How do I regain trust in the future?

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Last Updated: 11/06/2017 at 6:50am
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Savannah2186
November 30th, 2014 8:44pm
Remember that not all people will break your trust, and that you deserve true happiness! If you bought a bag of pretzels with several broken in the bottom, there would be hundreds more perfect pretzels in the bag.
crlody
November 30th, 2014 10:06pm
Think back on a past struggle or situation that ended up turning out OK or even better than you thought and use that as an example to remind you when you're feeling stressed or distrustful of the future. For example, maybe there was something that you really wanted and didn't get but then something even better came along and you were worrying and stressing for no reason! Try to think back to a time when something like that happened and it will help you regain trust in the future.
smileforawhile
November 30th, 2014 11:41pm
Regaining trust is a difficult thing to do. I try to remember that not everyone is the same. Therefore, not everyone is going to hurt you or make you regret trusting them. If you trust someone you shouldn't, use it as a learning experience. But don't let bad experiences with people stop you from living your life and moving on.
DreamerOfDreams
December 1st, 2014 1:35pm
Show that you can be trusted again. You must prove yourself to be trust worthy. It might take some time but if you work hard you can do it. :)
RavingSkittles
December 4th, 2014 9:17am
Regaining trust takes time and is really difficult honestly but it is very possible if your willing to be patient and are really dedicated to getting the trust back.
guyinasuit
December 16th, 2014 9:31pm
It is difficult, but you've got to remember, that whoever/whatever caused the loss of trust originally, was likely a one-off thing. There are people who care about you, and want to talk to you, and you can trust them!
Mayaisthename
December 25th, 2014 11:05am
Well you need to take it day by day, I'm not saying it will easy but moving forward is the best way to learn how to trust again.
Lennya
April 8th, 2015 1:19am
I think you just need to really work on finding things in the future worth looking forward to - there are so many things to be sought after (graduation, marriage, dating, children, job, volunteer work, etc) but it can be hard to keep your eyes on those when the day to day grind of life gets you down. Its small steps every day that make those goals feel more like a reality :)
TheLovableSunshine
May 16th, 2015 7:48pm
It's not easy to gain back trust you have already broken. There is no specific time, but if you're really sincere, you just should work hard to bring it back, no matter how long. In time, the person will see your efforts and deem you worthy again, but not as before. Let's face it, we don't trust all the people we meet, even if we're close with them, right? But the point is, you have to make amends for a very long time if you want that trust again.
Sunshine15
June 5th, 2015 7:59pm
Spend some time with yourself. Think about how you want someone to treat you. You can even make a list and if you find someone who doesn't treat you like you want then don't accept anything but the best.
Daims29
July 14th, 2015 12:31am
The only way to regain trust. Is to try as hard as you can to repair what you broke. don't try to talk yourself out of everything, but just try to be nice and help everywhere you can
HopefulJet61
November 9th, 2015 2:06am
Whenever possible just try to be honest with yourself and feelings towards others. Do not lie or be fake with anyone.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2015 10:05am
Let them prove themselves, everyone deserves a second chance but with certain situations no. Question if its really the right thing and think about it
LGBTMatt
December 14th, 2015 8:00pm
Keep an open mind! Make sure you remember, not everyone wants to ruin your life. Keep in mind people love you
Anonymous
April 19th, 2016 9:47pm
Surround yourself with non-judgemental positive people and they'll teach you how to trust. Kind people don't want to hurt anyone and in time you'll realise that they're not going to use your secrets or insecurities against you. And learn to take risks. Regaining trust is difficult and sometimes it requires going a little out of your comfort zone. Share little pieces of information even if you hesitate, make sure the stuff you share isn't very harmful if you're really nervous. Start by taking small steps.
brightOcean69
April 25th, 2016 8:32pm
first you have to learn to trust yourself and your family before you can trust others as trust starts from home
cosyheart21
September 19th, 2016 3:07am
Regaining can be hard, but, like the light at the end of the darkest tunnel, it's worth it. Believe in yourself, and try to stay optimistic towards what's coming in the future. Having faith will really help you gain some trust.
EmmaJosephine
November 8th, 2016 4:52am
By placing your faith on something, and letting go of the need to control what happens. The present is called the present because it's a gift, we should be living in the moment.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2017 6:50am
Sadly there are times in our lives that we put hope and trust in someone that does not deserve it. After getting hurt by this people we realize that it hurts too much to go through it again that we protect ourselves. Thing is when you protect urself way to much then you are just missing out and not living. Giving power to the person who made you loose your trust in the 1st place.