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How do i know if my ex wants me back?

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Last Updated: 11/25/2020 at 4:38pm
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 12:44pm
Can always look for signs, if there are any they may or may not be subtle. Just keep an eye out for them.
raneem253
November 18th, 2017 2:16pm
You’ll see it in their eyes,and ull feel it too.They’ll keep looking at you and stalking your social media.They’ll try to make you jealous and to take your attention.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2017 11:25pm
They will put in more effort than before. They will try their best to be there for you no matter what.
havartilikeits1999
December 8th, 2017 2:09am
You can't know anything about what a person wants unless they choose to communicate with you. Don't spend your time on trying to decipher clues about a person's behaviour. You're worth someone who will be honest and clear with you.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2018 1:34pm
If your ex starts to talk to you daily and trying his hardest to be with you again by trying to make you happy and showing he really does care for you, that means he really wants you back in his life.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 10:14pm
If he texts you non stop and calls you invites you to do activities and such stuff And .... is single
Cpcoleman1WSU
March 1st, 2018 10:25am
They'll make it pretty obvious. Reaching out, asking about you to others who know you, asking you directly how you are, frequenting places they might be able to see you at, and so forth.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2018 5:02am
If you have to ask they most likely do not.Actions speak louder than words. You don't need to wonder or chase love, if someone loves you they let you know, they treat you kindly and they show their feelings in every day things. Don't hurry back if the actions are not showing you clearly, words are too easy and can change in a heartbeat
Anonymous
March 17th, 2018 6:10pm
If they put the effort to show you that they still love you and care about you. They also show you just how important you are by showering you with affection to make you feel special to them
Anonymous
March 23rd, 2018 8:33pm
It'll be very obvious. If someone wanys you back they make visible efforts. They'll try to make sure you are getting the hints. Most of all your instincts will tell you. :)
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 4:07am
They will let you know. If they don't they're not interested.
aveheer
March 28th, 2018 5:30am
Well if your ex tries to contact you again, visits the places you visit, is closer to your friends or trying to get closer to them, calls you, keeps texting you first even in a sarcastic way, told someone that he/she wants you back, maybe he/she does.
SupportivePaintings
March 28th, 2018 4:13pm
If your ex is constantly calling you or texting you after a long period of time since the break-up, they most likely want you back and are trying to tell you that.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 2:52am
Be straight forward and ask, beating around the bush won't help you. Satisfy the curiosity rather let it consume you.
BelievesInTheImpossible
April 21st, 2018 10:07pm
Communication it Key to all relationships. Talk in all seriousness and let him/het know how you feel. Honesty is of most importance.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2018 5:52pm
If she want's you back,she would have texted you,because But if you want to be sure if she does want's you back,ask her out for a drink,then talk to her,and see it yourself
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 5:43pm
Ask her/him, honestly and simply. Expressing our feelings to others is the main key of a healthy communication. We should not assume or make suppositions. I just ask, it is that simple, having enough courage to recieve the answer whatever it would be.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 7:54pm
He will go out of his way to let you know. I personally believe that action speaks much louder than words
Anonymous
May 25th, 2018 12:36am
Personally, I can tell right away when an ex wants to get back into a relationship. If the ex tries to communicate frequently with positive conversations, or tries to set up a time to hang out that means they most likely want you back.
Iamiz
June 9th, 2018 1:26am
This can be a difficult thing to figure out without communication, but there may be certain signs that they may show, such as taking an interest in you and giving you their time. If you feel comfortable talking to them and they seem to enjoy talking to you, then you could always ask them.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 7:35am
There really isn't a way to know if your Ex does want you back except by asking them or reading more into the situation. if they persue you more often or just want to make amends about things it's a possibility but don't assume in-less you know for sure or ask them ''hey i was wondering do you want to get back together with them,'' they'll give a answer of Yes or No.
wonderfullSummer84
June 29th, 2018 2:52pm
Well, it’s honestly really hard to tell sometimes. But if they want you back they may do things to give you hints, like if you had nicknames while you were dating they could use them, and still getting you stuff for occasions like birthdays and Christmas (this one only applies if they didn’t get you stuff when you were just friends).
generousPrince61
July 7th, 2018 3:29pm
They will show more interest and investment in trying to contact you and trying to repair the relationship. But more importantly, have the things that led to the breakup been addressed? Has anything changed?
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 1:42am
If she/he shows interest and apologize but truly feel sorry, they probably still love you and want you back.
LanLaLand
July 13th, 2018 2:36am
You ask them in a straight forward manner, and if they aren't direct with you then they aren't worth your time, or that they're unsure.
Olivia9959
July 27th, 2018 6:21pm
You would know if your ex wants you back if he tries to contact you in any way or if he speaks highly of you or how his feelings are shown.
delightfulBraveheart44
August 2nd, 2018 5:25am
They won’t stop texting you. They won’t stay off of your posts! And they’re always talking about that “special ex” which is you .
JojoMojoHappy
August 4th, 2018 6:41am
Unless you ask them, none of us will ever know. While I understand it feels good to feel cuddled in our protective emotional shells (because it gives us the freedom to think up whatever suits us best), I'd suggest you try using the power of asking someone. It's truly a great power.
musicalBubbles69
August 12th, 2018 6:06am
They’ll probably show signs of affection, continue to talk or flirt, and will be jealous/ want to know if you’re with anyone else
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 12:22pm
You should talk to him. If he’s not wanting to be open about his feelings, you probably don’t want to be getting yourself into this situation. You also have to remind yourself why there an ex