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How long does it take to get over someone?

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How long does it take to get over someone?
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Top Rated Answers
vinilovesyou
September 20th, 2014 1:06am
It depends on how you feel about the person and the relationship, there is no set time for everyone to get over a person.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 7:44pm
There is no time limit on it. Don't feel bad because you feel you are hung up on them still. Take your time to cope with it.
Imad23
November 7th, 2014 4:48am
It depends on the individual. If you really want to move on, you will. Your'e responsible for your own happiness
al4
September 30th, 2014 10:15am
It depends on the desire to get over someone. It can be done immediately or may take some time. It also depends on the importance of the person and what made you want to get over them.
DarinF
October 23rd, 2014 8:36am
I think its different for each and everyone, because we go through different kind of relationships with different kind of people. For me personally, i think it will be faster to get over someone if i understand the reasons behind the break up and learn things from it to make me a better person.
smileforawhile
November 4th, 2014 8:54pm
The amount of time it takes to get over someone is definitely a personal thing and depends on the person. Some people get over people quickly, while others need a long healing period.
Mayaisthename
November 15th, 2014 5:17pm
It really depends on the relationship you had with that person, but you should let yourself move on
Anggi
July 4th, 2015 12:11pm
It varies depends on how much you like or love your ex or your crush, sometimes it takes no longer that a few weeks and other times months.
Lovewaves
July 5th, 2015 11:27pm
It depends on the person, it can be hard, but you have the power inside to become a better person from it whenever you are ready! :)
ImperfectlyPerfect
November 13th, 2014 9:31am
It depends from person to person. Some people are fine a few days later,whereas others take as long as years.
katherinegracee
August 5th, 2015 9:17am
'Getting over' someone is 'letting go' of someone. and letting go...it takes as long as you hold on.
anansiBoy
February 3rd, 2016 4:53pm
Sometimes you don't. But that's okay. Some people were meant to be exceptions in our life for one reason or another. After some time, if you trust yourself to get better, you'll accept that what's done is done, and everything that could have been done has been realized. Take what you can from all of it, because all your tomorrows need every single one of your yesterdays in order to be better than today- no matter how bad our yesterdays have been.
tulip560
February 24th, 2016 2:09am
i would say, that it depends. it depends on how much you liked this person. in the case of love, it literally takes forever. also, we all have different definitions of "getting over someone". sometimes it might be trying to forget the person completely. in this case, you never forget someone you liked or loved. getting over someone, could also mean "moving on no matter what". this does not mean you forget the person, it only means that life goes on. how long it take for you to move on? well, that depends on you. you have to want to move on and you have to try. once you start trying to move on, it becomes easier to get over someone.
Anonymous
March 6th, 2016 2:43pm
I've heard people say it takes half the amount of time you were together. So 6 months to get over a 1 year long relationship. But this is all relative and time seems to go by differently for everyone. Do not worry about how little time it may take or how long it may take. It is painful on different levels for everybody, but we must remember this isn't abnormal. Relationships are a part of life for many people. We must remember that a past relationship was a time in our lives and our lives continue to move forward. We must tell ourselves that this doesn't define us. Whether they broke up with you or you broke up with them, life is not stagnant. These events occurred for reasons and remember that you are strong enough to get through this. You are not alone if you ever feel like you aren't strong enough. And you are not unlovable.
SaraC13
October 31st, 2014 1:52pm
There is no time limit. Everyone is different because every relationship is different. Some people talk a week others a year.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2015 3:44am
It depends on how attached you are/were to them, and how long you were together. But if you've already broken up, than inside, you're already over them.
Harry53
October 22nd, 2014 2:01pm
The time it takes to get over the loss of someone you love depends on a number of factors and can't be predicted, nevertheless, it's important to realize that the feelings you are experiencing will eventually fade and you will be able to move on with your life and form new, loving relationships.
nuuuris
November 2nd, 2014 3:38pm
It depends on how much time did you expend with that person and how much did you love them and what was your situation. Sometimes it can take little time, but sometimes it takes so much time, it all depends.
EmilyH
November 3rd, 2014 3:18pm
I depends from the person and from the situation. If the relationship has been serious and long, or if there just were a lot of feelings then the getting over-process can take some time. It doesn't matter how long it will take, the most important part is that you'll get over the person on a way that you're able to move on in your life!
Anonymous
November 19th, 2014 6:04am
There is not definite time limit. "Getting over someone" depends on you and whether or not your a willing to move forward with your life. If not, then you will sit in slump and continue to feel upset. Whenever you are ready to head in a more positive direction, then you will.
PaperHearts8
July 26th, 2015 12:13pm
For me personally, it takes around the same amount of time me and the person were together. I took about a year to get completely over a one year relationship (no more sadness and triggers), and it's been a year but i'm still not over a 3 years relationship.
kittykat
August 13th, 2015 4:57pm
A lot of that depends on the strength of the bond you had and the length of time you were together. Whether you're grieving a romantic relationship, friendship, or familial relationship, the time to get over it will lengthen depending on these factors. Over time it will get easier to deal with the feelings of loss and sadness. And if at any point you feel as though you want to hurt yourself over the feelings, or you feel as though your mental health isn't improving, it's best to reach out to a professional.
MontyMaverick41
January 13th, 2016 4:35am
The answer to this question is relative really. It differs from person to person. And, it depends on what you both had between you. Some just take days and some take lifetimes.
joyfulPower15
January 29th, 2016 7:58am
Depends on our capacity to list out the flaws about the relationshi we have with that person and get over the person
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 12:07pm
There is no set time, when you're over someone you know it and you can feel it in yourself. It's not based on time, but experiences.
AllSmiles1234
August 16th, 2016 10:10pm
However long it takes for you to realize that you don't need that person in your life to be happy. You can create your own happiness!
Anonymous
November 20th, 2014 6:26pm
Depends on the person, really.......................................................................
tranquilBeauty34
March 9th, 2015 7:59pm
Everyone is different, and for some it may time more time than others. It depends on how serious the realtionship may have been and how much you cared for the person. Nevertheless, if you have an open heart and mind, and allow yourself to move on, it'll only a matter of time.
adoredPerspective54
July 2nd, 2015 3:47pm
The answer for this is dependent on you...how much good you can squeeze out from a particular situation and how much grateful you can be, for a situation, shall indirectly lead you to your solution..
AbnegationLeader0513
July 3rd, 2015 6:18am
Truthfully I feel you never truly "get over" someone you once loved because when you truly love someone you give them apiece of your heart. When a piece of your heart is given one never gets it back, the person who gave the piece quite truthfully will never be whole again. Sometimes we can go from relationship to relationship wanting what we had before. Wanting that single piece of our heart back in our possession once again. I think when a person "gets over" an ex we are simply coming to the understanding that we will never feel that Same love again.