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How do i start talking to a guy I like?

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Last Updated: 08/28/2018 at 2:17pm
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Top Rated Answers
March 6th, 2016 11:28pm
Well, if you want some conversation starters, I'm a big fan of "what's your favorite colour?" Or something similar. If you need to get the courage to do so, pep talks are awesome for that. Looking at yourself in a mirror while doing so also helps. Good luck!
March 9th, 2016 6:29pm
It's easy! Just say hey how is your day going? Always be yourself and if that guy doesn't like you, someone else will! Never feel ashamed to put yourself out there. You got this!
March 10th, 2016 12:11am
Tackle him down; bait him with some french fries... Actually I have aksed the guy I liked - about his T-shirt (with a band logo on it). My advise: Ask about anything, make them actually "see" you.
March 11th, 2016 7:54am
Guys always like a girl who makes them feel good about themselves. If you can make a guy feel appreciated when he’s with you, you’ll find it a lot easier to make him like you and want to spend time with you. If you know this guy well already, that’s a great start. For a guy to like you, you need to be the kind of girl he wants as a girlfriend. At times, both of you may just have different compatibilities. But no matter what the odds are, it’s always better to have tried and failed than never having tried at all.
March 11th, 2016 2:09pm
Hey,i heard you like football,(that helps you show interest in him whilst giving you conversation possibilities
March 16th, 2016 9:21am
Get friendly to him.....Talk to him....Get closer over drinks/concerts/any place of common interest. If you feel that's enough....tell him about your feelings
March 18th, 2016 5:00am
The easiest way to begin talking to someone is to ask a question. It can be very easy! The thing is you want to ask a question that is related to your environment or situation. For instance if you are at school, you might ask "Are there any good teachers at this school?" or "Are there any subjects are actually fun?" or maybe super simple stuff like "Do you think there is anything good at the cafeteria today?" And assuming you are a girl, you would be surprised to know that MOST guys are very interested in having girls talk to them. You might not think so but guys are hoping that girls will talk to them first normally. You can do it, the guys are usually hoping you might chat them up.
March 20th, 2016 2:36pm
Be cool and casual, very confident, find out the common interests, get to know each other by asking some general questions but do not have an agenda ready, let the conversation build up spontaneously. Be very confident and secure in your own skin, if you love yourself, other's will love you too. Hope for the best and be prepared for the worst always. If you think that he is not as interested in you, there is always other nice people around and may be someone secretly already likes you.. who knows? :)
March 20th, 2016 6:11pm
Start with small talk. Like asking for a pencil at school or help on homework or accidentally dropping something by him as you walk by so it forces him to pick it up, give it to you and talk to you.
March 23rd, 2016 3:06pm
Ask him a question. What is his favourite film? favourite book? favourite TV show? Does he play sports? Is he a dog or cat person? Just ask him an engaging question that can't have just a yes or no answer.
March 26th, 2016 3:32pm
Start by saying Hi and start talking about your and his interests, likes and dislikes. Remember that he is also a human and not some alien :p So keep you calm and talk :D
March 26th, 2016 6:40pm
be kind, and slowly start talking to him more and more. but also have patience, dont expect to be best friends (or more) with him right away.
April 1st, 2016 5:23pm
Be sincere and honest about yourself. Be you is the most important thing. Talk about something that you both like..if you don't know a topic then talk about general stuff.
April 2nd, 2016 2:06pm
find something you are both interested or passionate about and then talk about it , or search for things you could have in common
April 2nd, 2016 5:41pm
Just be yourself :) make small conversation and see where it goes! If the guy seems like he doesn't care much to talk to you, maybe he isn't worth your time
April 3rd, 2016 9:28am
don't be too free to talk to him and don't be too shy either just try to be a little friendly and interactive
April 6th, 2016 2:27am
Try to find an excuse to talk to him. Whether it be help in class/work, a simple question etc. And then, once you ask/get an answer, introduce yourself and just start talking :) (So long as it's not in the middle of something important).
April 7th, 2016 11:50am
First, don't be afraid! If you like him, you need to get more comfortable around him. Them, try to start an easy conversation.
April 7th, 2016 6:43pm
Depends, how do you feel about talk to him about it? Do you get nervous? Does he already have a girlfriend?
April 7th, 2016 6:47pm
People always complicate things like is there some secret steps or magical tricks to talking to a person. NO THERE ISN'T. You go up to that person and you say hi, introduce your name. You can start with some funny intro or do a pick up line. "Is your dad a preacher, cause boy you are a blessing." So what if he thinks you are weird? You will probably the only girl that done a legit pick up line to him and he will remember you for that. It's not hard, just talk, listen and enjoy the conversation.
April 9th, 2016 9:43am
Start by smiling/just say hi. If you share common interests perhaps start talking about them. For example, something about them that was on the news recently, or a new movie that was out, etc.
April 9th, 2016 3:45pm
Be confident, go up to him and say hi or ask for his number. Treat him as a friend and see how it goes
April 10th, 2016 9:50am
Be kind, and welcoming. Try to not rush things or make it obvious that you have feelings for him. Just be kind to him and be yourself. If the feelings are mutual, things will go great for you both.
April 10th, 2016 12:19pm
The best place to introduce yourself is a neutral setting like your workplace. The environment wouldn't stress you out as much. You may start with an introduction and small talk. Find some common ground. It's always good to establish a small friendly bond before letting it take a more serious route.
April 13th, 2016 11:53pm
You start talking to the guy you like. It's that simple. Don't think about whether if he likes you or not, just be yourself and start talking. :)
April 16th, 2016 4:06am
As far as I know, the best way is humor. Depending on the known personality traits, of course. Most people enjoy a good laugh, though, and if you're the one making the first efforts, it'll only be a matter of time before reciprocation. Then it's all about friendship. But remember to be real; you want him to like you for you, not for a fake persona you've cast.
April 17th, 2016 2:48pm
You can go up to him, start with a sinple hello. Be kind and compassionate. Be sweet and funny. And you should be confident about yourself when you talk to him.
July 5th, 2016 3:15am
Normally, I take a deep breath, and find out first what they're interested in. Always start with "hello" and just be yourself. Something will eventually happen. It's okay to be nervous!
August 15th, 2016 4:58am
You may want to start by becoming friends with him and learning if you have anything in common, or if he likes you!
August 30th, 2016 12:02pm
if there is a guy you like but you just haven't got the guts to speak to him. you can start by trying to talk to some of his friends so it is a way in to speaking to him. You could then give it a go by flirting with him and then he might see that you have a slight interest.