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How long does it take to get over someone?

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Last Updated: 03/23/2022 at 10:16pm
How long does it take to get over someone?
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Anonymous
July 31st, 2015 4:33pm
Getting over someone is a choice. It depends on when you are ready to move on and decide to actually let go.
LightACandle
August 1st, 2015 1:11am
It depends on the person and the relationship. For some people, they can move on faster when they have something they are passionate about to work on. For some, they can faster by making peace with themselves. And it might be easier to get over the loss of an acquaintance than of a family member. Just remember that just because it takes time, it does not mean we are forever doomed with the grief.
scarlet25
August 1st, 2015 4:30pm
it depends on person to person, relationship to relationship. Some times relationships are short and casual and do't hurt as much as the serious one's do. The moment you are able to realise what happened and come in terms with it, is the moment you are ready to move on.
samanthaBlowers909j
August 1st, 2015 11:32pm
It depends who that person is, if its someone who you deeply cared about, then it will take a while. But you never truly get over them, they just become a happy memory.
kindBubbles59
August 2nd, 2015 1:28am
It can be different for each person I was in a relationship 7 years it took over a year before I started dating..u was in a relationship 5 years it took a year and 3 months after the divorce before I started dating I believe if you find the right person to help you out of your she'll or dis appointment that can help
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2015 11:26pm
it honestly varies with every ones story and why they broke up with them in the first place
Joshie
August 4th, 2015 3:28pm
Getting over somebody is never easy. Ultimately, if you're determined to move forward then you'll be able to. As long as you remind yourself that, despite good times, the person may no longer be good for you and thinking about them is counterproductive; you'll get over them. Remember that you'll know what and who's best for yourself, despite the determination we sometimes have to ignore that instinct. Plenty more fish in the sea, platonically or otherwise!
ahistoryimake
August 5th, 2015 8:35pm
I heard a quote once, on a TV show and it has personally stuck true to me. "It takes half the total time you went out with someone to get over them." ..... but to answer this with true heart, there is NO answer to this question. Everybody gets over "someone" different due to different circumstances.... the main question you should ask yourself is, "How long does it take to become me again?" How long until you can discover what makes you happy and move on with your life as you should. Hold your chin up high =]
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 11:27pm
If you break any contact,it will get easier.it depends from person to person.do not go on a bunch of dates,turn to alcohol,or do crazy things to get over that person..or you will end up feeling worse and it will take longer to heal in the long run.
Helpfulsoul92
August 6th, 2015 11:57pm
There is no time limit to how long it takes to get over someone as everyone is different. Some people will get over their partner in a matter of weeks other it can take several years. Depending on the connection tou have with someone e.g. with a first love, that connection may be broken but it will always be with you :)
Anonymous
August 7th, 2015 3:07am
We are all unique individuals; that being said, we can't put an expiration date on our feelings. It depends on where we are in our lives, our relationship to the person we want to get over, and how strong our emotions for them were. It can take as little as a month or several years. Any amount of time is normal. Don't put pressure on yourself to forget someone, you will only think of them more.
Jenniferroseh98
August 7th, 2015 6:10pm
This all depends on what kind of person you are and how depended you were in the relationship. If you are just lounging around doing nothing you will be focusing on the pain and it could take many years to get over that someone. Find something new to depend on! The easier it will be for you then.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2015 11:17pm
It depends how deep you were in the relationship. If you were completely in love with them, then it may take a while. It varies.
Christe515
August 8th, 2015 3:52am
Everyone is different there is no set time. You really just have to look in yourself, take some time for just you. And reflect on what you really want in life, and before you know it you'll move on
Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 2:47pm
It may take a bit of time. Doing things that can keep your mind off of the person can be a good thing.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 3:54am
I personally really believe that it takes just half the time to conquer the getting over an ex just half the time you met.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 10:10pm
everyone is different but by experience it usually takes a month it may seem alot but trust me it isnt
5thousandmiles
August 9th, 2015 11:49pm
It's different for everyone, and it depends on a lot of factors such as how long you've been together, and what you two have went through in the course of the relationship. Don't rush the process, allow yourself time to heal, and eventually you'll realize you've moved on :)
HumIlityTurnsMenToAngels
August 12th, 2015 4:26am
That question can have multiple answers, From you never will, that person will always be on your mind, to as soon as it happens
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 8:08am
The time is takes to get over someone can and will vary based on a lot of different variables. When going through a break-up it's incredibly important that you don't focus on getting over the break-up and simply focus on yourself and what you're doing. Take the time to rediscover yourself and you'll find that a break-up is a lot simpler to get over.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2015 12:24am
It depends how long it takes. It can take weeks, months, years, anytime! It doesn't have to happen overnight!
willxhelp
August 13th, 2015 12:45pm
Depends if you are outgoing and surrounded by supporting people you will move on so fast just try to find someone else who is better and can make you forget the other one.
livsue
August 13th, 2015 7:59pm
I think there's no time period that's universal. Getting over someone takes as long as your heart needs. I think loving yourself speeds up the process though. The more you love yourself, the more you get over someone else.
Rocky0865
August 14th, 2015 12:44pm
Some people get over others in a short time, others never get over them fully but it does become manageable and you feel able to move on eventually
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 11:14pm
The pivotal point in getting over a past significant other is rebuilding your own confidence and security. To fill the gap that another person left, you must work from within on feeling good about yourself. Recognize the break up as sad, unfortunate even, but realize that it's a tool you can use to strengthen yourself as a person. Getting over someone takes as long as it takes for you to do this.
Anonymous
August 15th, 2015 12:56am
Every person differs and goes through various stages of a breakup at different rates. The loss of someone you love can invoke feelings of anger for a period of time and then you may find yourself accepting of the breakup at other times periodically. Really depends on you and how you deal with each stage.
0LovelyHaven0
August 15th, 2015 8:35am
If you're still to be asking yourself of when you have gotten over someone; you haven't yet. Although you can take as much time as you need, there's no initial rush to start a new chapter although it can be good for you. It's whenever you can get over someone, you will.
tessamichelle
August 16th, 2015 3:28am
that all depends on how long you are willing to take for yourself to properly move on. Everyone and their emotions are different!
EnigmaticRebel
August 17th, 2015 11:54pm
It depends really. I have gotten over exes In as little as a few days in the past, but I didn't have strong feelings for them. When I did have strong feelings I was a mess for weeks and sometimes months lol. I guess it varies by case more than anything else.
Anonymous
August 31st, 2015 1:37pm
It depends on the relationship. It can take up to a few months. Or only a few days. Like I said it depends on the relationship.