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How long does it take to get over someone?

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Last Updated: 04/17/2021 at 9:03pm
How long does it take to get over someone?
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BrightSoul87
December 26th, 2015 6:28pm
It's often said that time heals all manner of wounds. Give it time and in time's own time you will get over the person without even realizing it.
Geeber
December 26th, 2015 11:54pm
Tough question to answer... Just one day at a time... Be strong and the days get less.. Focus on you
goldfinch25
December 27th, 2015 6:23am
However long it takes until you stop thinking about that person during the day and during the night. It'll take some time but you'll get there. Everyone can move on, it's just a matter of determination.
kindheartedComfort30
December 27th, 2015 8:42am
Take as long as you need , especially if you truly loved them . It's gonna take a while but be patient and now it will get better
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 1:33pm
You cannot give an exact answer for that because it depends on the individual on how hard he/she fell for that person and how he/she values him/her.
Selena498
December 27th, 2015 3:38pm
It can take a long time to get over someone, and the important thing is not to measure this time in days, weeks or months, but in terms of your progress in healing, and ensuring that you love yourself, and continue looking forward to the future. Breaking up with someone is a grieving process, and it is important to take the time that you need, while never forgetting that there are other people in your life, and that only by looking forward and embracing life can you fully get over anyone, and build a successful and positive future. Getting over does not mean forgetting someone, and it might not even mean not loving someone, but learning how not to be 'in love' with someone, day to day, is crucial, and can take as long as it takes. X
generousTouch42
December 27th, 2015 6:28pm
As long as you are convinced that you do not have feelings for for the person. We are all different
Baleighbugg
December 27th, 2015 6:51pm
This is something that is different for each person. It can be a few days, or a few years. There is not one answer. I would say, take as much time as you need, and if reach out to someone if you feel like you can't handle the situation on your own.
radiantFlute19
December 27th, 2015 10:56pm
It all depends on you. You have to take baby steps. It depends on how long you were with that person, why it ended, and many more factors are involved.
TimoneandPumba
December 30th, 2015 1:23am
It varies for everyone, but it's when you can see that person's facebook/snapchat/whatever and see that even if they're smiling without you, you only wish them the best. You have no unease in your heart, and you feel nothing but peace :) It'll come, even if it doesn't seem like it does now I promise.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 4:22am
There is No scientific answer to this question because it depends on who you are. for example if you were with someone for 5 years and it ended and you truly loved them it would take you months maybe years to get over them or you may never get over them. Then there is the players that are like damn i got dumped oh hey there is a hottie over there lets go score one. then there the people who only take awhile because they understand that the person is no longer loving them and wants to move on and they have accepted it.
CT95
December 30th, 2015 5:08am
It depends on who you are? It can take forever it seems like or only a few weeks. It varies from person to person
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 7:11am
The time it takes to get over someone is equivalent to the time they realize that they're okay without them, the time that they realize they're a beautiful person even if they don't have someone to tell them that everyday.
DragonEye
December 30th, 2015 7:21am
Loss is an important part of life. We will often feel grief when we lose someone to death or just in general, which will happen in life as people are ever-changing. When you ask how long does it take, I can't answer you. Some people may want to rush you, but its important to take as long as you need to grieve over someone. As everyone is different, it could be a long time or a number of weeks, depending. I hope this helps. :)
highopes
December 30th, 2015 11:30am
there is no specifique time to get over someone you simply try your best and hope that you'll forget about ur ex soon
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 12:27pm
There is no specific time of when you get over someone. It's really up to you. You have complete control over your emotions. You can try doing activities like reading, sports, hanging with friends, etc. To speed up the process of not thinking about it. Just stay strong and know that time helps heal.
mnssth
December 30th, 2015 3:30pm
As long as it takes to appreciate yourself, it's that simple! No one deserves to take away your joy and happiness, that's yours alone to cherish.
Cosmiclover01
December 30th, 2015 3:36pm
There is no appropriate time span. Everyone and every individual relationship is different. Although, the saying goes, "time heals all", it might not, it just becomes easier as time progresses to handle and deal with getting over a person. It could take from days, to months, and even years.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:46pm
Its different for everybody, some are quicker than others it just depends on you and how the relationship was.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 7:52pm
Based on personal experience if that person means a lot to you. Not forgetting the sweet memories 2 years
WhisperingPiano
December 30th, 2015 10:22pm
Everyone is different. Everyone's relationships are different so there is no real answer. It could take some time. The best thing to do is focus on yourself. Believe in yourself and know that with each passing day, it will get a little bit better.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 12:20am
For me it takes about 3 weeks to one month because after a period of time, I realize I'm single and it's time for me to start searching for a lover again
Guru667New
December 31st, 2015 7:06am
It Can Take For ever , But if you meet someone new who is a nice person and you start having feelings for this person then it helps to get over the other person .
Swifting
December 31st, 2015 7:30am
There is no playbook on how to get over someone. There is no magic spell or cure for a broken heart. Some people eat ice cream and watch sad movies. Some people go out and find someone else to make a connection with. Getting over someone takes time and no amount is ever the right and no amount is ever wrong.
salomons
December 31st, 2015 8:54am
As long as it takes. There is no special space of time. It simply depends on too many factors. Just focus on what you want right now, sont look back.
mirrorwriting
December 31st, 2015 4:38pm
It's impossible to estimate. What is important is to take time - everything should happen in your own pace. Don't rush, just be honest with yourself!
Weallarebeautiful
December 31st, 2015 5:59pm
It usually takes me.. about a year. But it all depends on how much you cared for that person and what place they we're at in your life.
Bernas
January 1st, 2016 3:04am
For me? Two months or maybe three. You doesnt just forget when you want. Let the power of time work. and... buddie, it works. Believ me!
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 3:38am
It depends on how serious the relationship is and how much you loved the person. The amount of time varies.
SUDSAG
January 1st, 2016 7:49pm
if you are in true love you can neve get over it.. or else even min is enough to get over any one