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How do i know if my ex wants me back?

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Last Updated: 06/15/2022 at 11:36am
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Anonymous
July 19th, 2020 11:19am
The easiest way to know this is that they will tell you or they may show you by getting back in touch and acting similarly to how they acted before you originally got together. If you are not sure then maybe just ask them what their intentions are. The best way to get the answer you want is to ask the question. However, be careful when getting back with an ex. Think about why you broke up to begin with and determine whether you think this problem has been resolved. Make sure to put your mental health first and if it may be compromised by getting back with your ex then maybe re-think why you actually want to get back together.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2020 1:25am
When they let you know explicitly. I've been in the place before where we want everything to be a sign or secrete message. It may even be disheartening to feel like someone's not fighting for you. However, it allows for space to open up for the people that want to make an effort to be in your life. We all know what effort looks like, especially if we're the ones that actively exert effort to show we are present for others. You will know when an ex wants you back when there is no doubt in their actions AND words that they do. You are worth the effort you give.
beautifulFlower8404
October 29th, 2020 7:21am
I am not allowed to give advice, but we can chat about it and hopefully you will come to some sort of an answer to that by talking it through with me. I am sure you know him or her, and you best. A few questions to help you come to a decision. How does he/she treat you? Does he/she initiate contact or is it always you calling? Those questions might be a good start for you in finding out if he is still interested. Like I said, since I dont know him or you it could be harmful for me to give Advice so you are the best judge of if he is interested in your or not. You could also just ask him or her if they are interested or want you back. That might be the best thing to do.
Anonymous
October 30th, 2020 11:50am
Experienced, I can tell that my-ex wants me back by seeing him not throw away all my gifts, and keeps calling or sending messages even though I don't answer ... Then he visits my parents and siblings, and gives me a surprise birthday present ... even though I am didn't respond, he did it to show concern and wanted us to get back together. He also then asked my friend how I was, asking my mood, when is the right moment for him to meet and talk with me, when I walk around his house, he watch and try to keep watching from his window, while holding his phone and texting me.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2020 4:38pm
While I can't speak for the general public, I could say that most of the time if this person it's interested in getting you back they will let you know. Somehow they will contact you, and they will try to get more involve in your life again. Don't read in between lines so you don't get the wrong signals here, and don't get high expectations so you don't get hurt. Keep in mind that if you were to get involved again communication is key and that the more open you both are and let each other know what you want, the easier things will be. It's difficult to know what the other person wants and what they are thinking when there's not an open communication. Good luck!
Anonymous
March 7th, 2021 7:34pm
No human is a mind-reader or fortune-teller. Consider what happened when the relationship had a falling out. Would it be healthy to get back with the ex for you, for the ex, and for you together as a team? What are your feelings in the matter, and what is underneath those feelings? It's healthy for people to grow and change, but sometimes people can find a healthy and communicative way back to each other. Empathy, honesty, and respect and crucial keys to communication, without them there is likely to be a poor foundation. It's very possible for couples to maintain a friendship after the relationship. If you have these cornerstones of communication already, the easiest way to know the answer to your question is to ask your ex directly. It's disrespectful to infer what one may be thinking, and we want to respect the ones we love. We also deserve to be with people who want to be with us. One day, years from now you and your ex may encounter each other and feel that spark again. Until then, love yourself. Be well and good luck on your journey.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2021 8:14pm
If you haven’t have contact with him/ her and they start a conversation with you, if they ask you to hang out and they ask you if you are seem someone, if they show interest about what have you been up to lately, if they bring memories that you two had, if they openly express they miss you and that breaking up wasn’t a good idea, if they specifically ask you if you want to get back together, if they prove they have change for the better and they put more attention to your needs, if they show that they are committed to make it work.
