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How long does it take to get over someone?

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How long does it take to get over someone?
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Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 10:42pm
Sometimes you don't get over them completely, sometimes the person who is no longer in your life will always be a part of you, but you can learn to grow and move on and eventually that person takes up smaller and smaller amounts of your head space, but they do remain, maybe as a reminder, maybe as a motivator. There is no time limit to growth, you have to accept that everyone moves on and heals at their own pace, but I can promise that one day you will go a whole day without thinking about them...and that's when you know you're ready to move on.
GermanZebraCupcake
June 26th, 2015 7:54am
Break-ups are, from a brain chemical stand-point, like death. We grieve the loss of this person in our lives. It can take a day, a month, or 10 years. Just listen to yourself. :)
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 11:56am
It depends babe. But please do take as long as you need to start over again. It ain't easy but you'll be able to. Slowly, but surely. :)
niceMermaid44
June 26th, 2015 2:38pm
there’s a widely accepted way to figure it out: divide the duration of your relationship by two. By that point, your friends and favorite women’s magazines will tell you, you will be OK — whatever that means.
IntelligentZebra198
June 26th, 2015 8:05pm
There is no set minimum to get over a meaningful relationship. It takes time and effort to learn from the relationship and grow. In many cases you never stop loving the other person, but you learn to live your life for you over time.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 11:49pm
Everybody is different. A process like that cannot be rushed, take as long as you need. Time to focus on yourself is always acceptable
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 10:06am
However long you want it to take. You decide what you do to get over someone and how you act upon it
compassionatePalm07
June 27th, 2015 2:09pm
it depends from person to person and I feel usually if you were in too much love with someone you would not get completely over them. Their memories are going to be there once in a while but you will get comfortable or you will accept the fact that now they no more belong to you and you would be ready to find someone else who is a better fit for you. getting over someone needs a lot of determination and understanding that missing is a part of moving on, it does not mean you need them. If we loose anything in our life no matter how small or big it is we cry for it, miss it and then we are fie we find a new alternative. Same goes for this.
thesecretkeeper1115
June 27th, 2015 4:08pm
Getting over someone has no exact number of years and days. We cannot completely erase the person's existence especially if he or she has made an impact on our lives. How about instead of thinking about the years of getting over him, you can think on moving on with your life. Let his or her memory stay, it will detach itself in time.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 7:20pm
There is no end-all-be-all value. When you feel that you're over someone, you're over the person. It just depends on you and what you're okay with
realisticsolutions2
June 28th, 2015 3:53am
it depends on the person u wanna forget there are people who u can forget in a moment and people u can forget after a week and people what ever u do u cant forget but u can get over them by being with someone else
Bombjackking
June 28th, 2015 10:08am
Time heals eventually, how long that to stakes is down to you. A positive approach to all things helps restore the balance. Negativity can be the easier option in the short term but in reality it only allows the mind to linger in the past. In my experience changing aspects of your life can allow a person to meet new people and descends experiences. There is no set length of time.
paul1982
June 28th, 2015 2:36pm
There is no set time limit for when you should start to get over someone and when the process should be complete. It depends on the strength of your feelings, your love for the person, your support network and the amount of activities you performed with this person. If you did everything together then it may require a complete reconstruction of your social network to obliterate any memories of them. If the two of you were very independent and did your own thing a lot of the time then the time taken to get over this person will probably be a lot shorter.
alfonsojon1997
June 28th, 2015 5:46pm
It takes as long as you need. Everyone is different, and everyone feels differently about moving on from a loved one. Emotions don't disappear overnight, and it all depends on how you feel about the situation. No matter what anyone says, don't force yourself to move on, as it might just hurt more. You're the best expert on yourself, and you'll know when the time has come when you're ready to move on :)
AcornCactus
June 28th, 2015 9:45pm
Depends on how long you've been dating them. The three month rule is standard, but some relationhips may even take years to get over. The important thing to realize is that you are still worthy of love and surround yourself with friends who care/family. Don't get into another relationship before that, because that might be rebound whatever you tell yourself and you'll constantly be comparing them
coolgirl69
July 1st, 2015 2:03am
depends on how much you guys were in love, if it was over 6 months, its gonna be a while kid otherwise you'll be okay both ways
TheAnonymousHelp
July 1st, 2015 6:48am
it takes as much time as needed no one person is the same and honestly everyone's attachment is different but time heals all wounds
AnxiousKitten
July 1st, 2015 11:08am
That all depends on how much you invested into the person emotionally and whole-heartedly. It could be anywhere from one hour, one day, one week, one month, and even a whole year. Everyone takes their own time to heal.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2015 7:44pm
Forty five days or lesser. If you are still brooding over them, after 45 days, you are neglecting your own self respect and clinging on to a memory afraid to let go
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 12:34am
That is something that your Own self can say. Each person is different in there ways. It can take up to 2 week or even longer. Its mainly how in love you are with that person and the reason you broke up
kashu510
July 2nd, 2015 2:15am
Getting over someone varies depending on the person. For me, it depends on how invested I was in the person and how much that person meant to me.
blackmagic
July 2nd, 2015 8:57pm
I think it will take each individual a different period of time to get over someone. It also depends how close and emotionally attached you were
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 1:57pm
It depends really. It depends on how much this person meant to you, how long you were together for, things you did together, places you went. Sometimes it can take a night, sometimes it can take months. If it was a fairly long relationship, or you spent a lot of time together, it'll hurt like hell and it'll seem impossible to get over them, your every move will bring back a memory of them. But it's not impossible to get over someone, you just endure missing them until one day you wake up and you don't.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 5:33pm
There are so many articles published on this that can be found on google.. but I don't think that there is a guaranteed time. I feel like there are so many factors that go into getting over a person. One factor being how the relationship ended. I think that if the end comes with closure and has all the loose ends tied up that getting over the person will take only a small amount of time. The "unanswered questions" are what seem to drag out the process.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 10:26pm
It depends on many factors. It depends on you as a person and how strong you are. It depends on how close this person is to you. It depends on how this relationship ended . And so many other things. But in most cases, it should not take more than a couple of months. But it might take years in some cases if it was the death of a very close person , or if it was a person you truly loved and spend most of your time with. For me , I personally do not think you should try too hard to get over someone. Trying too hard to get over him/her will only make you think about him more. I believe Time is enough for us to get over someone. Unless , of course, you think it is affecting your life. If you're having problems with getting over this someone that are affecting your life and your relationships with others then you should consider professional help.
Stainedglass
July 4th, 2015 2:34pm
It's different for everyone, for me i got over my last ex in around 3 months, but other friends of mine have taken a few weeks to closer to a year. It gets better each day though :) you can be strong!
ItIsANewDay
July 4th, 2015 4:35pm
It depends on a preson and for how long ralationship lasted and how intense it were. But I am sure it takes a while if feelings you felt towards that person were strong.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 7:11pm
As long as you have your mind set to, if you don't want you to get over them than you won't, it all works in the mind.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 2:26am
Every person is different, some people can take days while for others it can take a year. It's not about how fast others heal it's more about what steps you take and when you're ready to take them in order to move on.
car18gc
July 5th, 2015 5:17am
depends on how hurt you are, and if hurt isn't how you feel, then I would think it's at least 7 months