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How long does it take to get over someone who cheated on you?

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How long does it take to get over someone who cheated on you?
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Top Rated Answers
dancingPillow85
March 31st, 2016 11:18pm
Depends on many things. It's an individual thing. Some may heal faster than others. It is okay to care about it for a long time, because it's something that have hurt you
SenpaiXD
April 7th, 2016 6:55am
Varies on different people, level of commitment and how long the relationship last. Usually it'll take more than months sometimes years to get over the fact.
Anonymous
May 13th, 2016 9:40am
depends on you , how long do you keep him/ her in your mind . it all depends on you because he/ she has already left you after cheating you , but its up to you for how long do you keep that guy / girl alive in your memories.
nuuuris
May 20th, 2016 8:44am
Going on from a cheating isn't easy. I reckon that it can't be mesured, it depends on many factors such as how many time you have been together, how was your relationship, the feelings you had for each other... anyway you have all our support to go on from this. We will help you as much as we can! You are really strong and you don't need someone to be happy if you love yourself! good luck dear and if you need anything please let me know 💞
queenofspaids
June 18th, 2016 1:23am
There is no set time. It honestly depends on the person, but the main idea is to focus on loving yourself again because you have been taken advantage of emotionally. Cheating hurts and it can take a while to get over, but it is not impossible and the main idea is to remember that not everyone cheats, and take it as a learning experience.
Anonymous
June 29th, 2016 2:58am
It depends on the person. Some people find it really easy to get over the toxic person, while others find themselves still attached. You just have to know that you are better than the situation that that person put you in.
BaseballGuy
July 1st, 2016 5:52am
Personal experience it takes a while especially if you put every bit of love you had with that one person.
Edenine
July 24th, 2016 12:45pm
However long it takes, as it depends on the individual. The deeper the love, the deeper the hole carved in the heart. It could take only a second for some, it could take a lifetime for others.
SoialWorkerAllan
March 24th, 2016 2:19am
Depending on how much you loved them or known them for. Every person is different. There is no length of time that is average
afriendlystranger
March 24th, 2016 5:07am
This question depends on a lot of things, but most important is how into that person you were when they cheated on you. Cheating is a total violation of trust, so if you trusted and loved that person deeply, it could take anywhere from a few months to years. Everyone is different, so there is no "cut and dried" answer.
compasionateEagle
March 24th, 2016 1:03pm
Actually, for me: you never forget someone whom you loved, but time helps to ease the wounds When the time comes, and those wounds are completely healed, you may find someone who truly appreciates the great person you are
notnovember12
March 26th, 2016 9:34pm
Depends. You have to be willing to move on, get better, of course it will take some time, cheating really hurts, but stay positive, keep an open mind, and love yourself.
JelayMe
April 7th, 2016 7:45am
It could be a year or two or more. It actually depends on you and your journey. The more important thing is you take your time.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2016 5:48am
I'm going through this. Self esteem has a lot to do with it. Mine was/is low, so I thought more of him than me, so taking longer. Strong self esteem means you consider yourself and what's best for you so with it, you'll heal faster.
DipityEnigma
April 13th, 2016 12:28am
There is no set time for getting over someone whether or not they cheated on you. Time is a factor in most cases but it also depends upon the relationship and how it ended. It could take months to get over someone but even more so if you still have belongings that were once theirs, live near-by, see them in the street or if you have any images of the person. No one can give you an exact time frame but if you're going to get into another relationship, always make sure you're not filling a hole. Try not to get into another relationship until you're definite that you're over your previous as these can conflict your emotions you may have for the new potential partner.
FawkesCare12
May 14th, 2016 7:09am
It depends from person to person and also as to how much you cared for the person who has betrayed you.. If it's someone you really care about, had memorable times with and are really close to the person, then it might take a little while longer. It also depends on what steps we're taking to get over the incident. If we keep dwelling on it and thinking about how we've been cheated, then not only does it become healthy but also the lengthens the healing process. Therefore, the fastest way would probably be to accept that the incident has occurred and try to forgive the person and move on. Talking to the person as to why they might have done something like that can help not only in clearing any misunderstandings but will also allow you to get over it much more quickly. Hope you can get over it soon and return to being happy...
fallenshade
May 19th, 2016 8:40pm
It took me not that long to get over my ex -- I wasn't fully committed to the relationship anyways but it did hurt for a while. The best thing for me was to not dwell on it.
sue94lye
May 25th, 2016 7:07pm
As long as it takes for you to move on after realizing that you cannot forget...yes memories which cause pain to you..memories which hold you back...Will never go away...but a day would come when you will overcome it and let it be at the back of your mind..it'll nag but it's more like the sound of the fan in your room or the sound of the clicking of the clock ...you will see it..hear it ...feel it..only when you think about it..but it'll always be there ...it's upto you to push it to the back of your mind...accept the truth ..accept yourself...accept the real true beauty in you and move on...coz "who's got the right to stop you in finding your true happiness?"...
Sketcher24
May 27th, 2016 9:02pm
It doesn't really have to take a certain amount of time. As long as the person is truly sorry they can be gorgiven.
ank91
June 5th, 2016 4:02am
Technically it took 2 years for me to get over someone. It was difficult because we were in 4yr relationship. But it depends with person to person. I was not strong at that time and that may the reason for 2 years. Even after 2 years i have dreams but that doesn't bother me now. But in the end everything is going to be fine.. Remember one thing that "IT IS A MATTER OF TIME" . learn from your mistakes.
Anonymous
June 11th, 2016 7:20am
Don't set yourself a time limit. If someone cheated on you and you do not want to get over them. Don't focus on getting over them. Focus on yourself , whilst you're worrying about her/him. He probably is not worrying about you. You should focus on yourself. Do exercise, socialise with your friends more. Eat healthily. Learn to laugh and learn from your mistake. Realise that he/she was always going to cheat on you as it was part of the process as opposed to the whole journey. Imagine him cheating as a tunnel you've got to go through as part of the journey.
joyfulshoulder97
June 11th, 2016 10:43am
actually... it doesnt take much time....if you compare it to what the person who cheated on you goes through
poohbear1966
June 22nd, 2016 2:40am
Based on my exceperience its takes as long as you allow it to.I have been cheated on before and it is overwhilming but at the sametime I had a good friend take me out and show me what I have been missing.The world.
ListenerJake
July 9th, 2016 12:13am
I think it varies drastically from person to person, especially in terms of how long you two were together. If you can imagine yourself without that person and happy, then you're getting close to the end of the tunnel. Some things are for the best, especially in cases, like cheating as mentioned, where it's ended potentially hostile. Maybe a few months? Stay strong
simplisticmoon
July 16th, 2016 4:02am
A while. I believe that many people do not move on until they find someone to replace the person who hurt you.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2016 11:49am
Depends in the person, if you're strong, positive and hopeful you'll get over It much much sooner...
Anonymous
August 8th, 2016 9:18pm
Depends on what i expected.. i still love someone who never loved me back in my last 8 yrs but when i broke up last as he cheated i didnt miss him for even a second
Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 6:15am
It really depends on you for how long it takes, like how much did you like the person. how much have you told them. can you forgive them?
sunnycappuccino
March 25th, 2016 9:20am
Varies from person to person... healing the pain is important , forgiveness and letting go, as well as learning to trust again ... all these things are needed to really get over someone who cheated on you .
Anonymous
March 25th, 2016 10:03am
Until you learn to accept the truth that you and that someone are not meant for each other. That you will find someone else and fall in love again. And in the end, when you look back at this day, you will be proud that you realize it soon enough to let it go! So overall, you decide when is the time, could be right now or next few years