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How do you know when it's time to break up with someone?

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October 10th, 2016 12:11pm
If your partner doesn't seem to care when you're miserable, it's time to leave. Ditto if you feel that you're the only one putting effort into the relationship.
December 8th, 2015 2:16pm
Actually it's hard to lay down a set points to tell when it's something that only you or your partner can feel. It's when you realize the things or qualities about your relationship and your partner, that once made you happy are not doing so anymore. When our flaws or differences become more prominent. When you realize you are more in love with the memories rather than the person itself. When the pile of unsaid words just keeps growing up,. When you prefer to stay silent than to talk..even if it;s just about your day, when silence becomes awkward...basically..when you start asking yourself if it's over..IT IS
January 17th, 2015 7:41am
When you both have lost its spark and when you both realizes that you have been disagreeing a lot and couldn't find any solutions but to just pretend that everything is fine because it is easier that way.
May 27th, 2015 4:10am
There can be several different signs when you should know it is time to break up with someone. For instance, if your boyfriend or girlfriend is being violent and abusive, it is best to leave before things get worse. Also if you aren't happy than you should really ask yourself why your still in this relationship, your happiness comes first.
January 18th, 2016 3:49pm
if you don't feel special to that person any more, or if you think you would both be happier separated, if you don't feel that excitement like you did at the start or you don't feel like you have any feelings towards them.
October 24th, 2016 3:20pm
When you feel like you've grown apart and want different things as well as when you don't feel the love or the connection you two have had before
January 10th, 2017 5:42pm
It is a hard thing to know when to break up with someone, sometimes there are clear cut lines- such as when they are harming themselves, harming others, or harming you. And even then it does not make it easy to break up with someone. If they are making you feel bad about yourself, or pressuring you to do something that you do not want to do or know is wrong- it is probably time to have a serious talk, and if you cannot come to a compromise, or they keep doing it when you ask them not to- then it is time to break up with them. And sometimes the lines are blurry- you still love the person, but they are not fulfilling your needs (love, support, time, attention) or you feel you cannot give them what they need. This does not mean that you or them are bad people, it just means that you have grown apart as people/lovers/friends/what have you. I have been in the same situation, where I loved my partner but we could no longer give each other what we needed. I hope this helps.
March 15th, 2015 9:50am
If you feel that you both are growing distance.. and that you just don't feel them butterflies when you see them.. its best to just call it off.
April 9th, 2015 11:21pm
i would say its time to break up with someone when you are no longer happy with the relationship. This could be the result of numerous things, however if you feel like you're being treated poorly or you don't have any spark... (which would make you unhappy) i feel this is when you should terminate the relationship.
May 18th, 2015 2:33pm
When you feel hurt more than loved around that person.
May 27th, 2015 7:01am
If you feel like you don't see the future with the current partner, you don't see yourselves together as a family, you don't feel the passion, the unquestioned love for him/her, maybe it's time to let that relationship go. Don't be together just because you get used to it.
May 28th, 2015 7:32am
Ending a relationship is never easy, even when you know it's the right thing to do. First, though, you have to be sure that it's the right choice by seeing if the tell-tale signs apply to you. So what are some of the signs- 1)Consider if there's something you have been reluctant to accept about your partner. 2)Think about your own issues. You may discover that you want to break up because you don't want to face certain issues in yourself, like insecurity or fear of abandonment, but they are sure to turn up in any relationship you're in. 3)See if you're only in the relationship because you don't want to hurt your partner's feelings. 4)See if you're just in the relationship because you're afraid of being alone. 5)Be willing to accept that maybe you're just not that into your partner anymore. Or, maybe they're just not all that into you.
May 31st, 2015 1:46pm
You know it's time when there is no longer any passion between you and your hearts no longer beat on the same frequency. Being with them is a tiring task and their cute habits no longer amuse you.
November 10th, 2015 8:18am
we know its time to break up when the relationship has taken up everything that you are made of....has changed you mentally.....when one is over powering the other and making out a totally new person.... we may never know in certain cases till it is pointed out by a third party....being who you are when you are with your person is the best thing ever ...loosing that will automatically lead to problems...... peace of mind is the only thing that can help a person deal life in any situation.... in life there can never actually be a break up... things will always remain a part of your life ...your priorities change .....thats life
January 13th, 2015 6:15am
It's time to break up with someone when you no longer feel comfortable being in a relationship with them.
