How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be with him? (anymore)

I understand you’re struggling with telling your boyfriend you’d like to leave him. I think you should maybe have a sit down face to face conversation and just tell each other how you feel.

There is no easy way to break this news to anyone. You are just going to have to tell him. Telling him upfront is better than leading him on or just distancing yourself.

First off, I know this is difficult, but necessary. Begin by being open and honest about why. Avoid cliches like "it's not you, its me" as they can just rub salt in the wound. Don't beat around the bush, just tell him the truth. Accept that it will hurt, for both of you, but hold your ground. If you feel this way, there's a reason and you can't let yourself fall back into a toxic relationship just because it's hard. Good luck, and I'm sorry you have to go through this.

Sit over coffee and remind him of all the good memories between you both and then tell him about the bad ones and finally get to the point and spill it out......hopefully both of you won't be hurt.

I think the kindest thing you can do to allow him and yourself closure, is to be honest about how you are feeling

You're really great but I don't think this is working out for me. You don't have to change , maybe we weren't meant to be. Goodbye

An honest heart-to heart conversation usually helps more than other methods. You may want to prepare for this conversation though - Go over it in you mind a few times, if it helps write down the points you want to speak out. Feel free to confess. A heart-to-heart has a better chance of you having a less stressful break-up. You may even continue to be great friends!

Have you considered how and why you feel this way ? Perhaps make a pros and cons list or sit down and talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. If you don’t feel comfortable doing so then seek advice from a relative or counsellor. Take time out for yourself as you may just be needing to focus on yourself or need a little space. What you’re feeling is natural but if you have made up your mind then sit down calmly and talk about it first. Another way is to explain how you’re feeling and why and maybe hear your boyfriends side of the story

Be honest and straight forward, if you procrastinate it only makes you start to wonder if you really should leave him. If he asks for a reason why, you don't have to give him one. It can be very difficult especially if you've been together for a long time, but if you don't want to be in that relationship anymore you don't have to. Don't let him guilt trip you into staying with him. Be gentle but firm when breaking the news, he might be sensitive. Being honest with yourself is important when doing it, think of why your leaving him if he tries to change your mind

Honesty is key! Tell him how you feel and why you don’t want to be with him. Tell him that your decision doesn’t take away from the times you’ve already had together and that you wish him the best(if you do). Tell him you’re sorry to hurt him but your mind is made up and you have to follow your heart to be happy. Say goodbye! The more you drag it out the more it hurts everybody. Don’t sugar coat the truth because it’s not going to do anybody any good. Hopefully you both learn from the experience and carry on as a better person in your next relationship.

It’s just a matter of being honest. Tell him how you feel and show that you are doing what is best for you. It can be really hard sometimes to think that you may be hurting him or letting him down but sometimes you just need to look out for yourself and do what’s best for you. I find that talking about how you are feeling with him can be a really good way to assess the situation. That way you are both on the same page and can communicate honestly with each other. There is no malicious intent it’s just a matter of doing what’s right for you

There is no best way to tell except to address the actual, factual issues why you don't want to be with him. You may choose to write an elaborate email, or a handwritten letter, or whatever works for you. Giving in writing helps the person to get time for it to sink in and most of the major fights/disagreements can be avoided in this scenario. List out to him clearly, that you may still be in love with him, but you don't feel driven to be with him. You may choose to tell him his good qualities too, and explain how you are just a changed person now with time.