Anonymous
July 7th, 2021 6:07pm
If he/she is finding excuses to keep in touch with you on a regular basis, that usually is a good indication. Some people believe exes can remain friends, but in my experience that usually isn't the case. Acquaintances maybe, but unless an ex wants to get back together, there really is no reason for them to keep in touch. Is your ex finding excuses to talk to you regularly? Do they seem genuinely interested in what you're up to? Or are they just coming in and out of your life because they're bored? If they are trying to have a genuine friendship with you, that means they want you back most likely.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2021 1:53am
After a breakup, most people wonder what it would be like to get back together. There is no doubt that your ex has at least thought about it. However, remember that they're your ex for a reason. If they broke up with you, would you want to take someone back who left you once? If you broke up with them, there must be a reason. If your ex contacts you pretty frequently or spends a lot of time with you, it could be a sign that they want you back. The biggest sign is when they make an effort to stay in your life. Always treat yourself with respect, and love yourself first! :) I hope this helped
dancingKitty5841
July 29th, 2021 3:24pm
How to know if your ex wants you back can be as simple as having a conversation with them about it. You can call and ask to go to dinner to discuss somethings that have been on your mind. If they agree to go to dinner that is a good sign that they care about you as a person. It may or may not mean they are ready or wanting to be back in a romantic relationship with you. They may want to be friends. This first step will give you the opportunity to share your feelings and allow them to share their feelings with you. Be prepared to be open and understand that it may or may not happen.
YetAnotherListeningSoul
July 31st, 2021 4:48pm
It depends on many signs. Do they express interest in you? Do they show this? Do you know why they left and do you think those issuse are resolved? Even if they want you back you might want to carefully consider if whatever reason lead to your split actually won't just reoccur once you spent some time together. What did you not fulfill for him and what did he not fulfill for you in your last relationship? Did you split up as a result of trust problems? And if so, are these now resolved? What other reasons have you had to separate before? Are there other people? If yes are they still part of his life? I think you should ask yourself this about your partner and expect that your ex will have a similar list. If all issues are resolved and there are no blockers, then there is a good chance that he wants you back. How they show this will be different from each partner, so it'll be very hard to say.
glowingPresence9786
September 1st, 2021 6:42pm
You want to know if an ex-partner wants to restart a commitment with you. I could see myself feeling nervous, sad, happy, and confused if I were in your shoes. How long ago was the relationship ended? Were things ended on mutual terms? What was the primary cause for ending the relationship? How did you feel about the relationship when it ended? Why do you want to reconnect with your ex? It is important to take emotional inventory and ask ourselves how we felt then and now, and how our emotional well-being has changed. I believe this would be a great conversation to discuss with a licensed professional.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2021 9:24am
You ex will try to reach out. He will try to contact you. Send gifts and apologize for leaving you. He will make time for you and try to make you feel special and wanted again. Don't get it wrong, just because you called and he answered does not mean your ex wants you back. Just because you still miss your ex doesn't man they want you back. If your exes actions does not show any change in the behavior or not improved then that means your ex does not want to be with you again. You mustn't have to guess whether they want you back or not. That must be clear.
Anonymous
December 9th, 2021 1:01pm
They constantly find a way to make conversation with you. They talk about the good times you guys had. They mention they still love you or care about you. They talk about you to their friends and family. They do anything for you. When you’re in need of someone to talk to they’re always there and they’re always compassionate. They try their best to give you great advice. They tend to compliment you. They will look at you often. They’ll have any excuse for physical touch for example a hug. They will express that they still have feelings for you.
endearingShoulder5837
January 9th, 2022 10:17pm
Here are some signs that your ex wants you back in her life 1- she keeps checking on your profile 2- she texts to you and deletes it immediately. 3- She gets jealous when you are with someone else. 4- she orders your favourite food. 5 - she still has your pictures saved in her phone. 6- She realises her fault and wants you to come back, but she's scared to tell. 7- she even moans your name when she misses you. 8- she realises that you were the perfect fit for her and it was her biggest mistake that she left you. 9- she keeps eyes on you.
vailitiolite
March 16th, 2022 5:11pm
You don't know if an ex wants you back by just assuming, that is for sure. It is hard to identify these things through any sort of behaviors. Trying to do so is considered a thinking error or a cognitive distortion, most commonly called "mind reading". The only way to ever truly know how anybody feels, including an ex, is by communicating with them. Communication is very important. Engage in self-talk, determine whether or not you really want to pursue this relationship, and if you do, then open a line of contact with them. Ask them questions, figure out where they are in their own headspace.
silverf78
June 15th, 2022 11:36am
Hey , I feel his/her actions will be enough to show what he/she wants. Relying on words is not a good option when it comes back to know if your ex wants you. Also if you get hints or come to know about it from a external source you must not let it bother you since these things are called MIXED SIGNALS and mixed signals shall always be considered as a NO. You are a master of your own world and you would definetly understand if they want you back . But you don't need to settle yourself for bare minimum , never forget you are enough for yourself