How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be with him? (anymore)

I think that the best way is to be blunt. From personal experience on the other end, it made it so much worse when the other person was being vague because it gave me a lot of anxiety about what was going to happen. It gave me false hope and in the end it felt like I was being led on. If I were you I would talk to him in person and explain to him why you don't want to be with him. This can be a really hard thing to do and even though he might not appreciate it at the time, being blunt will help him accept the situation quicker and will make the breakup as clean as possible. Because no one likes messy break up. Good luck!

"Your happiness is my happiness too, I don't want you to feel lost and I don't want you to think that my love isn't enough. I love you so much I'm willing to let you go."

It will be very difficult but you have to end it. If you are not happy in the relationship than it's not worth continuing.

Be as straightforward as you can. Also, let him know the exact reason as to why you no longer feel like being with him. This is a sensitive subject, be as polite as possible. Understand his feelings too. You are free to make a decision whether you would want to be with him or no but also remember that it is you who wants to break up & not him. Therefore, give him some time to fathom this fact. If he is the emotional one, it is going to take him more time than usual. Once you have confessed about your decision, be patient. If this is difficult for you, it will be equally difficult for him too or even more than that but being honest & direct about it will save you both from further exhaustion. Because if you do not tell him and act weird around him (which is bound to happen) he won't understand the reason behind your weird behavior. So, it is better to tell him at the earliest. As it is, the sooner you tell him the better it will be for you both. And only then you guys would be able to move on with your lives.

Tell him, directly, personally. Better say it than leave it that way and both of you getting hurt as one doesn't want to be with the other.

you can just say that you have tried to make it work, but you believe deep inside that you are not best for him and he is not best for you. let him know that you still want to be friends and you care for him, but you don't love him in a way that you would be comfortable with staying together. say something like "I have the love a close friend for you... but I'm not in love with you".

I'm a big believer in 'honesty is the best policy'. I don't really think you could ever go wrong with being honest, however being honest and being too forward within this kind of situation would be slightly different, in which taking into consideration of their feelings would be best in how you phrase that you 'don't want to be with them.'

I have been in this exact situation instead of beating around the bush tell him directly what you feel about this relationship and you are not happy being with him keep it short and on point.I am sure he will understand you

First off, I know this is difficult, but necessary. Begin by being open and honest about why. Avoid cliches like "it's not you, its me" as they can just rub salt in the wound. Don't beat around the bush, just tell him the truth. Accept that it will hurt, for both of you, but hold your ground. If you feel this way, there's a reason and you can't let yourself fall back into a toxic relationship just because it's hard. Good luck, and I'm sorry you have to go through this.

you be honest and point out the reasons why you dont want to be with boyfriend any more , it will give him some understanding of why the split and also you might be able to stay friends after splitting up and least you can be friends rather than just part and not speak anymore,i think honesty is best policy as he might not want split , and its best comming from yourself and not second person,you can only be honest and give reasons why relationship not working , you never know he might agree with what you say to him after all

In this situation, the best thing to do is be straight to the point and honest with him. If he found out you were thinking about it for ages, he’d be more hurt by the fact he was led on for so long. By the time you eventually decide to tell him he may have already been over it if you’d told him how you felt immediately. In my opinion you should discuss any thoughts and doubts immediately with your partner so as to avoid as much pain and prevent prolonging the emotional hurt as much as possible. It’s better to tell him as abruptly and soon as possible. It’s whats best for the both of you.

Look here, I don't really know how to turn this idea to words, but I'll try my best. But when I say this, I really mean it,because this is not some kind of a joke. you are a very nice person, with lots of good qualities, and it is so clear that you have a good future ahead. but I am not the one for you. I understood this ,and decided to tell you this after giving it a very good consideration. My darling,let's end this here. You will find someone better than me, very soon.And on that day you will realise that I was right. Take care of yourself.

There is multiple ways. First of you can ask yourself, what do you feel more comfortable with? Do you feel more comfortable with: A) just straight on telling him. B) Telling him nicely, then explaining why. C) Just leave without him knowing. And just do what you feel is best. I'll be here for you. Keep me posted! :) If you feel like this just won't do and your way to scared to try it, then we can go with something else. Just think to yourself, do you really want to break up? You know you better than anyone else. Also, you know him better than anyone else too! So what do you think will hurt him more, if you don't care about hurting him, then it doesn't matter. If you do, make sure you can talk, and explain to him in a good manner. Whatever makes you feel more comfortable do it! :)

Be brutally honest and open about it without being insensitive. There is no plan or guide that will outline how to soften some sort of blow.