There is multiple ways. First of you can ask yourself, what do you feel more comfortable with? Do you feel more comfortable with: A) just straight on telling him. B) Telling him nicely, then explaining why. C) Just leave without him knowing. And just do what you feel is best. I'll be here for you. Keep me posted! :) If you feel like this just won't do and your way to scared to try it, then we can go with something else. Just think to yourself, do you really want to break up? You know you better than anyone else. Also, you know him better than anyone else too! So what do you think will hurt him more, if you don't care about hurting him, then it doesn't matter. If you do, make sure you can talk, and explain to him in a good manner. Whatever makes you feel more comfortable do it! :)

Look here, I don't really know how to turn this idea to words, but I'll try my best. But when I say this, I really mean it,because this is not some kind of a joke. you are a very nice person, with lots of good qualities, and it is so clear that you have a good future ahead. but I am not the one for you. I understood this ,and decided to tell you this after giving it a very good consideration. My darling,let's end this here. You will find someone better than me, very soon.And on that day you will realise that I was right. Take care of yourself.

In this situation, the best thing to do is be straight to the point and honest with him. If he found out you were thinking about it for ages, he’d be more hurt by the fact he was led on for so long. By the time you eventually decide to tell him he may have already been over it if you’d told him how you felt immediately. In my opinion you should discuss any thoughts and doubts immediately with your partner so as to avoid as much pain and prevent prolonging the emotional hurt as much as possible. It’s better to tell him as abruptly and soon as possible. It’s whats best for the both of you.

you be honest and point out the reasons why you dont want to be with boyfriend any more , it will give him some understanding of why the split and also you might be able to stay friends after splitting up and least you can be friends rather than just part and not speak anymore,i think honesty is best policy as he might not want split , and its best comming from yourself and not second person,you can only be honest and give reasons why relationship not working , you never know he might agree with what you say to him after all

Truth has always been a little difficult for people to accept. But the reality is that life is so unpredictably short that there is no point just staying with a partner if you dont enjoy it. Hence arises the need to inform your partner of the nasty n hurtful truth that breakup is the only way. As we live in a technologically advanced age, there are several choices to inform your partner of breakup. Although there isnt a nice way about it, text messaging is often used to tell the partner that you dont want to hang out with him any more. Messaging decouples both parties and allows both to catch a breath or two. There is also face to face meeting, video conferencing for remote dates, telephone calls or emails.

Relationships can be difficult at times - especially if you no longer want to be in them. It may not be easy to tell someone that you no longer want to be in the relationship with them. It can be hurtful to the person. However, it can be more hurtful to live a lie. Others can tell most times if you are truly in the relationship with them and are genuine or not. In past relationships, I have worked with how I was best able to communicate my emotions to the person and the best way for them to understand where I was coming from. I also considered their feelings. If I felt that the person would argue with me or want to resort to begging, I would write them a letter. Not a text messege. Writing a letter gives them a chance to truly see how you feel as long as you communicate this effectively. Try not to put the person down or speak unkind words. Point out some good things ou have experienced in the relationship. This may soften the blow. Speak honestly and kindly. I hope this helps. Good luck!

Honesty is always the best policy. These type of conversation are never easy. Just let him know how you feel and be forward about. Giving him a clear explanation will help give him closure. Also a face to face conversation would be best. A phone call or text message would be so impersonal. One thing that may help you go about this is thinking of you would like to be told by someone else. Putting yourself in their shoes will give you a better understanding of how they might feel or react to the situation. Last tip would be don't linger. Says what needs to say and move on. This will keep the situation from escalating.

The best way to end a relationship is to be honest, kind and empathetic. You have to understand that this is going to be difficult for him to hear so be clear about your intensions and give him the opportunity to share how he is feeling so that you both stay on the same page. It's helpful to use "I" sentences instead of "you" so that he doesn't feel like you are blaming him for anything but instead that you're talking about your feelings and experiences. Overall, just understand that it may take time for him to not be upset anymore and be kind.

You could start by telling him that you've appreciated him while you've been together. But a lot of the time people grow apart and change, and that's ok. It's ok to tell them that you feel you have changed and feel that your situation is no longer a good fit for either of you, after all, you wouldn't want him to feel he was with the wrong person either. If you have changed, then you are no longer the person he fits with. It works both ways. So you could tell him that you think of him in this decision as well as yourself.

