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how do i start dating again?

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Last Updated: 05/19/2020 at 5:05am
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Brenda King, PsyD


I treat life changes, women’s issues, and issues of aging using evidence-based treatments with healthy doses of warmth, empathy and humor to enhance healing and growth.

Top Rated Answers
June 14th, 2015 1:07am
The best thing that one can do when rebounding back from a bad breakup is developing their life again. Unfortunately, a lot of people feel like they "lose" themselves when entering a serious relationship. Part of bounding back is getting back in touch with the things about life that you love and enjoy. That's the first step to building confidence, establishing who you are as a person, and coincidentally, finding others who have similar interests to you. Try not to worry about what others think about you. If you are authentic and genuinely happy with the person you are, then who cares if someone has a different opinion? People are entitled to their own preferences and opinions, and that is NOT a reflection of who you are, but who they are. Bottom line, get back to your hobbies, passions and the things that bring joy in life. Not only will you live and lead a more satisfying life, but you'll end up running into people who have more in common with you.
February 28th, 2015 5:52am
Make sure you're ready to first and then just go about dating like how you think you should do it. You know what does and doesn't work best for you. ♡ Best wishes, my friend!
March 1st, 2015 2:43am
Try getting involved in co-ed sports or going or going out to places of interest and striking up conversation and making new friends, you have to start somewhere right? Remember social media sites are a great way to meet new people while being able to stay comfortable and not feel overly exposed.
March 31st, 2015 4:13pm
Just wait for the right person .. right time and right place ... And I'm sure you will find that then you can start dating again :)
May 11th, 2015 7:49pm
Ease into it. Rushing into something when you're not sure if it's what you want to do is a great recipe for disaster emotionally.
May 31st, 2015 3:14am
Take your time! Be open to meeting new people, but don't feel like you have to change your entire routine. You might find a connection somewhere totally unexpected!
June 22nd, 2015 10:11pm
I've been asking myself this for a long time, these past few months. It is difficult getting over that person when you thought you loved him totally. But reminding yourself, that it was not your mistake that it didn't work out, is very important. Don't feel bitter towards him. Instead, just keep the memories of your past. Trying to forget them won't help. I tried and it backfired on me. Take the lessons, and love yourself, remember you deserve it, because you are special, and love is even more special. You can't give up on love. Get out. Have a look at those boys and girls. And that previous face will just vanish in the crowd, till you realize you have found a new one. Best of luck! I love you!
July 19th, 2015 6:20am
Don't rush back into the dating scene unless you're really prepared for it. It may take you some time to get use to the idea of getting to know new people in terms of dating/relationships. Take it slow. Take it one step at a time and day by day and you should be fine. Also never settle for less.
August 25th, 2015 11:28am
Firstly, you need to make sure you're confident and comfortable within yourself- there's no point putting yourself out there for romance when you don't love yourself first :) (this is the fun bit), treat yourself a bit- go and buy a new outfit, shoes, makeup, perfume, hair dye or whatever makes you look your best or feel your prettiest. Now, spend time with friends, at clubs, shows, anywhere you're likely to meet someone with your interests (like, don't go to horse riding club to find a date if you're scared of horses). Also, don't be afraid to ask around :) ask your friends if they know anyone available right now- if you don't ask, you don't get!!
November 2nd, 2015 9:39pm
You can't love another heart if the heart you love with is broken. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Start with self love and move from there. With that, you'll find the confidence to open yourself up to others and show them who you are without fear.
December 29th, 2015 4:11am
You should put yourself out into the dating world, and let people know you are looking to date, but do not try so hard to find a perfect date. One day he or she will come without you have to be pushy.
July 4th, 2016 6:37am
You just go out there and give it a try. Give the guys u are dating a chance to sweep u off your feet.
July 11th, 2016 12:22pm
there is no rush to be committed to somebody but if you feel youre ready than finding group activities that you enjoy or surrounding yourself with the friends of your friends can help you get back into the circuit.
August 2nd, 2016 6:29am
Make sure that you are already healed, before you go into another relationship. Because unhealed hurts will just show up in future relationships. Be cautious the next time you date, and learn from your past experiences, if you have been hurt.
August 16th, 2016 9:05am
Just wait until you find the right person. Wait until you come across someone that you really want to date, and don't rush it!
September 20th, 2016 7:27am
It's always important to put yourself first. Learn to love yourself before loving another person. And try not to be afraid to get out there and find someone. Be honest about what you want, and stay positive.
September 24th, 2019 6:41pm
If you are after a break up, then you need to take your time to recover. It begins with self care and self love. If you are clear on your expectations you will filter the bad guys out. If you are satisfied with yourself at the moment, just go out dating and your high energy will attract the right guys. From experience, i can confirm that every time i was down and had low energy , i attracted only wrong guys because i didn't take the time to heal myself. Be careful and take care of yourself first.
May 19th, 2020 5:05am
First, let yourself fully heal from the relationship of the past because if you rush into another relationship, chances are you won’t be ready for it and the past can affect your future. After you have fully healed, you can either just mingle around while you’re trying to find what kind of person you like or you can use a dating website. Make sure that you are being safe and smart when you start dating again, if you’re dating someone from the dating website don’t give them information about where you live and show up in your own ride rather than having them pick you up from your house. Please be safe but most importantly just follow your heart but don’t forget to take your mind with you!