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How long does it take to get over someone who cheated on you?

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Last Updated: 07/10/2018 at 8:49pm
How long does it take to get over someone who cheated on you?
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Top Rated Answers
beautifulPresence20
April 15th, 2016 7:28pm
There isn't a simple easy way to get over someone.You just have to be strong and not always think about the good times.Sometimes it helps to understand that those good times may not even be true but lies and by doing that it gets a bit easier every day and eventually feelings for that person will fade away.
TnTdynomitetruth
April 23rd, 2016 1:57am
1 year all together. I think it took that long to realize my self worth after having been abused mentally and physically.
Ediz3333
April 27th, 2016 1:54pm
It varies for every person and all the conditions it happened under. Every human is different and we all react differently.
Anonymous
May 4th, 2016 2:51am
It takes the time that you need. You can make this process faster by meeting new people, and doing things that you like
KawaiiCandy
May 4th, 2016 3:32pm
It depends on you. It might take weeks or months. Maybe a year. But what's important is to overcome your problems and to love yourself.
UnrecklessJenner
May 5th, 2016 10:02am
It depends on the person. It takes 2-6 months. Some takes years to get over someone that has been cheated on you.
FrostySmiles39
May 5th, 2016 7:57pm
Well I really don't now that but I said it would take about a month. But I am not that sure but I'd say that you should search it up and get in a group of other girls like you and talk with them.
energizingNight53
May 5th, 2016 10:01pm
it took me few minutes because it was then I realized that the best friend whom i relied upon was wearing a mask all these days. I felt happy because I cut a fake person from my friends list but at the same time I couldn't understand why she had to fake with me all the while. That's when it clicked me that maybe I was having a lot of flaws.
Anonymous
May 6th, 2016 6:03pm
it take a times to get over such a kind of situation ...but just forgot about it and try to make a healthy relationship with everyone.
Angi3
May 7th, 2016 6:18am
It depends, how much did you love him/her? How long was your relationship? How bad did it hurt? Those are things you need to ask yourself.
InspirationalAdventurer
May 13th, 2016 6:50am
Sometimes it can only take a week, sometimes it can take a year. The truth is that there's no definite amount of time it takes to recover from something like that. Everyone is different. Just stick it out and know that it gets a lot better
deedee1909
May 13th, 2016 1:24pm
There is no definitive answer I'm afraid. I myself never got over it, but have drawn a valuable life lesson from the experience which has allowed me to succeed in my future relationships. At some point you will likely become paranoid, maybe even experience jealousy, but if you love your partner and they love you back, then your relationship will be built on honesty and respect for one another. Everyone is different. Some will carry the burden of a broken heart for life, some for a few years, and others will immediately make peace with what happened and move on. Either way, if you feel sad, unable to cope or are struggling, come and speak to one of 7 cups listeners!
sim1910
May 13th, 2016 8:07pm
It generally takes about one week to one year depending upon the emotional attachment you had with the person. Also the time spent and the effort you put in. But one just starts to live without them not exactly forget them altogether.
Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 6:25am
It varies from person to person. Make sure you don't push people away. Embrace your loved ones. That will definitely help the process along faster. Talk to someone. :)
NymphadoraTonks22
May 19th, 2016 2:03pm
To me it deppens from person to person. We are all different. Someone will never get over it. Someone will tolerate even the hardest things.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2016 8:18pm
Everyone is different, and each relationship is different. Sometimes it takes months, or even years. But finding things to keep yourself busy and happy is so important. Knowing that everything is gonna be okay always helps too.
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 2:07pm
I think this is a very personal thing. Each person is completely different. Some people never get over it, and others get over it quickly.
Aiban
May 27th, 2016 11:27pm
It's different for everyone. Sometimes it'll take weeks possibly even years. As long as you are actively taking steps to reflect and heal ,recovery is inevitable.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2016 11:43am
to me, it depends on how long we were together and how attached I was to that person. It'll take a while tho...
MsFitts
June 1st, 2016 4:02am
As long as it takes for the cheater to prove that you can trust them again, which may be never.....
Anonymous
June 2nd, 2016 9:49pm
It depends on the bond you have had with your partner. If you were really close to each other and you thought that he or she was your perfect partner than it will take you some time. You will not feel pain eventually for too long because it's quite impossible but you might still have thoughts of your ex partner. It make take a year for full recover.
LunaHaven
June 3rd, 2016 5:07am
It took me between 1-2 months. When I did, I pampered myself, found freedom, and my self-worth.
HelpingHand315
June 3rd, 2016 7:18pm
it differents from person to person. but you should deffenetly take your time, gettion over someone does not happen over night.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 11:37pm
From experience? I'm still healing. But don't take that as "never". I have a healthy relationship and someone I love. It just takes me a little more time to open up and give them my heart. Finding someone who will treat you like you deserve helps- and realizing YOU were never the problem, YOU are always enough, and it was they who really lost out- also helps!
PsychDreamer
June 16th, 2016 4:16am
It takes different amount of time for every person. I would let the naturally course run through. Let yourself cry and laugh. You will have ups and downs throughout the healing process. So roughly it can take from 3 months to a year depending on seriously the relationship was and how long it was.
GreySkye
June 17th, 2016 11:49pm
There is no specific time to get over something like that, it varies, and however long it takes is right for you. No one should feel they have to rush or extend the process of moving past betrayal, there aren't any rules for grief. Having said that, it's a good idea to try and work on letting go of anger and resentment, those negative emotions only hurt you in the long run. Whether you're staying with the person who cheated on you or not, don't rush yourself. Take the time YOU need.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2016 2:14pm
It varies. People heal from these moments at different paces. Take as much or as little time as you need to get over this person. It's definitely a harsh experience to get cheated on, but that person might have still been important to you and as much it might be harder or easier for you to get over them.
ListeningLight
June 30th, 2016 3:47pm
This depends on the individual. The time can vary greatly, however you shouldn't feel pressures to feel a certain way about anyone.
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 7:10pm
Till you see your ex with another partner. If you are not in touch then 6 months. But then if you are constantly in touch that might take forever.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2016 1:16pm
Depends on you. Maybe the person was good and made a mistake or maybe he/she was a jerk. Who knows. When you accept whatever happened and try to indulge in activities. Your life does not revolve around that person, you have many other things and people to be thankful for, give them time. Ad give yourself time.