it was her biggest mistake that she left you. 9- she keeps eyes on you.
Elvyre
June 23rd, 2019 10:54pm
Why would you know? Ex is something that belongs to the past. It's a really hard path to recover from it, but there are always solutions. Time will also heal your broken heart. Of course no one say that you will never talk to him/her again. But why aren't you together anymore? Why did you decided to break-up? Missing him/her is natural and wanting them back also. Maybe chatting a bit with them can help. The key to this problem is certainly communication, what's more important than talking about your feelings together? Love is hard and so are breakup.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2021 1:01pm
They constantly find a way to make conversation with you. They talk about the good times you guys had. They mention they still love you or care about you. They talk about you to their friends and family. They do anything for you. When you’re in need of someone to talk to they’re always there and they’re always compassionate. They try their best to give you great advice. They tend to compliment you. They will look at you often. They’ll have any excuse for physical touch for example a hug. They will express that they still have feelings for you.
Hanaa00
July 10th, 2019 11:38pm
Alright. To be quite honest, yes, there are ways to know this. However, you need to ask yourself if you really want to know whether he wants you back or not, does it really matter, and would it be healthy of unhealthy if you keep asking yourself that question? In order to fully move on from a relationship, you have to eventually stop thinking of any hypothetical scenarios that include your ex. Including the simple thought of whether he wants you back or not. Once you are able to focus on yourself, these questions simply won’t matter anymore. You will be able to grow as a person and move on from that relationship in a healthy way❤️
waterkid1024
August 2nd, 2019 2:38pm
my favorite (and only) way to find out what someone wants is by direct questioning. it's ok to ask a clear question about someone's goals and boundaries, what they want from you and what they can offer you. If you noticed something that makes you think they want you back, you could explain the signal you're getting and ask the person if it is correct. of course, whenever you discuss goals and boundaries, it's important to recognize and honor when someone says no, or that they don't want something to happen. it helps to realize that the no doesn't have to make us feel rejected or not good enough. they said no because they were being honest, and that's the best thing we can hope for when we ask an honest question.
katherine081902
August 16th, 2019 7:58am
With exes, it is hard to stay away if you want to go back to them or vice versa. Short and simple, let them come to you. The best way to know if they want you back is to first find out if they want you in their life at all and to do that you must let them come to you. Don't try and force yourself into their life. My ex is a shy person who doesn't like confrontation so I knew she wouldn't come to me first. After a couple of months, I simply said "hi" and, as always, a conversation sparked between us. If your ex is like that then ease your way back into their life if they allow it, but tread carefully. Another way of knowing if they want you back is if they are asking about your love life specifically, many times if an ex wants you back they will try and see if you are over them or if you are single.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2020 11:50am
Experienced, I can tell that my-ex wants me back by seeing him not throw away all my gifts, and keeps calling or sending messages even though I don't answer ... Then he visits my parents and siblings, and gives me a surprise birthday present ... even though I am didn't respond, he did it to show concern and wanted us to get back together. He also then asked my friend how I was, asking my mood, when is the right moment for him to meet and talk with me, when I walk around his house, he watch and try to keep watching from his window, while holding his phone and texting me.
1man2pans
May 3rd, 2020 7:40pm
the only for sure way to know, is if you have a conversation with your ex and talk about what went wrong and if it can be fixed and they want to make a positive attempt to be together with you. if your ex is not answering your calls or responding to your messages to talk about what went wrong , then that would be a clear signal to they do not want to get back together with you, but if they agre to go for a coffee or tea and want to talk about the problems that led up to the break up , then they are considering that there could be a future together.,
Anonymous
May 15th, 2020 6:06pm
You will know if he comes back. If he misses you he will contact you as soon as he can. From my own experience, I thought I had lost the love of my life but a week had gone by and he decided that he didn't want to leave me. He will show signs that he misses you, watch his actions. He will also think about it a lot. He may even want to be friends with you until then, but overall he will probably contact you if he wants you back. And he will probably want to work through this as well. If he really does love you, he will come back.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2020 10:41am
You will see a big difference on the way he treats you if he wants you back. Most likely, true would reach out to you more than you reach out to them. They also would become more or less jealous of you talking to other people. In other words, if an ex is trying to get you back they will probably act erratically and display these crazy mood swings. Your ex could say things like: “It looks like you’ve moved on.” Or “Have a nice life” because they try and use reverse physiology on you. I hope this helped.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2020 4:27am
Unless they tell you directly, it is only speculation. However, if you see them trying to make the effort to approach you or flirt with you then that could also be a sign. Even so, think about why you guys broke up. If the other party was a bad influence, or if you were in a toxic relationship, please do not fall back into it. Sometimes, you think you miss the person but in reality, you only miss the feeling you get when you are in a relationship. But if your relationship was not "problematic" then I'd say give it some time. With time, you'll be able to tell what they're after, be it friendship, or a romantic relationship.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2020 11:19am
The easiest way to know this is that they will tell you or they may show you by getting back in touch and acting similarly to how they acted before you originally got together. If you are not sure then maybe just ask them what their intentions are. The best way to get the answer you want is to ask the question. However, be careful when getting back with an ex. Think about why you broke up to begin with and determine whether you think this problem has been resolved. Make sure to put your mental health first and if it may be compromised by getting back with your ex then maybe re-think why you actually want to get back together.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2020 1:25am
When they let you know explicitly. I've been in the place before where we want everything to be a sign or secrete message. It may even be disheartening to feel like someone's not fighting for you. However, it allows for space to open up for the people that want to make an effort to be in your life. We all know what effort looks like, especially if we're the ones that actively exert effort to show we are present for others. You will know when an ex wants you back when there is no doubt in their actions AND words that they do. You are worth the effort you give.