It seems like you’re unhappy in the relationship you’re currently in, I’m sorry to hear that. If I was you I’d try and talk things through and talk about any issues before jumping the gun and ending it completely. If you’re really sure that you don’t want to be with him anymore, I would personally tell him, it’s not fair on either him or you. But think about any consequences that may occur after the breakup. Don’t do it over text or the phone either, make sure it’s in person, this will allow you to both express your emotions equally. Good luck!!

i'd recommend you do this face to face. its always a good option to choose healthy ways to end something on a good note. maybe go on a lunch and tell him how you feel, completely. give him all the reasons. try to make him understand but do not show any signs of confusion. if he gets that he has an option he'll try talking you out of it and the situation can go downhill pretty quickly. so be careful with words and try to be understanding if he gets upset or something. You'll feel good about ending things as properly as possible even if you don't want to. - just a casual advice as i don't know the details!

Reach a mutual agreement .its okay if you are firm about it.it will be hard at first but if you've seen the long term plan and dont see him as a part of the future you have planned for yourself ,tell him kindly and wait for him to respond. If he doesn't agree,dont force him. pray about it and ask friends for help and come to a conclusion.Seek help from elders and close friends or people who have gone through it previously. Dont bottle up all the emotions.uf you've come to this decision rashly take a step back and think about what you'd want most right now.go back down the memory lane,stroll through the future most importantly live and breathe the present

Talk to him about how you're feeling, and why. Communication is key. A breakup is very difficult, but I believe that through healthy communication, you will be able to overcome this hurdle. Of course it's going to be challenging, and it might hurt, but that's what Listeners are here for! We have your back, and we support you! Remember to try your hardest to refrain from any negative words. Don't react on impulse. Talk to them with kindness, and words from your own heart. Taking this first step is the hardest. But I know you are strong and you can do this!

I guess when you are in a relationship that you want to leave you start to appreciate the feeling when you are single. I guess when you ask someone for something that could give them the power to act and stop you from doing something that you really want. I guess just not saying anything and slowly separating yourself otherwise, talking to them in a good place in person face to face about your feelings. You could say things that you didn't like and pair it with good things so it doesn't hurt your boyfriends feelings. Good luck with it!

You kind of have to be honest with him about this, because the longer you wait the worse it is going to get. The big key here isn't so much picking the right words, it is picking the method you communicate this. If you can, doing this in-person is usually the best route as your tone and words can be best heard and understood here. But if you're long distance or in a toxic/abusive relationship, you may have to resort to calling, texting, or emailing. Again, be honest with him in that you don't want to be with him but don't resort to rudeness or harshness. It isn't a requirement to explain too deeply your reasons for this, but do not feel you have to explain it more than once. After you do this, I recommend a distracting activity like baking, a movie, or a hangout session with a friend.

Sit down with them when you're both calm and let him know how you feel and that you want to end things. Let him express any feelings he may have as well! It's best to tell him at a time where both of you are available and ready to listen to each other. Make sure not to put him down in any way. It helps to think about what you want to say first. Remember to stay calm and that you'll find the right person for you. I wish you the best of luck with everything!

The best way to approach it is to be honest. Whilst it will probably be very difficult and emotional, it's the most respectful and mature way to go about it. Try to do it in person, if possible, as text messages can easily be misunderstood in terms of tone (and are also just unpleasant). Answer all the questions that they have (it's likely they will have a few) but also make sure you say everything you've been wanting to say. Try to explain it as clearly as you can, as it is already a tough situation to deal with, without being left confused.

Speaking up for one's self is very important in every relationship. Hiding a fact or feeling or thought may definitely be harmful. So it is definitely better to convey how you feel and what your thoughts are. But yes, the way we address it matters the most. That is when you have to be more assertive in expressing yourself. Your body language, your tone, your words and how you convey is definitely the key. Not being too conscious about it, let it flow naturally, but express it in a way that the other person understands how you feel truly.