How do I start to live a life without the person I can't live without?
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there's much potential in life and that's not the end, might be painful at this moment. I don't want to become a substitute but i can walk with you along your path and you won't be alone there. There will always be a place you can look up to, a place you are not bound to fear and share anything without being judged.
Always feel free to express yourself, don't carry the fear of being judged.
let out all the pain you have been facing and set yourself free, please take time to share your thoughts whatever it might be
You live the best life you can imagine for yourself without that person. You had a before, and now you start your after. Now is the time to fully focus on yourself, and whatever makes you happy. Nows the time for growth, and reflection. The possibilities for your life are endless. You can finally have control of it without needing to compromise with another person. It will be hard, some days more than others, but it will get better. It sounds cliche, but you will create a new normal for yourself. Turning that fear and unknown into something else is powerful. If that person is supposed to be in your life they will be. If not, thats okay too.
that is a tough one.. I don't know... I am. trying to figure it out now myself... and so far I have no answer. Maybe allow yourself to start a life acknowledging that without them the life still has go on, even though it feels like it can't. Or maybe just try to find another reason to live, which may at the moment seem futile, but gotta be something out there worth living for. In the worst case scenario, you just plough through it day by day, and see what happens.
Always remember this, Happiness is an emotion that only you yourself have total and ultimate control over, never let anyone or anything control your own happiness, reflect back on your life before that person came into your life, you was living life to the fullest before them and you can surely live a beautiful life without them
It will take time but after a while this person will invade your thoughts less and less. Move on woth your life and try new things and make new friends that don't constantly remind you of them. Join a new club, take a college course and take some time out to focus on yourself.
It's definitely fine to think about others but self care is equally important. If you do not know how to take care of yourself , nothing will work fine. So you must accept your feelings and move on in life, tell yourself that you need to stay strong :)
Anonymous
April 14th, 2017 6:14pm
By keeping yourself busy and entertained and also by not keepeing yourself from doing anything that you would like to do because of the fact that you have to start on your own. When you start to realise that you are strong enough to cope with the challenges that life presents to us on our own terms, then you'll start to get better!
Anonymous
September 3rd, 2017 11:48pm
Living life should not depend on someone else. Your life has always started with you. It may feel impossible to live without them but, you previously have been able to live without them before; there is no reason you cannot now.
Anonymous
October 4th, 2017 3:45pm
Realizing you are not dependant on anyone to survive is the first step. Remember how you lived without them before you knew them and try to remind yourself of that time. Take a step each day to get used to new things and feelings, opportunities etc. Surround yourself with positivity and friends. It will get better.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 1:56am
This can be seen as a phase. Yes there will be a couple of weeks or months that you will think about this person alot. But soon you will discover and learn new things meet new people and your life will then go on as normal
Remember that he/she would want you to move on with your life and enjoy every precious second you have left, think of the good times you spent together and even the bad but always remember the bond you both shared
A breakup always hurts. You will have to find new ways to cope and how to get back to yourself. Things will never be the same, which is good, because we always develop, we always change. Finding a new Hobby, doing things you know you will enjoy. But allow yourself to be sad. We humans like habits, and if habits fall apart suddenly it makes us want to get back to them. Which is not always possible.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 4:27am
If there is no possibility of the person coming back into your life, what you can do is learn to live how you were living before they entered your life. Life doesn't remain constant. It keeps changing an it is of utmost importance that we change with life and the changing times. Try letting your emotions out in a productive way. For me, writing helps.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2017 10:25pm
This person wasn't always a part of your life. Try to remember who you were before you met this individual. Create a life with the things you love to do that doesn't involve him/her. Remember there are people who love you even though this person isn't around anymore. Know that it takes time before you start feeling normal and okay without them. Take it one day at a time. Learn self love and self care. You are important and you are self sufficient.
You'll need to start one step at a time. Gradually, it will become less painful. Find things to distract yourself with such as puzzle games and funny videos. Surround yourself with friends and family.
Starting a life without that one person who you consider who is the closest and the one that connects with you the most is hard and maybe would take time. I guess the person that you really should work on that you can't live without is yourself as not only will this help you but draw others to you even those who you seem to have lost. but remember you have those memorises and that person sent some time of your life with you so that means something.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2018 5:08pm
Distract yourself from any time to think about this person.Have someone you know go with you somewhere fun.Meet new people.
You have to remember that people come and go and that youre an individual. That means being by yourself sometimes. Surround yourself with friends and slowly try to move on.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2018 4:50am
One of the most important things is to remember that when you started your success you started without a person if you definitely want somebody to be in your life then you got to learn to be yourself do things as if it is only you and succeed when you come out of your successes then you can approach that person that you cannot be without if things are meant to be they are meant to be that they are not it's time to just reflect get yourself back on your feet and move on
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 3:11am
If it is not meant to be, it's not meant to be. You can move on without him/her. Just as him/her has moved on without you. Just accept the fact that you are not meant for each other
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 6:34am
Before you met that person, you were living without them, it would take time as dependency increases, but you are your own person! Take charge and treat yourself with self care
Invite a good friend or family member to do an activity you love. Once you see that you can be happy living life without that person it'll help!
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 5:03pm
Find someone new. Live your life with your friends! Friends take the place of anyone! Friends can distract you from your true feelings
It a tough question to answer & practically even tougher to implement! But the simplest solution is to accept & appreciate the fact that everything is temporary. Change is vital and waits for none. Though it's harsh, it's true & the sooner we accept, the better we can live without that particular person. And yes, we should never forget self-care if something like this happens:-)
There's no such thing as "I can't live without a person". Don't get me wrong, the feeling of it is very very real but that, itself, isn't. We convince ourselves that we absolutely *need* this person to survive so we feel like it's all over when we lose them. Your best shot is doing a mental exercise in which you envision meeting your person and telling them all you need to tell them, thanking them for their time in your life and then letting them go. After that, you can move on or, as you said, start living your life without them by doing things that you love. Keeping yourself busy (but not overworked) can do wonders.
You can live a life without the person you can't live without by taking small positive steps. Each day do something, such as a creating a small goal to accomplish. Also taking time to create a mindfulness time for your self-care. Do a little something that is special to yourself, such a read a book or spend time with other people you enjoy. Changing different aspects every day in a positive way will allow the freedom and happiness within ourselves to shine.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2018 10:03am
You are your own person. An individual. There is no person you cannot live without. It takes an immense amount of strength that everyone can muster when the time comes to let go of what is not with you anymore. The time has come for you. Be strong and live on.
You have to slowly move on, it takes time when the one person you depended on and loved so deeply leaves.
Recognize that you were living before you met this person. Try to learn the lesson that your time with them is offering, and then move forward with that knowledge.
Anonymous
July 14th, 2018 1:16am
Heathcliff told Catherine as she was dying, "How can I live without my life? How can I die without my soul?" I've watched this old movie innumerable times and still sob through this scene with Laurence Olivier and Merle Oberon.
So, good question. I thought I couldn't live without my grandfather, but here I am. The one thing he did better than anyone else was to accept me the way I was, and to be exceedingly good company. I've tried to take on his mantle, simply, to be good company.
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