There is no best way to tell except to address the actual, factual issues why you don't want to be with him. You may choose to write an elaborate email, or a handwritten letter, or whatever works for you. Giving in writing helps the person to get time for it to sink in and most of the major fights/disagreements can be avoided in this scenario. List out to him clearly, that you may still be in love with him, but you don't feel driven to be with him. You may choose to tell him his good qualities too, and explain how you are just a changed person now with time.

It’s just a matter of being honest. Tell him how you feel and show that you are doing what is best for you. It can be really hard sometimes to think that you may be hurting him or letting him down but sometimes you just need to look out for yourself and do what’s best for you. I find that talking about how you are feeling with him can be a really good way to assess the situation. That way you are both on the same page and can communicate honestly with each other. There is no malicious intent it’s just a matter of doing what’s right for you

i would just tell him but be calm about it say it soft and not mean dont keep leading him on that will just hurt him more

Take him to something that he likes to do. Explain to him that you've had fun, but that you don't believe this relationship is heading where you want it to. You explain that it's been over in your mind for a while. If he tries to keep you around, explain to him that he deserves someone who actually loves him.

Honesty is key! Tell him how you feel and why you don’t want to be with him. Tell him that your decision doesn’t take away from the times you’ve already had together and that you wish him the best(if you do). Tell him you’re sorry to hurt him but your mind is made up and you have to follow your heart to be happy. Say goodbye! The more you drag it out the more it hurts everybody. Don’t sugar coat the truth because it’s not going to do anybody any good. Hopefully you both learn from the experience and carry on as a better person in your next relationship.

Be honest and straight forward, if you procrastinate it only makes you start to wonder if you really should leave him. If he asks for a reason why, you don't have to give him one. It can be very difficult especially if you've been together for a long time, but if you don't want to be in that relationship anymore you don't have to. Don't let him guilt trip you into staying with him. Be gentle but firm when breaking the news, he might be sensitive. Being honest with yourself is important when doing it, think of why your leaving him if he tries to change your mind

Writing it gently in a letter may soften the blow. You can be firm, gentle and honest at the same time. Good luck!

Have you considered how and why you feel this way ? Perhaps make a pros and cons list or sit down and talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. If you don’t feel comfortable doing so then seek advice from a relative or counsellor. Take time out for yourself as you may just be needing to focus on yourself or need a little space. What you’re feeling is natural but if you have made up your mind then sit down calmly and talk about it first. Another way is to explain how you’re feeling and why and maybe hear your boyfriends side of the story

An honest heart-to heart conversation usually helps more than other methods. You may want to prepare for this conversation though - Go over it in you mind a few times, if it helps write down the points you want to speak out. Feel free to confess. A heart-to-heart has a better chance of you having a less stressful break-up. You may even continue to be great friends!

You're really great but I don't think this is working out for me. You don't have to change , maybe we weren't meant to be. Goodbye

If you think that you are done with your boyfriend, then it's better to let him know than keep him in the dark fearing his reaction or fearing hurting him because not letting him know could hurt him more. But how to let him know, depends on the kind of person he is. Some people may be so sensitive that they may not be able to handle it at one shot, so maybe you can keep hinting subtly that you are done. Though this may not be the most respectful of the ways, your boyfriend might take the hint and breakup up with you. If your boyfriend seems like a mature person, then talk to him about how you feel like you have reached a dead-end, and end it on good terms. The chances are that your boyfriend may also have felt like it is over, and in such a mutual case, it is better to communicate openly. Though there is no denying the fact that ending things could hurt your boyfriend, and to a certain extent you also, but it could be better to get it done with.

Let him down easily, but be truthful when explaining why you decided to break up with him. One thing that causes confusion in breakups would be lying to them to keep from hurting their feelings. Just be as honest as possible. Also, be clear on the reason why. If it’s not his fault, make that known. If he did something wrong, also make that known.

Just tell him. Think about it, find a good place and try to understand him. Think what is he feeling and understand him.

I would sit down with your boyfriend and have an open discussion about your worries and how your feelings have changed towards wanting a relationship. Be honest, kind and remain open and honest.

Well you simply tell him what is going on, you don’t want too strong him along. You have a personal one on one conversation in person and you explain too him why you don’t think the relationship is working anymore

In my personal experience the best way is to be upfront and tell him exactly what you are feeling and why, remember to stay calm throughout it all and realize you are hurting him but also remember you are breaking it off for a reason and stay firm in that reason. I hope this helps you in any way!