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How do I stop myself from texting him?

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Last Updated: 10/28/2018 at 5:30pm
How do I stop myself from texting him?
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Top Rated Answers
December 31st, 2015 2:30am
You need to ask yourself the important questions. Are you happy with this person? Or are you better off? ....some people are poison to other people, but most of us don't realize it until it is too late.
February 11th, 2016 4:24pm
You should block him from your phone and delete his number. I know that it will be hard and it's not your fault that you want to talk to him but this will take time. I believe in you.
December 11th, 2015 11:21pm
Remind yourself that you deserve better than that and keep it as your motive, every time you grab your phone call a friend instead of texting him.
May 29th, 2015 10:14am
1. Be social i.e spend time with family and friends 2. Delete his contacts and throw out things which reminds you of him eg : his pics,gifts etc 3.keep yourself busy with your hobbies such as reading books,listenin to misic etc ... When you are busy you wont get a chance to text him :)
January 17th, 2016 12:24pm
Think about all the bad things he has done to you and ask yourself if he's worthy to get your text.
February 5th, 2016 8:40pm
Think, what are you going to achieve by doing nothing this? Will it make the situation better or worse?
April 14th, 2016 8:44am
Once you break up with someone its nature to want to talk still, no matter how much it hurts. However, it is typically best to try and avoid it. Whenever you get the urge to text him, text a friend immediately. I've found that to be the easiest remedy.
July 3rd, 2018 3:10am
I've been in this situation for days and what i did is intead of sending it to him, i send it to myself. Sending a message wont change anything anyway, it will just make you feel worse than ever.
November 18th, 2014 1:18am
That's actually how I became part of this website. I put my phone down, and look at me now! I'm so glad I did.
December 29th, 2014 5:58am
Block him out. Delete the past conversations with him. Take a new step forward. Instead of texting him, try texting a best friend.
January 9th, 2016 6:55pm
Try turning your phone off for a while. Maybe do something that will take your mind off of him, watch a movie or read a book even. sometimes being strong is hard but find ways to cope with it and you'll be okay.
February 4th, 2016 6:42am
You gradually let go. Whatever reason that you have to not text him, you remember; and you allow yourself to let go.
January 6th, 2016 10:55pm
try getting attracted to other boys and try not to think about him..........moreover u can delete the ways you can contact him
February 7th, 2016 9:04pm
Somewhere I read that guys take texts seriously. If you are texting him, means you are trying to communicate with him. however it means that only serious talk is going on and not fun stuff and it's not good for a healthy relationship. It all shows only hurt. Once you shared your feelings I guess the texting must have some relaxing moments.
January 23rd, 2016 12:38am
First off you should delete his number and any way you can contact him on social media. At first it might be hard but you have to be strong and distract your thoughts until you don't feel the urge to text him anymore.
November 20th, 2014 6:09pm
Delete him in your contacts, buy a new sim, don't use your phone, there are a lot of ways to avoid him....SELF CONTROL!
April 2nd, 2015 5:55pm
Do something with your friends or alone. Or you could talk to people about stuff that you want to talk about.
January 10th, 2016 3:32am
Keep yourself distracted! Go for a walk, hang out with your friends, find new hobbies! If you're busy enough you won't find time to text him. Not only that but you're also doing things that you enjoy- adding to your happy bank.
January 27th, 2016 4:16pm
best thing is to keep your mind busy and just focus on something else like a hobby such as the gym, or come on to 7 cups and speak with a listener so it releases some of your anxiety.
June 10th, 2016 8:31am
Whenever you get the urge to text him, just remember the way he has hurt you. I think this will help to some extent.
July 19th, 2016 2:56pm
There are a couple of ways you could try to avoid it, I know its really hard to try and cut off that contact. Would I be the umpteenth person to suggest even going as far as blocking the number? My other suggestion may or may not work, it will test your will power... Everytime you feel the urge to message him, type it out if you have to, and then simply delete it. A means of externalisation if you will.
November 19th, 2014 6:00pm
Turn your phone off. Leave the room. Try and really focus your mind on something completely different that interests you.
June 30th, 2015 4:35am
remind yourself how texting hi mmaks you feel somethimes i causes grief and pain or it brings you down
December 12th, 2015 3:39pm
think about why you're asking yourself this in the first place. do you think he deserve your attention?
January 31st, 2016 7:35am
Well, delete all contact information, block all social media's, and if you see him in public look the other way
February 7th, 2016 12:32am
Think of the reason you two broke up. Remind yourself that you are strong and independent and that you do not need a guy to make you happy.
August 22nd, 2016 3:11am
It's definitely a challenge that I can sympathize with! See what you can do to distract yourself, do what you love and focus on you!
August 29th, 2016 6:15pm
Do something else. Text a trusted friend about how you feel. I understand this but instead do something else. Like listen to music, draw/doodle, write about it, do a mindfulness activity.
December 30th, 2015 6:29pm
You just need to realize that if he wanted to be with you he would be making an effort and texting you first. You just have to learn to let go even though it might be hard.
January 9th, 2016 8:44pm
To stop contact you have to just set the line of blocking him and not contacting him. Each message you d not send is a step closer to your goal of not texting him.