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Honestly? You don't just stop missing them like that. It takes time. Especially if you've been together for so long. You need to be able to grieve that they're NOT with you anymore and try to put them behind. Change your routine, go out with friends, speak with family members. Distract yourself so you don't find your ex lingering through your mind.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2017 10:36am
Start thinking about all the good things you can do when you are without him/her. And try to not think about the person anymore, it was a good time, but things end. Move on and try to find yourself again or someone new.
Occupy your mind. Spend time doing something you love. Lean on friends/family if you can. Get rid of sentimental items, get a new wardrobe or redecorate your room. Freshen up your life and you'll soon realise you don't actually need them around to feel happiness.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2017 1:02pm
Find a new hobby, something that will make you feel good and possibly connect with new people. It can be as simple as reading books and as complicated as synchronized skating. After a breakup it is okay to feel overwhelmed, and if the feeling is very persistent don't hesitate to seek out a friend, a listener on 7 Cups or even a mental health professional to aid you in your journey.
You need to distract yourself. Do things you enjoy, things that won't remind you of your ex. You are so amazing and deserve to be happy. If missing your ex is getting you down, get some friends and do something you enjoy. You control your life, not your ex.
I know you can’t help it. It’s your emotions, it’s the memories, it’s everything rolled up together. But somehow you need to find a way to move on. Hang out with friends and meet people when you go out, it doesn’t have to be a romantic connection, maybe someone you could catch a movie or grab an ice cream with. You know… a friend... GYM Everyone says physical activity is a great way to get over someone, because it’s true. If you’re feeling stressed and anxious, the best thing you can do is to sweat. This not only slowly puts you into tip-top shape, but it helps release your hormones and reduce your stress and anxiety levels. So, get that playlist ready :)
I personally found a hobby and worked on making a better version of myself. I didn't have time to miss my ex.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 6:02pm
By working on yourself, taking daily steps towards becoming a better you and building a new life, the way you want it to be !
Remember why the relationship ended and what was unhealthy for you dring this time. If you concentrate on why you are better off now it might be easier.
I dont think you just stop missing someone. But you learn to deal with it, come to terms with what has happened and then accept it which ultimately allows you to move forward with your life slowly until it no longer feels like you "need" them. Its hard to think anyone else could take their place in the future but it happens. I believe love is a choice, it is the decision to give respect, understanding, patience, kindness and the room for them to grow without acting like you own them.
Missing your ex? Think about you your worth, how they treat you! Or maybe if it’s the wrong time. Keep yourself busy, maybe read a book or go out with friends. I promise you time helps everything, you need to know that it’s okay to feel sad when going through rough times, but you should also know it’s okay to want to talk to somebody about it. Show your ex who you are, what they are missing. Stay strong! You are an amazing person with or with out them!
Sometimes it's best to remove things that reminds you of your ex. For example a pair of shoes, or pictures you took together. On top of that you should stay away from their social media accounts and lose any form of contact with them. However I know we all are just human and the urge to stalk our ex or failed love interest comes on super strong at times, so it's probably best to delete/block their numbers or social media accounts. And no don't email them either! Remember the least contact or exposure you have to this ex the less you will think bout them or feel or them. All the best !!
Anonymous
November 11th, 2017 2:04pm
By progressing. Contrary to popular belief, distracting yourself do more harm than good. But progressing for yourself, working towards your goals in life, that will help you forget about your ex. Slowly, but definitely
Anonymous
November 14th, 2017 2:19pm
Getting over your ex can be really hard, it took me seven months to figure out how to get over mine but once I figured it out, I was fine. You need to get closure from them and after that, you need to delete them off of every social media (it's hard but super helpful) and you focus on things that make you happy.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 1:54pm
By focusing on anything that makes you better without them. It may sound harsh,but it's important to move on and find the one,again. Its a fresh adventure!
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 7:05pm
Try to move on. Get a hobby and let your mind wonder. Some ideas are colouring in, going for walks, photography, dancing.
I know it's hard to get over an ex, especially when the relationship meant a lot to you. After my last breakup I tried to surround myself with supportive, kind friends who I knew I could trust and depend on.
Well you never really do...but you can place their memory in special place in your heart and let time do the rest.
Such a simple question with such a complicated answer. It's going to take some time to stop missing your ex. But everyone does this at a different pace. The best thing to do is remind yourself that your life is planned out and there are good things in store for you. Forgive your ex and most importantly, forgive yourself. And Take care of yourself because you are important.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 12:20am
It's so easy when looking back on past relationships to remember the good times, but you have to (unfortunately) take the time to properly reflect and dissect why the relationship did not work.
Spend time with other people, friends, coworkers, or anyone who is in a hobby that you enjoy. Put some new memories in your head with new people and you wont think about your ex. When its night and you're alone, try to avoid thinking about your ex by thinking about good things you're excited about, or what you plan on doing tomorrow.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 12:21pm
remember all the reasons you broke up; it's easy to focus on the good things and forget about the bad.
Keep yourself busy and engaging. Try to make new friends, hang out with new people, read new books, go watch new movies. In short just keep yourselves busy.
I stopped missing my ex when I finally let myself be surrounded with people whom I forgot were there for me all along. 😊
block them!! then, go out with all your friends and do stuff to distract yourself, watch a movie, go shopping, go swimming, anything!!
The person is your ex because he was not good enough for you. Life goes on. Try to focus on your hobbies. Do what you enjoy to do. Diverse your mind. Have fun.
Anonymous
February 11th, 2018 10:29pm
Try getting out and doing stuff you love, maybe try a new guy. Spend the first few days on yourself
Anonymous
February 14th, 2018 1:23am
Getting over someone is hard, but there are multiple ways to getting over an ex. You can definitely do a rebound relationship, meaning you can date someone elese to forget about the first relationship. Another way is to do lots of activities that get your mind off of that ex. Getting over someone takes time, but it is well worth it in the end.
You need to take a break and try to hang out with friends as much as possible to feel comfortable about your situation
Think about you. Make yourself number one. It will make you feel better about the situation as a whole. Like I always tell my friends "You came into this world alone." You have to make sure that you take care of yourself or you forever be dependent. This world is big and bad and you cannot let anyone dictate "you"
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