beautifulFlower8404
October 29th, 2020 7:21am
I am not allowed to give advice, but we can chat about it and hopefully you will come to some sort of an answer to that by talking it through with me. I am sure you know him or her, and you best. A few questions to help you come to a decision. How does he/she treat you? Does he/she initiate contact or is it always you calling? Those questions might be a good start for you in finding out if he is still interested. Like I said, since I dont know him or you it could be harmful for me to give Advice so you are the best judge of if he is interested in your or not. You could also just ask him or her if they are interested or want you back. That might be the best thing to do.
YetAnotherListeningSoul
July 31st, 2021 4:48pm
It depends on many signs. Do they express interest in you? Do they show this? Do you know why they left and do you think those issuse are resolved? Even if they want you back you might want to carefully consider if whatever reason lead to your split actually won't just reoccur once you spent some time together. What did you not fulfill for him and what did he not fulfill for you in your last relationship? Did you split up as a result of trust problems? And if so, are these now resolved? What other reasons have you had to separate before? Are there other people? If yes are they still part of his life? I think you should ask yourself this about your partner and expect that your ex will have a similar list. If all issues are resolved and there are no blockers, then there is a good chance that he wants you back. How they show this will be different from each partner, so it'll be very hard to say.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2021 6:07pm
If he/she is finding excuses to keep in touch with you on a regular basis, that usually is a good indication. Some people believe exes can remain friends, but in my experience that usually isn't the case. Acquaintances maybe, but unless an ex wants to get back together, there really is no reason for them to keep in touch. Is your ex finding excuses to talk to you regularly? Do they seem genuinely interested in what you're up to? Or are they just coming in and out of your life because they're bored? If they are trying to have a genuine friendship with you, that means they want you back most likely.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2021 8:14pm
If you haven’t have contact with him/ her and they start a conversation with you, if they ask you to hang out and they ask you if you are seem someone, if they show interest about what have you been up to lately, if they bring memories that you two had, if they openly express they miss you and that breaking up wasn’t a good idea, if they specifically ask you if you want to get back together, if they prove they have change for the better and they put more attention to your needs, if they show that they are committed to make it work.
dancingKitty5841
July 29th, 2021 3:24pm
How to know if your ex wants you back can be as simple as having a conversation with them about it. You can call and ask to go to dinner to discuss somethings that have been on your mind. If they agree to go to dinner that is a good sign that they care about you as a person. It may or may not mean they are ready or wanting to be back in a romantic relationship with you. They may want to be friends. This first step will give you the opportunity to share your feelings and allow them to share their feelings with you. Be prepared to be open and understand that it may or may not happen.
trustedlistener976
April 29th, 2020 10:09pm
He/she will keep asking about your own life, no matter whenever and wherever you are, she will keep behave as like you were still in a relationship and you MUST be aware of it. For me, getting back with an ex is totally the same as reading the same book, so you will know if you're getting back, 90% you will also know how it's gonna end. This is the thing that you need to be aware the most that your ex does really know your weakness spot. So, if their trying to reach you by hitting your weakness spot, it already totally meant thay he/she wants to have a relationship with you AGAIN.
Anonymous
March 7th, 2021 7:34pm
No human is a mind-reader or fortune-teller. Consider what happened when the relationship had a falling out. Would it be healthy to get back with the ex for you, for the ex, and for you together as a team? What are your feelings in the matter, and what is underneath those feelings? It's healthy for people to grow and change, but sometimes people can find a healthy and communicative way back to each other. Empathy, honesty, and respect and crucial keys to communication, without them there is likely to be a poor foundation. It's very possible for couples to maintain a friendship after the relationship. If you have these cornerstones of communication already, the easiest way to know the answer to your question is to ask your ex directly. It's disrespectful to infer what one may be thinking, and we want to respect the ones we love. We also deserve to be with people who want to be with us. One day, years from now you and your ex may encounter each other and feel that spark again. Until then, love yourself. Be well and good luck on your journey.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2020 4:38pm
While I can't speak for the general public, I could say that most of the time if this person it's interested in getting you back they will let you know. Somehow they will contact you, and they will try to get more involve in your life again. Don't read in between lines so you don't get the wrong signals here, and don't get high expectations so you don't get hurt. Keep in mind that if you were to get involved again communication is key and that the more open you both are and let each other know what you want, the easier things will be. It's difficult to know what the other person wants and what they are thinking when there's not an open communication. Good luck!