February 17th, 2015 6:34pm
When you start thinking things like this. If you aren't happy in a relationship, it's better to just end it than let it drag you down. Try making things exciting again if you want to, but if that fails, it's better to just break up.
April 20th, 2015 10:49am
When you are more happy with your memories than the person in front of you.
May 16th, 2015 4:31pm
Remember that a healthy relationship has benefits to both partners! If you feel like the costs outweigh the benefits for you, you should consider whether this relationship is having a good impact on your mental/physical health. It's normal to have problems, disagreements, and to go through rough patches. But do you see a potential, realistic bright future? Do you have some common goals? Is your partner receptive to this future and goals? Ask yourself whether you and your partner can communicate efficiently; if this is not case, ask yourself whether it's possible to change that. If not, perhaps the relationship isn't very very viable. If your partner has a tendency to disregard your feelings and your thoughts, maybe the relationship isn't very viable. If you feel like there is a persistent tension between you that resists all attempts to fix it, then perhaps the relationship is doing more wrong than good. And finally, do you see yourself being in the present situation for one more year? Two, five, ten years? This can help you decide whether staying in a relationship is worth it or not.
May 16th, 2015 7:52pm
When all you ever think is about the painful things. When every time you look at him, all you feel is pain. When everything isn't the way it used to be for you anymore.
May 17th, 2015 3:09pm
This is a very relative question which has not eact answer. The best thing to do is to analyze whatever happened that made you think like this in the first place and discuss what you're going through with your partner or with someone close to you.
June 4th, 2015 7:04am
I think there are certain signs that sort of hints that a break up is very much needed. The pros and cons in a relationship can better help you make that decision. Ultimately its when you feel that this relationship is toxic rather than good.
June 17th, 2015 2:51am
It is time to break up with someone if they hurt you, annoy you to the point the might make you dread seeing them, when you don't like them anymore, when they make you uncomfortable, and you don't feel safe, and when you feel it is the right time to break up.
June 18th, 2015 1:12pm
When you feel you would be better off without them, and can imagine a future without them in it with you.
June 30th, 2015 1:50am
When they physically and/or mentally abuse you. Trust your instincts and do not be afraid to be independent
July 6th, 2015 7:25am
When your not happy. When you feel the relationship has gone left. When nothing is the same anymore if he hits you. Or if he or she cheats.
July 20th, 2015 9:11am
When you are not happy with that person anymore or vise versa. When you can't make each other happy.
August 31st, 2015 2:42pm
Parting ways with your partner is almost always difficult especially when both of you have shared so many memories together [both good and bad] and it is not in you to be the first one to walk away from relationships because you care enough not to hurt someone else. Before anything else, be sure that it is what really wanted to do. When there are hesitations, consider thinking about it some more before deciding to part ways with your partner but you will know when it is time for you and your partner to go on separate ways when: [1] You and your partner no longer connect with each other in a deeper and more intimate level (this meant that both of you are no longer on the same page with regard to your values, beliefs and priorities in life). [2] You and your partner no longer try to work together as a team to make the relationship last (this means that one (or both) of you no longer care enough to resolve any conflicts that emerges in your relationship). There are other ways to tell but this is usually the most common reasons. Please remember that it is never good to go on separate ways when It is due to your emotions (meaning you just feel that you don't love that person anymore). Emotions are always on the spur of the moment. Perhaps you feel that there's something missing in the relationship and because of that you'll want to end it without even trying to resolve it together with your partner first to see what else could be done to make your relationship work. It is good to remember this: "Never let the sun go down on your anger [Ephesians 4:26]" or to put it simply, never let any conflicts go unresolved at the end of the day. Try to resolve it together first before anything else.
September 7th, 2015 2:41am
When he start to ignoring you and never consider your feeling anymore. When both of you always fight over a small matter . When you don't feel anything toward him
November 23rd, 2015 5:38am
Honestly, you never know, it's like your mind comes up with these excuses that account for them hurting you or the relationship being the way it is. So I knew I had to break up my ex when I started questioning my feelings and thoughts. Also, that's when I began looking for something beyond the relationship. It's such a dilemma but if you are young(I am not it is okay to break hearts) but it is okay to break up if the relationship no longer makes you happy or helps you grow as a person. I would say cultivate friendships instead because that is the foundation for any good relationship.
January 25th, 2016 4:41pm
When you are in love with your memories more than the person who stand in front of you. That's when you know you have to walk away.